What things are considered trashy if you’re poor but not if you’re wealthy?

[mummysmagicmedicine]

As someone who has been both, I am intrigued to hear what people think!

That's neither here nor there, you said it's only the lower middle class that care and I disputed that.

I don't agree with the guns one. Shooting is done by rich and poor people in rural communities.
I think people are thinking off illegal gun ownership ie twats in gangs.

I agree about affairs. Grubby if you are poor, a lifestyle choice if you are rich.
Having multiple kids also. More from the environmental side though. Perfectly acceptable to have 4 kids "if you can afford them". Whereas the effect on the planet is equally ( or more ) damaging regardless of income.

Not working

If a 'rich' person does it they are a 'housewife' or 'lady of leasure', if a 'poor' person does it their a 'lazy benefit dossing scrounger' according to many.

Even if that rich persons 'wealth' is unearned generational hand downs from a family history of abuse or power, money hording and tax evasion/handouts and the poor person has suffered at the hands of unjust politics to aid the already rich, lack of opportunities and health issues (disproportionately higher in the poor).

Having loads of kids, and neglecting them

Hardly ever having your children at home. Wealthy people ship their kids off to boarding school, enlist them in copious amounts of extra curricular activities and employ staff to take them out. But god forbid a poor person kicks their teenagers out for the day to get them from under their feet.

I'm as working class as they come

My eldest dc went to a school where one mum showed up to pick hers up after being down at weatherspoons and having a pint or two for lunch

The school rang the police because she was pissed and ss got involved

We moved to a very middle class area and my younger dc went to the middle class school

Mums would go for lunch at a posh restaurant and had a couple of glasses of wine,rock up to pick up dc and nobody batted an eye at how pissed they where (I'm talking slurring and falling over)

Working class school-the kids would be immaculate with smart uniform and smart haircuts

Middle class-2nd hand,scruffy uniform with long (add points for slightly greasy and matted) hair and dirty fingernails

The working class parents would have the newer,posher cars

Middle class-cars that looked like they would never start again and normally covered in dog hair

Van life/tiny home movement.

Mending your very old clothes until they’re completely beyond repair. They have to be generations old and of a ‘quality brand’ of course, mending little ones Primark leggings doesn’t count sadly.

Tattoos

This one nails it.

Having lots of pets

Having lots of expensive tech in the house

Having a big house (council house)

Expensive Clothes labels

Going on holiday

Wearing lots of jewellery

Having more then one car

Speaking more than one language.

They are not actually paying less tax. They are just not paying too much tax. There's a standard formula for business but if not set up right you can end up paying more than you should. Just like if a worker is on the wrong tax code.

Yes. I agree.

And I speak as one who has inherited very well.

Really good thread this. Shines a light on so many things that are forgiven if a person has money - earned or otherwise gotten.

My daughter went to a university where a lot of monied young people went, and drugs were de rigeur I think. Likewise after graduation, with jobs in the City. Likewise son at Cambridge - a girl in his year was sent down in her first year for supplying a fellow student who fell to his death from a landing. Three years later after her cohort had moved on she was re-admitted.

The name Natasha

How is that ever trashy!?

Killing birds for entertainment.
Being really fucking rude.
Side hustles that never bother the tax man.

Respectfully, that’s another situational one. Owning a licensed gun because you shoot as a hobby/ shoot countryside pests on your farm/operate a game shoot etc is completely different to someone owning an illegally held handgun used for crime.

The criminal might well be wealthier than the farmer/ gamekeeper/ hobby shooter, but that doesn’t make their gun more legitimate.

Leaving your child behind at the pub when you all leave.

20 odd years ago the students at Newcastle uni living in Jesmond (the git fancy bit) would wear pyjama bottoms ripped to shreds to walk to lectures. And uggs. I'd never seen the like. They had the confidence of the untouchable.

Working and upper class don't care as they're firmly established. Those just above WC have somewhere to move to.
Besides, a WC person can have more class than Upper, although they have more in common with each other. Middle don't gel with either.

I don't count real class by school attended or wealth, but by how one treats not only their family, but fellow citizens.
That is formed by example of their parents.

First language at home vs English everywhere else?

So true. I love mending. I have a charity shop primark top in my mending pile at the mo. I'm lucky that I can afford nice things. I buy them second hand, and I mend, but it's because I see the benefit to the environment, not just because I have to. (Also I'm a bit of a hoarder.)

Actually that's another one, hoarding!!

def scruffy kids with unbrushed hair and mismatched outfits. A ‘poor’ kid and a well off kid could wear an identical outfit and be seen differently.

Agree. Rich it’s called hotchpotch, and is quirky& fun.The poor it’s scruffy and indicative of issues