I have two young DDs (both under 8). They are amazing and everything DH and I ever hoped for.
Neither of us had a particular preference when it came to their sex when I was pregnant: I know some people feel strongly about it, but since it’s not something you choose, we weren’t that bothered. In fact, when I was pregnant with DD2, DH really wanted to have a second girl, and I had to remind him he doesn’t get to choose!
So why, oh why, do random strangers and acquaintances deem it okay to make rude and sexist comments about my children?! An old school friend (mother of one son) randomly asked me if we’re going to try for a son ‘for my DH’. I asked, ‘Why?’ I didn’t really get an answer; my reply was, ‘No, because he’s not sexist.’
Recently, a couple of neighbours were saying how they expected a DS after having a DD to have ‘one of each’. Okay, funny thing to say as a parent, but then again I was never really bothered about it myself.
But then came a barrage of comments from the male neighbour to my DH about how he must want to have a son too: who will he play football with? Racing games? He will have to turn one of our DDs into a tomboy, etc.
Bless my DH, he just said, ‘Not really, we play racing games together already and I don’t really like football.’ I had to stop myself from saying something much more poignant.
How do people deal with these comments? We will definitely not be ‘trying for a boy’ ever; we just wanted two children, and we are super lucky to have them. For the record, I would have been equally happy if I had two DS. I just can’t believe the blatant sexism from relatively young people; I was hoping attitudes like that are dying off.