Lost job and husband this month now have a cancer check scan. Support warmly and gratefully welcomed please

[0500hours]

I’ve had a fasttrack 2 week referral for a scan after an exam for unexplained vaginal bleeding (I’m over a year now of no periods, I’m 56)

Anybody know how long results take?

I was made redundant last month, my husband died unexpectedly a week later of a heart attack and now I have been referred for ‘suspected gynaecological cancer’.

Its all happening very fast here. Wish me luck tomorrow Wednesday please I am terrified.

I have two dependant children at home who witnessed their dad dying and tried to help me revive him. The thought of them being told something awful after the results of this scan tomorrow is playing hugely on my mind. I’m still grieving for my husband, the finances are in a mess, my son is on the middle of GCSEs, and I have no friends now my husband has died.

There’s nobody to come to the scan with me.

I'm so sorry to hear all you are going through.

Results should come back very quickly , a week I think until your Doctor has them.

Sending you support for tomorrow ❤️

So sorry for your loss and your upcoming stresses @0500hours , I wish I had more to give than sincere condolences to you and your children and a virtual hug for your upcoming tests...a truly stressful time, but it is my hope the wonderful Mumsnet community will get behind you with kindness and practical support wherever you invite it.

No experience on the scan, but wanted to offer you and your kids my sympathies at an incredibly stressful time.

I'm a human being and I'm here and holding your hand.

These are hard times, very hard. I'm sorry this is happening to you. You will get through it, though it seems unbelievable now. You must because you have children.

If I worked with you, and you told me this had happened, I would come with you to this scan, even if we weren't friends. Because I'm a human and so are you and there are some things it's ok to ask. Please tell some people. Please ask for help.

There are people in your life and if you ask them, some will help you, and it won't be who you think. When my husband died I could not have predicted who stepped up.

So sorry for everything you're going through. Try not to worry too much about the test results, it could be due to a hormonal blip, possibly caused by all the upheaval ❤️

We’re here behind you 💐

So sorry for all that’s happened and is happening.

The sooner you get the diagnosis the sooner you can either carry on rebuilding your life or start treatment quickly and oh the path to recovery.

Sending hugs

If you live in East Anglia I might be able to come with you?
Otherwise, if you have to go alone, tell the staff and let them know how difficult things have been for you - if they have any trace of humanity they will look after you well.
All the best, @0500hours. I hope you get good results.

I'm sure if you mention your location an amazing Mumsnetter will be close by.

I've just been through this. Very common at our age. It is very unlikely to be anything worrying.

They always pop you on the 2 week fast track which is amazing considering the state of our National Health system. That's what stressed me the most I think. That they were so quick

But its usually polyps or other stuff. Completely unlikely to be cancerous.

So sorry for what you have been through. Thinking of you and everything crossed for the tests.

Several of my friends have had the same btw, any post menopausal bleeding and off you go.

Results came back pretty quickly but were very difficult to decipher. But they'd all been so reassuring at the hospital that I really wasn't concerned. I think mine was caused by severe hormonal stress as I'd just split up with my husband.

You've had a ton of stuff happen, no wonder you're overwhelmed. If you have a Maggie's centre at your hospital, call in for a cuppy and a chat. Wishing you well for your scan and will be with you in spirit giving you strength.

We’re here for you OP, bless you.

I'm so, so sorry xx

Thankyou everyone. I’m being seen at Kettering hospital, Northamptonshire.

I’m in menopause over a year and the bleeding was heavy a few days after my husband died so it must surely be related to that. I had an internal last week and the gynae mentioned a low cervix, but I have a prolapse so it could be connected to that anyway.

I’m beginning to think they’ve just used this term ‘suspected gynaecological cancer’ on my patient notes online as a generic term for a fast track scan. It was just a surprise to see that terminology written down on my notes.

Especially as I’m currently trying to organise life insurance for myself as my husband died without so it’s made me urgently want to organise it for myself … they won’t progress the application now until the scan results.

I’m heading to bed now but I will update tomorrow evening when I’m back. Thankyou so much for any supportive words - at this time in my life right now words of support mean everything to me. I will read everything . Thankyou again

Sending prayers and good wishes your way.

My condolences for your loss. Your going through a lot. Hugs to you.

I hope it's nothing, and if it is, that it's been caught early. Things have developed and progressed very well medically. So stay positive.

🫂 to you and your dear kids right now. Losing their dad like that is tough.

I lost my mum 4 years ago and not a day passes without thinking about her.

I'm so sorry OP this is a lot. Sending a virtual handhold.

This is a small thing but don't underestimate the power of a handhold at the hospital tomorrow. I hope you find someone to be with you but if you are there on your own - don't be afraid to ask the nurse or doctor for a hand squeeze.

I’m so sorry for everything you’re going through! What an absolutely awful time you’re having! I wish I could go with you and hold your hand! Sending well wishes and positive vibes x

Wishing you all the best OP 💐❤️

Such difficult times for you, and I am so sorry you lost your husband. If I could I would be by your side, but can only send a handhold and loving thoughts.

I’m so sorry for all you’ve been through, it sounds incredibly tough for you and your children. Re the.bleeding and two week pathway this is the default with post menopausal bleeding so hopefully all straightforward. I have been through the same snd happy to give a hand hold through this. Feel free to DM me if you have any questions or would like some support.

Wishing you well OP.
sudden stress can do all sorts of peculiar things to our hormones so I hope it’s something like that.
what a shock it must have been loosing your husband so suddenly.
best wishes to you.

Absolutely this, Routine to put any post meno bleeding on the 2 week pathway. It just means it is the quickest way of being seen. You would usually be told the results there and then.

I’m so sorry to hear all that’s happened, and so sorry for your loss. 💐

I wanted to offer you some reassurance ref your scan. I’ve had to be checked out twice now for irregular bleeding (I’m menopausal too). I had a scan, then a hysteroscopy under GA. The scan showed a thicker womb lining, the gynaecologist said this can be normal, but they have to check it out. The hysteroscopy was to take a biopsy and I was asleep for this (you don’t have to be, you have a choice). It’s all a precaution and the results came through fairly quickly. I have 2 friends who have had the same experience so it appears to be quite common. They refer you on a 2 week pathway & this seems to be the route they send everyone with these symptoms.
Please try not to worry and please talk to the medical staff, they are generally pretty good at explaining things and reassuring you.
if you have any specific questions please feel free to private message me and I’ll help if I can. Sending you some virtual hugs and hand holds x

Firstly so sorry about your husband and what an awful lot you are having to contend with at the moment.
I have had the post menopausal bleeding twice both times referred on the two week wait both times it has all turned out ok.
Good luck xxx