Teacher hugged me

[Gini87]

A few weeks ago parents were invited into school - primary. At the end of the session I was gathering some things together. There were still a few parents in the classroom chatting to teacher. As I was about to leave teacher came over to me and said she just wanted to say thank you for the lovely feedback I had written about her and how she’s really loved teaching DD. She then threw her arms around me and gave me a hug and said thank you and she will miss DD so much. I didn’t really think anything of it, but another school mum saw this and said she didn’t hug any of the other parents and then commented on how DD throughout the school year had been the 1st for everything. I’m ignoring, but just wondered if this was a bit OTT?!

maybe they are jealous of your daughter's achievements
ignore them - maybe teacher is just a lovely person

My vet has hugged me more than once. Nice people do these things; there isn't necessarily a sinister agenda.

She sounds grateful and she has a soft spot for your DD. Nothing wrong with that, maybe she is just the best kid in the class

IGNORE

She sounds like a lovely teacher !

What the...what is the lesbian comment all about?! 😂

Other mum is definitely jealous! If the apple hasn't fallen far from the tree then it's possible her child isn't the brightest or easiest to like. Well done OP for parenting a bright, pleasant child. Hope she continues to thrive throughout school and beyond. Virtual hug from me!

For the posters suggesting I’m making an issue out of it. I’m not. I didn’t give it a second thought until the other parent started saying things about it.

Poor teachers - they can’t win. Professional people are still human and sometimes show human emotion. Gratitude is a good thing!

I was once hugged by my doctor of many years at his consulting room door as we chatted on my departure - I’d been obviously delighted for him when he told me his daughter had won a scholarship to a specialist school for her subject. He said rather emotionally that no one else had seemed pleased for them and that they’d been so worried about her for a variety of reasons. Poor man I didn’t think any worse of him for it!

I don’t. See my posts! It’s another parent either the issue not me!

DD throughout the school year had been the 1st for everything

First for what? In the line in the morning?

Quite

Sounds like someone’s jealous. Easy to call favouritism but maybe their kid is “that kid” for all the wrong reasons and yours for all the right. Maybe you do all the reading and spellings with your child helping the teacher out and they don’t? You wrote a lovely comment and maybe they complained about their child never winning anything.

I’ve had teachers I couldn’t wait to get rid of and I’ve had teachers from reception and year 2 who I still go out for lunch with and go to each others house years down the line. Some people are your people and others just aren’t. As long as she’s doing her job the odd thank you hug to a parent isn’t anything to get upset about. Until she bends you over her desk I wouldn’t be concerned and the other mum should mind her own business 🤣 If she really wants a hug from the teacher maybe she should ask to give her a thank you hug for supporting her child over the last year 😂

She is a human with genuine human emotion. I bet she’s worried now about the hug too and your worries it was “too much”. What a sad world we live in eh?!

you gave some nice feedback and I bet your a lovely warm person and so is your child. Take it as a compliment and F*ck the other mum trying to take this nice moment away from you all.

God bless you! So glad you had support and love from your child’s school. That’s how it should be x

The teacher simply felt appreciated and wanted to thank you. You made her day I expect!

She's human, and you made her feel safe enough to express that. Good on both of you.

Some years ago I was diagnosed with a potential life limiting illness. I'd seen a particular registrar to get some results and to be sent for some tests. We seemed to get on well, given the circumstances.

The last time I saw her, she told me they thought I could have an operation with a view to a cure. But I needed one more test. The results would be given to me at a certain date. I commented that this was the day after my Mums birthday, and the day before mine. She said that in that case, she thought we would be lucky.

As ever, she asked how I felt. I said that under the circumstances, it was the best news I could imagine.

As I got up to go, she came over and have me a hug, which I can still feel 25 years later.

Sometimes a hug is all we need to give it to get.

Just take the hug for what it was, an expression of the teachers humanity.

School staff are humans and have feelings!

Sounds like the other parent is jealous she didn't get a hug. Ignore her, some are just negative nancys. DD's TA this year gave me a hug when I gave her an end of year gift, as did her TA last year.

I am a teacher I have hugged parents when they have been upset, had great news and the bad, I was hugged by a parent when I shared my pregnancy news and took my newborn into school. Some families I have known for 12 years. Some of the children I have known since they were babies (because of older siblings) Some families I have taught siblings groups of 4, cousin groups, etc.

I have picked children up from home when their car has broken down, I have let children into school early/stay later because parent has a hospital appointment, been in an ambulance with a child, done food shopping for a family isolating because they had COVID, visited specialist settings with a single parent (in my own time) who wanted some support - then cried (happy tears) with her when her DC was offered a place.

It takes a village. I am honoured and proud to be a part of that village for so many families.

You are lucky to have a teacher who is human. My DC’s teacher this year is very corporate. Hoping for someone more human for her this year 🤞🏼