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Lost job and husband this month now have a cancer check scan. Support warmly and gratefully welcomed please

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0500hours · 27/05/2025 21:29

I’ve had a fasttrack 2 week referral for a scan after an exam for unexplained vaginal bleeding (I’m over a year now of no periods, I’m 56)

Anybody know how long results take?

I was made redundant last month, my husband died unexpectedly a week later of a heart attack and now I have been referred for ‘suspected gynaecological cancer’.

Its all happening very fast here. Wish me luck tomorrow Wednesday please I am terrified.

I have two dependant children at home who witnessed their dad dying and tried to help me revive him. The thought of them being told something awful after the results of this scan tomorrow is playing hugely on my mind. I’m still grieving for my husband, the finances are in a mess, my son is on the middle of GCSEs, and I have no friends now my husband has died.

There’s nobody to come to the scan with me.

OP posts:
lobeydosser · 27/05/2025 22:42

What a nightmarish combination of events. So sorry. Sending you the warmest of warm wishes and strength for a good outcome. Like other posters I've had similar experience. It's really alarming to be put on the two week pathway but it's absolutely for the best to get seen as quickly as possible. I was married but my husband didn't come to the hysteroscopy or to subsequent scans. You'll be fine on your own - the NHS folk will look after you. Like other posters have said it's likely a hormonal abnormality brought on by all the horrible stress you're enduring. Don't be scared to ask for a hand hold..real or virtual. Hope you managed to get some sleep. Strength - you WILL get through it 💐

londongirl12 · 27/05/2025 22:48

Sending best wishes for tomorrow xx

WearyAuldWumman · 27/05/2025 22:52

0500hours · 27/05/2025 21:29

I’ve had a fasttrack 2 week referral for a scan after an exam for unexplained vaginal bleeding (I’m over a year now of no periods, I’m 56)

Anybody know how long results take?

I was made redundant last month, my husband died unexpectedly a week later of a heart attack and now I have been referred for ‘suspected gynaecological cancer’.

Its all happening very fast here. Wish me luck tomorrow Wednesday please I am terrified.

I have two dependant children at home who witnessed their dad dying and tried to help me revive him. The thought of them being told something awful after the results of this scan tomorrow is playing hugely on my mind. I’m still grieving for my husband, the finances are in a mess, my son is on the middle of GCSEs, and I have no friends now my husband has died.

There’s nobody to come to the scan with me.

I am so sorry, @0500hours .

I had pm bleeding and my first scan and biopsy result took about a fortnight, I recall. I've had 3 biopsies in all. The last one was a 6 wk wait. (Fife NHS.) My results showed no abnormalities.

The first time round, the gynae thought that there was some thickening of the womb lining and possibly a polyp, but the subsequent hysteroscopy showed 'a normal womb for a woman of [my] age. I was 64 at the time.

Previously, when I was 60, I had a bout of bleeding. It turned out that I had polyps, which they removed. I was told about the polyps at the first scan.

I too had to attend my scans on my own following my husband's death, so I have an idea of what it's like. Sending hugs.

DistractMe · 27/05/2025 23:07

Sorry you are going through all this.

I had a vaginal ultrasound for the same reason a couple of weeks ago. The radiographer told me there and then that everything looked fine and the report confirming that was on my NHS app the next day.

MrsSkylerWhite · 27/05/2025 23:09

Oh sweetheart, so very sorry.

I was referred 3 times for unexplained bleeding post menopause, in my 50s. Each time, it was nothing sinister.

Love to you and your children.

OopsIforgotmyname · 27/05/2025 23:11

Sorry for your loss OP.

Thinking of you and sending you hugs for tomorrow. Your plate is very full at the moment, take time to be kind to yourself and breathe.

Sending best wishes Flowers

Hennibg · 27/05/2025 23:13

Really thinking of you and hope all goes well, sending much love and strength to you tomorrow and going forwards xxx

rivalsbinge · 27/05/2025 23:15

I wish I lived even close, that sounds utterly awful run of events, please ask for any help from people around you and get all the support you need from mumsnet.

TheArtistFormerlyKnownasSuccessful · 27/05/2025 23:56

Another stranger here sending you strength. I will keep you in my prayers tonight.

CanelliniBeans · 28/05/2025 00:32

Sending you good wishes and virtual support. So sorry you are going through this

cosmos1001 · 28/05/2025 01:10

So sorry. If you lived closer id have come with you! Take care x

Changed18 · 28/05/2025 08:17

All the best for your scan today @0500hours. I hope you got a reasonable night’s sleep.

Zuve · 28/05/2025 08:21

I will be praying for you. When you hit bottom there is only one way to go.... Up again

OopsIforgotmyname · 28/05/2025 18:17

I hope it went ok today @0500hours , have been thinking of you Flowers

LadyLolaRuben · 28/05/2025 18:27

Just read your post and wanted to check in to see how your day went. Hope you're OK...

Original poster
0500hours · 28/05/2025 21:02

Update :

Had an ultrasound followed by internal exam with camera. Didn’t feel any pain or discomfort at all.

No information was given at the time and the clinician just said GP will contact me in a few days.

Guess just have to wait for the results now.

Thankyou everyone for all your support. It means a lot to me. I read everything. I will update again when I have the results .

OP posts:
Twiceasnice25 · 28/05/2025 21:07

Glad it's been done and you don't have to wait long x

Idontknowhatnametochoose · 28/05/2025 21:24

I'm so sorry to read what a dreadful time you've had recently. Life can be horribly cruel sometimes. I feel for you and your children. I hope you get positive news from today very soon. Update when you know. Thinking of you and sending love.

AliBaliBee1234 · 28/05/2025 21:41

I agree, can you share your location and someone can support you?

I'm so terribly sorry you're going through this.

Munchyseeds2 · 28/05/2025 21:49

🤞 for some good news
So sorry for your loss 🌺

ilovemyhamster · 28/05/2025 21:53

I've just seen your post and wanted to say I'm keeping you in my thoughts OP. I'll be keeping all toes and fingers crossed for you. I'm genuinely sorry for your loss too. 💕

Sprig1 · 28/05/2025 21:54

Thinking of you and wishing for a positive outcome. You sound like a great human being. I am sure you will cope with whatever life that you but hopefully there are easier times ahead for you.

Changed18 · 28/05/2025 21:57

Sending positive thoughts, and hoping for the best outcome.

DyslexicPoster · 28/05/2025 22:07

Hand hold op. Your in the thick of it right now and it's times like these I can't belive how unfair life can be.

I agree I'm sure youd get support from unexpected people if you reach out.

I had a scan after starting heavy bleeding. Didn't help that the sonographer scared me by asking if I had problems with my bowels so imagined she had seen a lump.

When your mind says "what if it's cancer?" Shut it up with "what if it's not?" Just repeat it. Over and over. Ie shut up brain! We're not doing this now.

It's hard but it's a bit like cbt, say it enough and it works.

You need a hug, a cup of tea, someone to tell you your going to be OK. So virtually, I'm going that for you

winewolfhowls · 28/05/2025 22:08

So sorry for the loss of your husband, fingers crossed for your results here for you