No shoes in house people

[Newstartplease24]

if you are absolutist about this -

do you only entertain in loungewear? Have you nevwr had a dinner or a party at which people dressed up a bit, including shoes?

or do you expect people to wear frock, tights and bare feet?

@mathanxiety I have absolutely no desire to find out! Keep your shoes on please.

Shoes are gross and harbour gross things that I don't want in my house.

no I don't have pets either.

For me I've never lived in a grand enough home to justify people really dressing up and wearing heels indoors etc. Most dinners or friends over was a casual affair so shoes off just seems normal, don't want London streets on my carpet for the landlord to charge me for etc 😆

Saying that I probably wouldn't mind shoes on in a house with no carpets on the floor when hosting a bbq or something as traipsing in and out and bringing the garden with you is part and parcel, but there's something about outside shoes on a carpet that just seems grim.

When we hosted a grden party (but people came inside for the loos) we put down a floor protector between the garden and the loos.

In my experience most visitors are pretty polite and offer to take their shoes off but I generally only ask them to if it is wet outside or shoes look dirty/muddy.

Do people really not bath or shower at least once a day? If not, I would t want you in my house regardless of shoes of or not.

hygiene matters and I trust my family and friends are clean, tidy and hygienic. It's the same in their house. We are all the same.

That is honestly really interesting. Because I and all my friends and family are indeed washed, clean and hygienic but none of us ever ask for shoes to be removed. So we actually are not all the same?

Shoes off rules in my house.
The odd occasion we host an event, shoes can stay on if the grass is fairly dry or not muddy but I request them off if it is mid Winter and mud and slosh is everywhere.
The odd occasions with shoes require extra floor cleaning, which is fine.
I take off shoes at other people's front doors.

Having lived in countries where no shoes in houses (shops, temples etc too) is the norm I completely 'get it'. Leave the dirty shoes outside. I always remove shoes before entering the house and do so when I visit others.

I don’t ask people to take their shoes off when they come in ‘cause my house is cold and we have hard floors everywhere downstairs and I don’t want their feet to freeze! They can take their shoes off to go upstairs though cause it’s carpet up there. Have considered providing slippers for guests but I don’t really want to add to my laundry pile.

It is interesting, the different experiences of this.....I've never been to any house assuming I'll be asked to take my shoes off because its just not normal IME and in the 'circles' I mix with.

Genuinely can't recall the last time I was asked, probably my aunts house I guess years ago although she also used to have that plastic matting stuff on the floor to protect the carpets.

Only place I take shoes off is my best mates but thats only because I put my feet up on her sofa while we put the world to rights. She's probably the only person i don't mind having her shoes off in my house either apart from my mum.

I think the majority of people shower daily, but not all. And even daily showerers can still have foot fungus or veruccas.

"I take off shoes at other people's front doors."

You wouldn't get chance to even start bending down before you heard me instruct you to please, for the love of god leave your shoes on 🤣

Do you honestly think that someone’s bare feet are more manky than shoes which have trodden in god knows what, along miles of dirty pavements/shops etc.

I take my shoes off eighteen times a day. I wouldn't dream of doing anything less. I attach each pair to a weather balloon and salute their ascent into the upper atmosphere.

We're shoes off bit rarely have anyone in the house other than us!

I would find it so odd if a guest didn't take their shoes off. My house is clean, I don't want shoes walking the dirt from outside all over.

Equally, i would find it really odd not to take my shoes off at someone else's house. And yes, I'd love to go a shoes off party and pad around in my tights or socks- so much more relaxed!

Houses where people don't take shoes off are pretty grubby generally. Bit of dirt, mud, grass, just bits everywhere!

I’m with you on this, although I’m not sure about the poster who wears Uggs without socks in winter. She’d have to stay outside with the people who say “frock”.

I've never entertained in my life and never will.
If someone pops round they take their shoes off. Kids leave their shoes at the back door. It's not hard.

If I was hoisting a bbq then the shoe situation would be steel toe cap boots but I’m a safety girl.

I don't really get this obsession with shoes on/off.
If I'm at home I take my shoes off and walk barefoot, much more comfortable.
And because we live in the countryside and in winter shoes can get muddy I ask DC to do so to.
However if I have guests I don't expect them to take their shoes off.
If I go to someones house I assess the situation at the front or ask!.
Lots of people have hard flooring downstairs so not really an issue whereas cream carpet would be.
I think it would be odd to have a party or bbq and insist on guests taking their shoes off.

Shoes off in my house please. Although I hate bare feet so would prefer people had socks on!!

can’t understand why people wear shoes inside?? Isn’t it uncomfortable? Isn’t it dirty? What about mud/grit/wet/dog poo/leaves. Why would you want that in your house?

I wear slippers in the winter if it’s cold - but that’s more about warmth than having “shoes on”. And I don’t wear my slippers outside. But maybe you shoes on people just wear everything everywhere. Do you take shoes off to sit on the sofa and go to bed?

Every time this comes up, I'm genuinely stumped by the idea it is rude, or bad manners, to ask people to remove their shoes when they come inside. Surely, it is worse/rude/bad manners to expect to wear your outdoor shoes that have walked along filthy pavements and roads in someone's clean home. My kids play on my carpeted floors and I don't want residue of bird/dog shit, mud or god knows what else from people's shoes on my carpet. Yes, I clean regularly but I can't say I have the time or inclination to deep clean my carpet every time someone comes round if everyone always left their shoes on. I generally prefer people to have socks on, but if they don't and are barefoot, even if their feet are a bit sweaty or whatever it STILL isn't as bad as whatever their outdoor shoes have walked through. I can't think of anyone who comes to my house who leaves their shoes on, so it isn't really an issue for me, I just never understand how it is rude to ask people not to bring their dirty shoes inside. It is just common sense not to.

Your logic is flawed OP but I have a feeling you know that. You don’t roll down the street do you - your clothes aren’t potential touching poo, spit, piss etc from the streets.

If you have carpet downstairs, I understand your point. Personally, I choose flooring, for my downstairs at least, that can be walked on in whatever footwear and easily cleaned afterwards.

"Really rude" to not want dog shit residue smeared over your floors?

Only inAmerica on Mumsnet...

Who has dog shit on their shoes? Serious question. I have a lot of dogs and all my shoes are totally dog shit free? Do people really step in dog shit so often that they don’t notice and then walk it into someone’s house?