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How long were you engaged before you got married?

141 replies

SilverPhoto · 02/06/2025 18:00

Just that really…
Wondering if my engagement is beyond the average! Google said 15 months which doesn’t seem long to plan a wedding to me!

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MellowPinkDeer · 02/06/2025 18:14

A year the first time and 10 months the second time. I’m a do-er person!

TragicMuse · 02/06/2025 18:14

6 months! I couldn’t see the point of a long engagement, we wanted to get married so we did.

We had a big wedding too. Organised the whole lot ourselves in that time.

SpunkySquid · 02/06/2025 18:14

A year. I don’t see the point in getting engaged if you’re not actually going to plan a wedding.

Jennifershuffles · 02/06/2025 18:14

Six months (married in 2004), I think we had about 100 guests and it was at a hotel and on a Friday afternoon.

Countesschaos · 02/06/2025 18:15

3 months... we had known each other 6 months between meeting and marrying

Countesschaos · 02/06/2025 18:16

SpunkySquid · 02/06/2025 18:14

A year. I don’t see the point in getting engaged if you’re not actually going to plan a wedding.

alas nowadays lots of people get engaged and have zero intention of getting married. I dont understant it myself either..

Flicitytricity · 02/06/2025 18:16

3 weeks 🤯
Asked me to marry him, and 3 weeks later we had a registry office wedding, went to an Italian restaurant with our 13 guests (should have been 12, but a much loved friend got unexpected leave from the RAF), got exceptionally drunk at a huge party with friends in the evening and were married for 45 years before his death.
Here's the kicker.... I was 17 and he was 22 when we married😅

NorthernDancer · 02/06/2025 18:17

ramonaquimby · 02/06/2025 18:02

6 months
engaged at xmas
married in summer

And us. Proposed New Year's Eve, married mid June

digiwidgy · 02/06/2025 18:17

Proposed Christmas Eve, married early June.

weegiemum · 02/06/2025 18:18

22 months.

My dad was paying for - and organising! - the wedding (we were in our early 20s and this was now over 30 years ago) and he needed that much time.

It worked out well in the end but I’d not have such a long engagement if I was doing it over again.

EzioAuditore · 02/06/2025 18:18

3 years. Was going to be 18 months but wedding was one of those that got caught up in COVID lockdowns and we had to cancel/rebook everything.

SunComeBack · 02/06/2025 18:18

3 years

Sosigsandwich · 02/06/2025 18:19

17 months, felt like such a long time waiting for the wedding.

DappledThings · 02/06/2025 18:20

11 months but only because that was when our venue was free, didn't plan to wait that long.

OP what do you think takes 15 months to arrange? We could have done 4 or 5 months early and had the same wedding we did. It's not really a lot more than a few phone calls, a list of tasks and a few evenings working out a seating plan. I tried on a few dresses in one appointment and ordered it that day.

MaryGreenhill · 02/06/2025 18:20

Three years . Bought a house did it up then married when it was finished .

Fruitsconeandacuppa · 02/06/2025 18:23

9 years!! I was in uni for 5 years then felt like endless training so just wasn’t a priority/ something we could afford whilst also renovating our house.

Echobelly · 02/06/2025 18:24

18 months but only because DH proposed, totally impromptu, at the beginning of January and he wanted a summer wedding (I didn't care especially what season) , and as we knew it would be quite a large wedding it was going to have to be the next summer.

NovemberMorn · 02/06/2025 18:28

We didn't get officially engaged. We met, married within 18 months, then when I became pregnant (a month after we wed) I finally got an engagement ring to wear with my wedding band. 😀

Sofiewoo · 02/06/2025 18:28

15 months is absolutely fine to plan a wedding.
We ended up having about 18 months in between just due to waiting for preferred season.

CoastalCalm · 02/06/2025 18:28

5 months

CuriousKangaroo · 02/06/2025 18:30

Engaged in Feb, married in August. It was a big wedding too, held over two venues with 200 guests. It’s perfectly doable if you want to do it. I don’t understand why it needs to take more than a year in any situation. But I also don’t understand why people think it’s stressful. Unless you have family dramas to be concerned with, the arranging bit is all pretty straightforward.

DappledThings · 02/06/2025 18:34

But I also don’t understand why people think it’s stressful. Unless you have family dramas to be concerned with, the arranging bit is all pretty straightforward.
Absolutely this. I'm sure people think it has to be stressful or they aren't doing it right. I kept having people tell me I was bizarrely un-stressed about the whole thing but I couldn't work out what I was meant to be stressed about.

Yatuway · 02/06/2025 18:38

20 months. Although the actual wedding itself was planned in 8 months, we just didn't do anything about it for a year. Pretty young at the time!

Scentedjasmin · 02/06/2025 18:39

18mths. Booked venue a year ahead and dress six months in advance. Most wedding dress fitters like at least 6 months. I think that 18mths is about right. I loved planning my wedding so it was a time to enjoy our engagement. My friend got married within 6 weeks of being engaged. She found a place with a last minute cancellation and just decided that it was too good an opportunity to miss.

Sassybooklover · 02/06/2025 18:40

18 months from getting engaged to marrying.

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