School mum doesn’t like boys?

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I’ve not really got a question as such, I’d just like to talk through a strange situation with neutral people if possible?

my youngest son is in infant school, there’s this mum who blatantly doesn’t like boys to the point of upsetting children. I’ve never come across it before
At first I didn’t even notice it because it was just things like having only girl parties which is very normal. The mum won’t talk to boy mums to the point of being rude and saying she doesn’t want to be friends or have anything to do with us (she gave this information freely without being prompted) it took me aback as it was just so rude.

There has been multiple other strange anti boy comments but today I was really hurt; it’s rock star day at school, kids all dressed up a few mum’s were taking pictures of the children I hadn’t noticed but it was all girls apart from my son (who only plays with the girls his best friend is a girl) this anti boy mum moved my son out of the way said the picture was just girls and was very forceful with him. The other mums looked uncomfortable but nobody said anything including me as I was to shocked and didn’t really know what to say. My son asked me why and I didn’t know what to say so I just distracted him.

Has anybody else come across a person like this? If situation like this happen again do I say something or not? I’m really stuck with this one.

She's a wise woman. They tend to be not very good despite what their mothers think.

This happens all the time with mothers of boys. Lots discourage their sons from playing with girls.

They did it because some demographics aborted female children.

She sounds deranged

I'd struggle not to say something to a woman man handling my five year old son, though

There’s no arguing with idiots but try to think about the scenario described in the OP. In summary:

Adult female shoved young male child.

Couldn't have said it better myself.

My son asked me why and I didn’t know what to say so I just distracted him.

'I have no idea darling, some people are just very rude'.

What a nutcase she is.
Your poor son op. I would have had words with her:
How dare she manhandle your child!

100%

Ah op that sounds like a horrible experience. I personally would have something lined up my sleeve for her and tbh simple and direct is usually the best. "Do not touch my child" to her, "if anyone, even an adult, touches or pushes you in a way you don't like you have the right to say 'stop don't touch me' to them and I will back you" to your child in front of her.

She sounds awful and as a mother of a very young son it makes me feel really sad that this is something so many on this thread seem to have experience of.

@boredzelda i understand fully your concern about young men taking over female spaces, but you're referencing an open public space. There's absolutely zero reason why a group of lads shouldn't be allowed to play there. As a parent I want my kid playing where I can see him not round the corner out of sight because the green area outside his house is being used by a group of girls sometimes. I'd also suggest that we need to be careful we don't take it so far that young men become alienated too. An example of this is that there was a huge drive a few years back to increase female attendance in youth provision. Now there are much much higher numbers of young women attending youth provision and young men are becoming increasingly difficult to engage and are less likely to attend youth focused spaces. Given men are often the reason behind harm to women and girls, to me, it's essential they aren't left behind or discouraged from being able to play in shared spaces like the ones you describe.

Absolutely bonkers 😡

“Get your hands off my kid, Linda. You need to park your misandry at home before you teach your kid to be as weird as you obviously seem to be.”
Actually - talk to the school. Sounds like there’s something really not right happening. I feel very sorry for the brother.

The problem isn't gender reveal, it's people's misconceptions about genders.

I had two boys and no one ever said anything to me. I almost wished my third was also a boy as I was annoyed by people assuming I had a third to "try for a girl" (I didn't, I just wanted a third child).

Some mums (it's always mums) of girls are weirdly pro girl and anti boy. I've no idea why.
I remember being present during a conversation between two work colleagues, both mums of girls, in which they outright stated that they thought girls were better than boys, and they were so glad not to have sons! I have one boy. Some people are just unbelievably rude and self absorbed.
Look on the bright side OP, at least you won't have to have anything to do with her as the mum of a boy!

I do wonder if it's a protective thing like they know males are the people most likely to cause harm to their dds as they grow up? But its just misplaced in a way because they're tarring boys with that brush before they've even had a chance to grow up. I was really nervous about being 'a boy mum' before I had ds because I've always been a real girls girl, liked stereotypically girly things and the vast majority of my family are female so it was daunting. But now I have ds it doesn't matter a jot and tbh I think in a lot of ways it would be harder to raise a girl. It probably all equals out in different ways overall when you get to teen years!

Physically moving your child without permission should automatically qualify for a hard punch in the face. The fact that nasty antagonistic behaviour mostly doesn't come with internalised consequences is why we have so many bullies/twats in society.

She has a step-son? Poor boy.

She sounds like a mad cunt. There's no point in trying to make sense of her.

Me too. I had this at primary for my son. Found it very strange. Then when the girls in the class got to secondary school (Many single sex around me) suddenly the parents (mums) were OK for them to mix with the boys.

Part of it I think was the maturity level gap and many of the boys had/have special needs whereas very few of the girls did.

She’s unhinged

No they didn't. There was never any evidence of that. There was evidence of complaints and legal proceedings when their shitty scanners made them get the gender wrong though.

Anyway it looks like the people most likely to abort over gender these days are the demographic of the average mumsnet user given all the gender disappointmentover boys on here