Would you claim csa after 15 years?

[101hiccups]

Would you claim csa in the situation. Dd is coming up 15. There has not been any contact with her father since i was pregnant. She has never met him.

He is married with a child. I wouldn't want to course any upset .

Dd tried to contact him via Facebook 3 times over the past year. No reply.

Why have you waited so long?

I mean, I think you have missed the boat slightly

There's still 3 years left that he would have to pay. Which could be helpful when money is short but it also doesn't feel right after all this time.

Sorry op what is csa.
If its child maintenance tbvh no i would not bother with it you dont need his pity money.
You done a good job so far and what your child has you have got it for her.
He can never say he did this or that i paid for that i gave you money for this that and the other.
YOU did it YOU paid YOU raised her.
He missed out and will continue to miss out.
Dont go chasing a man to be a dad or for anything when he didnt want to be around in the first place he`s not worth the time.
A few more years she will be an adult and you can say you did that without him.

Yes absolutely. I mean it’s shit he hasn’t offered, he needs to pay as he hasn’t contributed anything else .

If the cost of living had not changed so much i probably would not be thinking about it. I don't think he can really say things like that as he's not been about for 15 years.

Why did you claim her money earlier?

Yes of course you should and actually you should have done from the beginning

it’s money for HER and regardless of how wealthy you are it could still have bought her even more/even better experiences over the years

it’s both parents responsibility, what should that useless piece of shit get away with it

Contact dad and ask him to pay. If he won’t, start a claim. It’s about time he contributed.

Do you deserve it if you bedded a man who was married with a kid

It is money for the child. However, if OP hasn't needed it, there's a benefit to not having any involvement from another parent. If he was going to be a benefit to OP's child he would have been at the start. Yes, claiming it and saving it for the child's future might have been nice, but it might also have brought a load of stress. Children don't always need 'more and better'.

OP, you are absolutely entitled to that money if you need it. And maybe it will provoke the dad into being involved. it does depend on how much money you are likely to receive and how much you need it. I think I'd be tempted to leave it unless I felt confident it was worth it, but you shouldn't feel guilty about it. If he knows he has a child, he should know he might be asked to pay.

Bloody hell. That’s a bit of a leap. He’s married with a kid now, doesn’t mean he was 15 years ago.

JFC!! Are you joking here or what? OPs DD is 15yo, OP is clearly saying he is NOW married with a child, not that he was 15 years ago ffs.

Her child is 15, presumably he got married since abandoning his daughter

My friend did not get any child maintenance payments for her son until he was 17. Go for it, he will need to pay until your child leaves full time non advanced education.

Seriously? It’s money for the child not the mother who’s done it all alone for 15 years. Even if he was married when she got pregnant, it takes 2 to tango, doesn’t mean he gets to shirk his responsibilities.

Actually the last thing you should do is claim it. If you needed it you should have done it at the time. You can’t have it both ways, he doesn’t get to know about his daughter all this time but now you expect to pay for her.

Because she didn’t want to let him know there was a baby. Robbed him of his time with her, and now wants to claim money from him but doesn’t want to cause upset.

And to op, (if he was already married then) he shouldn’t have cheated but you shouldn’t have kept his child from him…but I wouldn’t expect much if did you slept with a married man

That’s cutting your nose off to spite your face. Who gives a shit what he says? Log a claim OP and use any money you get on your child.

Does he know about her, op?!

Jesus Christ some of you need to work on your reading comprehension 😂
nowhere did she say she was an affair baby.
nowhere did she say he didn’t know about her.

She didn't say either way.

Where does say he was married when she got pregnant? What makes you say she robbed him of time with his child ?
The child has contacted him 3 times and he has ignored her.
@101hiccupsclaim it. I never got a penny. Why should he get away with it?

Actually it’s not clear! It just days he’s married with a child!

No, but she did say she hasn’t seen him since she was pregnant.
Who knows what the details are?