The Mumsnet Code

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Friend popped around earlier unexpectedly, without giving me 3 weeks warning 😮

AND DC11 let them in 😱

What is the world coming to I ask you!
Does nobody adhere to “The Mumsnet Code” anymore?
Whatever next, will we be advising each other to Keep The Bastard?!

I despair, I really do…

What violations of TMC has occurred in your life recently?

@IcecreamhelpsNo I think it is appropriate actually. I have an ASD husband and one AuDHD kid. I struggle and adapt my life in ways that other people just simply wouldn’t understand.

And then Susan in accounts who’s never disciplined her kid in her entire life suddenly shouts her kid must be autistic when in actual fact she’s just feral.

Someone has to say it before everyone who’s an asshole blames it on being undiagnosed neurodivergent- when my actual ND family are not assholes.

@Strobbery , I find that it's my opinion/voice being ignored. Your friends and family won't be the ones ignoring you.

Oh don't get me started. 'Use my words' ....yes, otherwise known as speaking FFS. Can we just stop with the pompous word soup!

DH poos in our en suite with depressing regularity. And yet, I have never once considered LTB.

I'll hand my badge in at the front desk.

Right!? When I first joined MN, I saw this phrase everywhere and I still can’t work out whether people are being passive aggressive when they use it (since isn’t that what you say to kids?!).

Yes. It's right up there alongside 'My truth' (with accompanying hand pressed over your heart) and 'My lived experience'. People mistakenly believe it makes them sound more articulate and worthy. When in reality it makes them sound like a self aggrandizing twat.

The thread I saw weighed heavily on the loss of attractiveness side of supposed invisibility, though.

As for my voice not being heard outside my circle of familiars, well no, I have a life outside of them and still don't notice it.
I no longer work, but there are lots of meetings I have to go to about various, disparate things - some fun, some not; some optional, some not - and I never feel ignored or dismissed.

You're so right. And believe me I do understand.

I have a (now young adult) daughter with (properly diagnosed!) ASD and extreme OCD. It affected our lives so utterly and completely, and left me unable to work.

Funnily enough, despite everything my daughter isn't a mannerless wankshaft like those generally being "diagnosed" as autistic on here.

Well I…. Drumroll… haven’t RTFT. On purpose.

And Im also reporting it because there NO DIAGRAM.

Well, there might be, I don’t know because of point one above.

No eco-nonsense here. Toilets are bleached and bedding, towels and whites washed at 60 degrees (with accompanying slug of Vanish to keep them dazzling bright).

I never once restricted our DD's screen/phone time (both still got into grammar school and RG universities).

I've been a landlord and actually a rather nice one.

I still rather fancy DH and like some non diaried sex.

I drive an enormous Range Rover.

I wear bras more than once several times in fact before washing them.

I always pack for DH because otherwise he'd be dressed like a Space Clown on holiday.

I hated BFding DD1 so didn't even bother trying it with DD2. And they were both weaned on Hipp Organic jars.

I actively avoided taking our DDs to weddings, even if they were invited. They would have cramped my style.

I like all my neighbours, we even occasionally have drinks together.

I've seen The Sistine Chapel and it wasn't all that.

To be honest, I don't even know why the fuck I'm here?

@Arraminta i miss the 'funny', button.

Your post re the DH and your ensuite mirrors mine before I was ill.
He keeps out now, result.

I don't have car envy but sometimes I admit to lusting after a landy. All 18 mpg.

If I ever marry again I will shamelessly gold dig. Unless they have pots of money and shag like Casonova I'm not signing up for marital drudge.

I actually agree with @Strobbery. I'm 66 and I've never felt ignored in my life, by anyone.