No shoes in house people

[Newstartplease24]

if you are absolutist about this -

do you only entertain in loungewear? Have you nevwr had a dinner or a party at which people dressed up a bit, including shoes?

or do you expect people to wear frock, tights and bare feet?

I can’t wear light coloured socks to a couple of friends’ houses or they will end up looking like I’ve not washed them for a week. They use spray mops and it’s the reason I got rid of mine for a proper bucket mop! Socks that have been on those floors sticky floors 😟 come off at my front door with my shoes

I'm from a shoes off country. No problems about parties, etc ever arise, because everyone takes their shoes off by default, in any kind of situation. It's rare to host these kind of parties (glitzy dresses and all) in someone's home anyway, usually it's done in a restaurant/hired venue.

I don't get the angst about this. My home is shoes off, and if it's inconvenient for someone - they're perfectly entitled to decline an invitation.

Kitchen is laminated and we put down a carpet runner between kitchen and loo.
worked really well

@Megifer i had to get slightly verbally strong with someone insisting on taking shoes off to then walk through my corridor to then go outside and get here child from my garden.
She was trying to insist on taking them off which also meant more engagement with her rather than just in and out, off then on for garden then off for back in and probably for her dc also.

I felt like yelling

Keep your ruddy shoes on!!

My biggest gripe with the shoes off ultras is every bloody one of them I've then see do vile stuff.
One woman had stood over me at the start of play date whilst I was taking mine off and then at the end my dd wouldn't come so put them on to leave then off again whilst trying to retrieve her, then on then she wriggled away again. Off on off on
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She wouldn't let me keep them on. Absolutely fucking excruciating.
Before this however she had picked up a potty emptied it in the sink and splashed it all around the sink 😏 USED the manky old sponge to do a quick wipe where I could still see splashes then used the same old manky wipe to "clean"a spoon which dug out sugar 🤢. For MY tea. I did not, drink that tea

All the clean busy bodies in my office I've seen lick fingers and then touch communal items, again that disgusting old manky sponge gets whisked briskly around their cups and everyone else's 🤢.. Sneeze, cough and don't catch it.

But I bet their shoes off ultras as well 🥲

Regular clothes with slippers.

I use to childmind and one parent would bring the children in sandals with no socks and their feet were so muddy. I had to wash their feet as I couldn’t bear it on my carpets.

We are a shoes off household, but I never insist that guests remove shoes. However, no-one round here wears shoes indoors and everyone takes their shoes off anyway. We all turn up to each other's houses with slippers 😁

We never have parties and only have a couple of close friends round every now and then for an informal evening meal.

Shoes off in my house, shoes off growing up, shoes off in other people’s houses. But then I prefer to be socked or bare feet in my own home. As soon as I can the shoes are off!

I don’t see anyone in Japan having this conversation it’s just a given.

I think your logic is flawed.

you see people wearing flared / long / baggy jeans and the bottoms are always brown, sometimes soggy, and always frayed.
your clothes don't hit the deck like your shoes do.

shoes are grubby. If you're finding your clothes grubby too, well, I can't help with that.

We still have the light coloured carpet that was in the living room when we bought the house.

I cleaned the carpet recently and was pleased to see how clean the water was when I emptied the tank, probably because we don't wear our shoes indoors.

Besides, my feet are far more comfortable in slippers or bare than in shoes.

I am from a shoes off country, but live in London now. In my home country even workmen take their shoes off before they enter your house. If you have a party, people usually bring indoor shoes as everyone knows it’s outdoor shoes off. If you have a BBQ and need to walk through the house, you would take your shoes off, carry them through the house and put them back on. No one has any angst around this, it’s just the way it is.

I remember being extremely shocked when I moved here that people would walk into my house with shoes on. I still after 20 years feel shocked and rush for my mop as soon as the shoes on person has left my house 😝I ask people to remove shoes, but I accept that culturally you don’t ask for example workmen to remove shoes so I just accept I have to clean after them. Can we also have a thread about workmen using your loo now? 😂

There’s fecal matter on most streets…so therefore on most shoes!

Sounds like you’re agreeing with me…? I agree shoes are grubby. Hence take them off. My clothes aren’t grubby so I don’t need your help anyway??

To those saying shoes on is a UK/London thing… everyone I know (in UK/Surrey) except my parents are a shoes off household 🤷‍♀️

Workmen often aren't allowed to remove their footwear for health and safety reasons, so they bring shoe covers with them instead.

I always ask, when visiting someone's house for the first time whether they want me to remove my shoes. I think it is polite to ask and rude to assume that you can keep them on.

It is common practice where I live to remove shoes. Maybe it is because we are rural and chances are that shoes are muddy.

Who has dog shit on their shoes? Serious question. I have a lot of dogs and all my shoes are totally dog shit free?

@Bigoldtable Unless you live somewhere that is totally dog free then, yes, there will be microscopic dog poo particles on your shoes.

Have you nevwr had a dinner or a party at which people dressed up a bit, including shoes?

Nope. We have people round for dinner or go to theirs and I might put a nice top on but I wouldn't alter what shoes I was wearing,

Probably. But easily dealt with by a mop and some bleach? I do not spend my life worrying about “microscopic particles” of anything!

I honestly don't give a toss either way. I do kick my shoes off coming in, because I walk the dog over debatable terrain, but mainly because I'm more comfortable in bare feet.

HOWEVER..... I did go to a good friend's house for lunch recently, with three other friends. She is very, very strict about shoes off at the door and takes no gentle ribbing about it, it's quite off putting. We regularly get semi lectured about the filthy we're trailing in to our unprotected houses.

I had creamy coloured socks on and when I got home and took them off, they were bloody filthy 🤣
( Mix of hard wood and carpeted floors).

I don't host cocktail parties. I don't want people's dirty outside shoes in my house on my carpets. No arguments.
If I had hard flooring it would be OK but I don't want my carpets ruined.

It IS off putting. And the filthy floors would definitely put me off. No shoes does not equal clean!

Had to at my mother's. The risk of cuts and ensuing infection from the filthy dirty floors was too great.

But easily dealt with by a mop and some bleach?

We have carpets, so I don't use bleach on the floors, but, like you, I'm not anal about this kind of thing either.

I've had dinner parties, yes 🙄
People take their shoes off, no difference to any other time!

I'm okay with shoes on in the house, I only take them off if they're really covered in mud or s and need cleaning immediately. I don't find I track in too much dirt otherwise.

We are shoes on downstairs, but off upstairs.

Not coincidentally, we have hard flooring downstairs that gets hoovered and mopped, and carpet upstairs.