What can I get myself for my birthday.

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Think everyone has forgotten it's my birthday soon. Also everyone is kind of skint. So fuck it i will treat myself 🤣 so what can I buy myself.

I will say no to:
Hair dressers, spa, alcohol. A night out. No make up type things

Some lovely cake/s, a new lego set and a large pot of tea.... perfect for me anyways 🤣

Your original post did heavily imply a pamper box wouldn’t be your sort of thing.

If it was me, I’d buy myself some art (wall prints that are still more than I’d normally be willing to pay) that I’ve had my eye on for a while. Or the expensive trainers I keep looking at.

I think going for a day trip, with lunch ,cake and I would find a lovely coffee shop for a tasty cake and special cup of coffee is a great idea.

A cake card. You can write something positive or a favourite memory for the year in it. It gets delivered with the message typed in with cake inside.

I did this for myself for the anniversary of my suicide attempt and will continue each year. Ive kept the "card" so ill have something to positively look back on.

Tattoo!!

Sounds lovely. I hope your in a better place now 💐

A hammock and a book.
A new outfit and/or shoes that go with it.
A fancy birthday cake
A meal in a nice pub or restaurant

You could get a hobby then - join a weekly class / group. Eg: Art, crochet, quilting, walking, yoga, dancing, tennis, horse riding, swimming, pottery, cookery, cake decorating, am dram society, language classes, church bell ringing, WI, U3A. Loads of possibilities out there- take a look in your local what’s on guides / newsagents or Post Office window to find out what classes and groups you have available locally. You’ll make new friends (who might celebrate your birthday with you!), learn new skills and have a birthday gift that will potentially keep on giving for months or years to come. Happy birthday btw!

Im really not a hobby person. I looked at crochet a couple of times. But I just can't do it. I tried looking at you tube video . Still pictures I cant even do a few basic stitches. I know it takes practice. But it doesn't set in my head at all

You just haven't found the right hobby, it's not just 'craft' things. There must be something that you like to do.

Lego?
Some paints, brushes and canvases?
Definitely do the shopping trip for trainers and have a nice lunch too.
Do you like walking, museums, galleries?

You could get a trial national art pass for £15 to get 3 months of free entry to museums, galleries and other places of interest like the Yorkshire Sculpture Park?

What do you want?

I always get my self a decent birthday present. It’s brilliant

Sunglasses? Upgrade your headphones?

I think i might do the tattoo suggestion . I had one years ago. Memory of my dad type one but it wasn't done very well . So I would like to get another one. I probably have to save up though. But still something to look forward to.

New sunglasses
New dress
New trainers
All three if I could afford them

and I like the sound of a day trip to Riga pp suggested. Is there anywhere you’d like to visit for a day or two?

Im going to do the tattoo suggestion. I cant cant away for a day or so . I would have to take the kids etc .

OP, I’m saying this with kindness, but you seem very negative and down, and not willing to try anything, a glass half empty type of person.

If this is how you are irl then it’s not surprising to hear that people around you aren’t going to be celebrating your birthday. If they did would their gifts be met with the same responses you’ve given here? Because that makes the giver feel like shit and their efforts unappreciated tbh, so why would they make an effort for you if that’s the likely outcome? To what I think are some fantastic suggestions to suit any age, gender, budget and tastes. I am going to be pinching some for myself.

I hope you can find a way to celebrate, because I’m sure you’re worth it and deserve it - but I’m not convinced you think you are - maybe gift yourself some self love?

I don't feel negative and down. Or feel glass half empty Some of theses things are just not me. I have said I will probably do the trainers thing and the tattoo.

If this is how you are irl then it’s not surprising to hear that people around you aren’t going to be celebrating your birthday. If they did would their gifts be met with the same responses you’ve given here? Because that makes the giver feel like shit and their efforts unappreciated tbh, so why would they make an effort for you if that’s the likely outcome? To what I think are some fantastic suggestions to suit any age, gender, budget and tastes. I am going to be pinching some for myself

I don't understand where all that came from. I have never been ungrateful for things my children have got me in the past. I did say to dd I was thinking about what I could do or get for my birthday to treat myself. And the response was oh yeah for my birthday as in her birthday. And she's been talking about her birthday constantly for the past 4 days . So I didn't want to make her feel preasured or sound silly by saying what about me. So since shes to tied up in her own birthday I thought I would just treat myself ds is under alot of pressure at work. Got several things to pay out for si I don't want him to feel preasure either. So it comes back to me treating myself.

If it was me I’d buy myself the most expensive car valet possible. The kind where they shampoo all the seats and seatbelts and wax the outside. Then I’d just lock myself into my clean car and hang out in there for a morning with a crossword and sudoku.

Your car will love you 😅 can you have your air con on whilst your not driving? You would melt if not.

Tattoo is a great idea, very special

For the day itself can you plan something nice with your kids? Even if they’re too small to plan it for you it might be nice to go everyone can have a fun time, with cake. Distract them from their own birthday buildup for 5 minutes (kids can be selfish blighters!)
Then home for a takeaway with some nice wine, or meet up with a friend for cocktails or mocktails.

My younger kids are at their dad's this weekend.

If adult ds is about me,him and teen dd could go for a pub lunch or something. If ds is not about then me and dd could get a take away maybe or maybe still do the pub lunch. I will have a think 🤔

What’s your budget? I bought myself a new iPhone last year and a new iPad this year. Also booked a facial, massage and reflexology.

Favourite food
something to treasure - jewellery/ornament photo frame etc
something practical - kitchen gadget you want
something luxurious - a treat you wouldn’t usually buy

This. Again. For the upteenth thread. And when you point this out OP will tell you you're wrong.

Book the day off work and go and visit your nearest town/city that you’ve never been to before.