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Teacher hugged me

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Gini87 · 07/07/2025 09:12

A few weeks ago parents were invited into school - primary. At the end of the session I was gathering some things together. There were still a few parents in the classroom chatting to teacher. As I was about to leave teacher came over to me and said she just wanted to say thank you for the lovely feedback I had written about her and how she’s really loved teaching DD. She then threw her arms around me and gave me a hug and said thank you and she will miss DD so much. I didn’t really think anything of it, but another school mum saw this and said she didn’t hug any of the other parents and then commented on how DD throughout the school year had been the 1st for everything. I’m ignoring, but just wondered if this was a bit OTT?!

OP posts:
Gowlett · 07/07/2025 09:15

Teachers have a special connection with some kids.
One of my DS teachers is very fond of him, if we see her outside of school, in our village, she always chats to us both.

DaisyChain505 · 07/07/2025 09:31

Sometimes teachers/childcare givers connect more with certain children. It’s not uncommon.

She may not get feed back from every parent as well so you’ve made her feel appreciated.

whitewineandsun · 07/07/2025 09:35

she just wanted to say thank you for the lovely feedback I had written about her and how she’s really loved teaching DD. She then threw her arms around me and gave me a hug and said thank you and she will miss DD so much.

She felt appreciated. Don't let other people make you overthink this.

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TourdeFrance2025 · 07/07/2025 09:35

Shock. She's human - fancy that?!

Number456 · 07/07/2025 09:48

Why would she hug every parent? She was saying something to you that she wasn’t saying to the other parents.

The fact that you didn’t think anything of it in the moment suggests that it was appropriate in that moment.

If some other parent sought me out to tell me that the teacher hadn’t hugged all of the parents I’d think that parent was a meddling weirdo who I would wish to avoid.

Catlitterproblemsmmm · 07/07/2025 09:49

Isn’t the fact that she likes your dd and hugged you… a good thing???

Blurrywateryeye · 07/07/2025 09:50

Not an issue. If you didn’t like then you should have used your words and told the teacher so.

RanyaJerodung · 07/07/2025 09:51

Bloody hell, some parents are toxic! Ignore them. It's all good.

usedtobeaylis · 07/07/2025 09:52

It sounds like she had a good relationship with your daughter and was just happy to be appreciated.

whitewineandsun · 07/07/2025 09:54

Number456 · 07/07/2025 09:48

Why would she hug every parent? She was saying something to you that she wasn’t saying to the other parents.

The fact that you didn’t think anything of it in the moment suggests that it was appropriate in that moment.

If some other parent sought me out to tell me that the teacher hadn’t hugged all of the parents I’d think that parent was a meddling weirdo who I would wish to avoid.

Exactly. All of this.

overweightteacher · 07/07/2025 09:58

I would suggest the person is jealous! As teachers, we spend a whole year with the children - we probably know them better than some friends and family- to get a heartfelt thank you is massive - better than any end of term presents as it comes from the heart. This teacher loves your daughter and appreciated your words - thank you for making her feel appreciated.

MrsSkylerWhite · 07/07/2025 10:02

Our son was moving on to another school and his male teacher gave me a peck on the cheek. Didn’t think anything of it.

As other posters have said, some teachers just form a connection with some children. Don’t overthink it.

sonoonetoldyoulifewasgonnabethisway · 07/07/2025 10:19

Had any of the other parents actually given her really good positive feedback? I think probably your daughter has been a dream to have in class and she is genuinely going to miss her and she appreciates your fantastic feedback.

Other parents are just jealous

Hoppinggreen · 07/07/2025 10:36

To be honest I wouldn't have liked it as I don't genrally like people touching me, I also think it was a bit unprofessional
However, I would have taken it in the spirit it was meant and been happy for the comments about my DD

CurlyKoalie · 07/07/2025 11:11

Hoppinggreen · 07/07/2025 10:36

To be honest I wouldn't have liked it as I don't genrally like people touching me, I also think it was a bit unprofessional
However, I would have taken it in the spirit it was meant and been happy for the comments about my DD

Agree. A bit unprofessional. But speaking as an old fogey I often find younger generations have no idea of personal space and fling their arms around relative strangers with abandon. I dont read anything into it but I don't really like it. Wouldn't view it as anything to make an issue of though. Other parent commenting just sounds jealous.

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Gini87 · 07/07/2025 12:30

I’m not. I didn’t think anything of it to be honest until this other parent said something. I wouldn’t say a younger teacher. She’s probably my age mid to late 40s.

I shall just give that parent a bit of a wideberth. I think sometimes you as a parent also click more with some teachers than others if that makes any sense. I didn’t really have much of an open rapport with some of DDs other teachers.

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BitOutOfPractice · 07/07/2025 12:32

Aww she sounds lovely and like your dd had a great year with her.

amyds2104 · 07/07/2025 13:08

I think the other parent speaking about your dd being first at things is the telling thing here. She is clearly jealous which is ridiculous that adults get jealous of children’s achievements. Ignore the other parent as much as possible because people who can turn hugs like this negative are clearly toxic.

Welshmonster · 07/07/2025 13:19

Did the other parent leave feedback for the teacher?

MaggieBsBoat · 07/07/2025 13:22

She’s human and wanted to hug you. Maybe unprofessional but nothing else. No thinking needed. Obviously your DD is one of the easy/good ones.

Jacobs4 · 07/07/2025 13:24

Gini87 · 07/07/2025 12:30

I’m not. I didn’t think anything of it to be honest until this other parent said something. I wouldn’t say a younger teacher. She’s probably my age mid to late 40s.

I shall just give that parent a bit of a wideberth. I think sometimes you as a parent also click more with some teachers than others if that makes any sense. I didn’t really have much of an open rapport with some of DDs other teachers.

The other parent was being snide. Other parent was having a dig trying to undermine a lovely moment. It’s called Envy, it seeks to destroy that which it doesn't have. You had a lovely moment! Happy for you.

SassyTurtle · 07/07/2025 13:24

Screams of jealousy. All she said was thank you for the feedback, she enjoyed teaching your DD and one hug? It's not like she was giving you money or trying to behave inappropriately. Ignore her OP.

southerngirl10 · 07/07/2025 13:26

Nice thing to do. Wouldn't even question it. Other parent should have smiled and been pleased for you and said, "well done to your child."

Hb7x3 · 07/07/2025 13:26

I'd just chuckle and walk away if another school mum said anything like that to me. Can't be doing with any of that nonsense.

WorcsEdu · 07/07/2025 13:35

Please do not let another parent successfully sour what was just a nice moment of human connection. We need to encourage positivity and passion in schools - not gossip it out of existence.

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