What things are considered trashy if you’re poor but not if you’re wealthy?

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As someone who has been both, I am intrigued to hear what people think!

Secondhand furniture

Kids with unbrushed dirty hair.
Kids wearing scruffy hand-me-down clothes.
Drug use.
Tax avoidance (poor:cash in hand work/rich:using an accountant to avoid tax)
Education not being viewed as important for the kids’ future (going into the family buiness/nepotism)
Lack o respect for teachers.
Conked out old car.

Forgot to add. Giving children multiple names whether first middle or surname. It's either trashy or posh no in between

In one case you are directly taking money from the taxpayer’s pot.
In the other you are using money that has already been taxed and not taking anything from taxpayers.

It's not really that simple though is it. Wealthy people don't pay tax to anything like the same extent as working people. If you're truly rich, most of the money that falls into your hands hasn't been anywhere near the taxman. It's had generations of being allocated and squirrelled and re-assigned to the point that by the time it hits you, it's literally just free money.

And you can spend it and, crucially, leave it to accumulate further in vast quantities, with no need to request a by your leave from the state, because the state is absolutely disinterested in the affairs of the truly wealthy. They can do as they please and have no need to contribute to the society they benefit from living in. Even when their assets include houses and land worth hundreds of millions of ££££.

Contrast this with, say, a person with a life limiting disability whose parents die and leave them £10,000 in savings built up over a lifetime. The state will at the point of probate find that the disabled person has too much money and will stop their benefit payments.

Sorry OP I think it’s trashy either way.

This is such a good observation

Voting Reform.

Drugs and neglect is trashy no matter what

having big dogs, having big weddings, liking cheap sausages, naff ornaments.

Haven't RTFT, but flagrantly breaking lockdown rules drinking champagne, and not knowing how many children you have.

(Probably already come up.)

Offspring in their 20s with no work ethic living off parents.
Rich are a free spirit, poor a layabout.

Being fat. Letting your children be loud in public.

Rich folk - Bipolar

Poor folk - Personality Disorder

I think you're talking about a very small percentage of the super rich. Most of the simply rich pay an awful lot of tax. They will do what they can to perhaps avoid tax cliff edges etc but ultimately they are the net contributors that everyone relies upon.

The person on benefits is being supported wholly by the state. Fair enough, most would think this was reasonable if they genuinely can't work but everyone should be compelled to support themselves as much as possible and contribute where they can. If a disabled person comes into some money then it is absolutely fair that they use this to support themselves. The alternative is that they are basically never asked to contribute anything and they are wholly reliant on others no matter what. This isn't sensible or fair.

The upper classes don’t have lots of expensive tech in the house though. They’d regard that as flash and vulgar

Also, society tends to be more forgiving of low intelligence or eccentricity if you are affluent, or rich or famous.

Being fat? At my DCs private school all the kids and parents were rake thin

Old cars
Cocktails

Sir Raymond! So pleased to see you here. Are you one of the Herefordshire Clenches or the the Derbyshire Clenches? Didn't I last see you at the Royal Lancs, exhibiting your Buttock Clench Beef Bull?

Anyway, as you now, I'm a bit of the old backstairs variety (see usermethiggermijig above) but aren't we seventeeth cousins, forcibly removed? We really must get back in touch. Your clenching buttock beef bull could sire a whole new category of cattle to make rump steak popular again.

I'm mainly in sheep these days, seeing as my gang is all ginger Fitzy-Fitzy, banished to all the far rocky corners...

THIS

Posh people really don’t have large TVs though. It’s considered flashy and vulgar to do that

Of course drugs and neglect are trashy whoever does it. That’s the whole point of this thread

Apologies if already mentioned, but there was a recent photo in the press of a well-to-do lady at an event (i.e Ascot). She had fallen asleep drunk in the hedge, with her filled champagne glass kept upright.

The lady was praised for her skills in keeping her drink intact whilst she was out for the count. I remember seeing a written comment, basically saying the scene would be viewed very differently if she were from a lower class, which I tend to agree with.

Having several children who each have a different dad, or having fathered several children with different women.

Day drinking

Lots of cars on your property

Heavy makeup, spray tan, and copious hair extensions

Nasty sex pond.