What things are considered trashy if you’re poor but not if you’re wealthy?

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As someone who has been both, I am intrigued to hear what people think!

guns
crim mates
rowdy parties
Lots of children by lots of women

Mimosas for breakfast is tres upper/upper middle class isn't it? Stereotypical ladies who brunch! Vs a quick can of red stripe to start the day. Very different tones!

Then consider again stereotypical upper class, 'we don't hug', 'little Tabitha turns 5 next week so she's off to boarding school', coming downstairs for 15 minutes with mummy before supper. I can't really think of a poor example, everyone I know who's pretty poor seems to have tight knit family units who look out for one another. I did know a boy who only saw his parents for 20 minutes in the evening and otherwise hung out with nanny, and went to boarding school from 7 - adulthood.

I guess neither of these proves they're relaxed about it, but there are (or have been in my lifetime) circles in which it's the done thing.

Keeping your cornflakes in a Tupperware cereal container.

Swearing in front of kids / kids that swear.

Middle class kid swears (see Richard Curtis films): hilarious, a joke in itself

Working class kid swears: dragged up

Tax avoidance

This, far more judgement on a poor person who does this.

British people have a really weird deference towards people they see as ‘posh’. There’s a real ‘know your place’ mentality in the UK that you don’t see so much of anywhere else. I guess that’s why we still have a monarchy.

I don't get as a 2bd gen immigrant

Boarding school is pretty much emotional neglect.

Really?

Living off your parents and drifting through various employment is seen very differently if your parents are poor vs rich.

Children playing in the dirt/soil and getting mucky.

Getting drunk in the afternoon.

Kids with shaggy unkempt hair.

Second hand clothes.

Battered cars full of crap, dog hair etc.

Unusual first names.

Elaborate jewellery.

Double barrelled names (rich = distinguished, poor = unmarried parents). Disclaimer - my kids have DB names and I'm not rich/posh.

A small pedigree dog.

Range Rovers. Personally I think they’re chavvy cars no matter the wealth

Only the lower middle classes are obsessed with class. No one else gives a damn, as they're confident in what they are.
The obsession with class on Mumsnet is utterly ridiculous.

Being bonkers. The guy from Speed was right. Poor people are insane, rich people are eccentric.

Like our Liz, Mrs Queen:

https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/real-life-stories/buckingham-palace-queen-tupperware-philip-13663437.amp

I also think that those gilded panelled doors (MFI version) went out in about 1984 and most people kept them for built in wardrobes in the big bedroom.

Keeping a horse in your garden

Oh i think upper middle class to aristocrat s very much care about class.

Possibly, but over the years that pair have been pilloried continuously. Any other family the story would have sunk without trace.

I'm not sure which is worse tbh.

Sending a child to boarding school at 8 is pretty emotionally negligent. Can’t say as I’ve ever heard of any WC people doing that. 🙄

Drinking in public.

scruffy and grubby children
an untidy or unclean house
swearing
drugs
drinking
having many sexual partners

There are so many things in this country that have double standards depending on wealth

You think they post on here asking such questions as "How to look more middle class"?

At our daughter's independent school there used to be a sale of used uniform, sports equipment etc once a year and it was very well supported, at the school where I taught in a fairly average to low income area people weren't interested at all, their child wasn't earing second hand clothes! There seems to be less importance placed on appearances by a lot of people with money.

Unemployment