Would you claim csa after 15 years?

[101hiccups]

Would you claim csa in the situation. Dd is coming up 15. There has not been any contact with her father since i was pregnant. She has never met him.

He is married with a child. I wouldn't want to course any upset .

Dd tried to contact him via Facebook 3 times over the past year. No reply.

She didn’t say any of those things people are assuming so why jump to the worst conclusion?
he might have been married or not know about the daughter but it’s madness to jump to that when she hasn’t given any indication that that’s the situation.

Quite an assumption. Care to tell us how you have so much insight into this situation?

I think you are referring to me, and if so, I have said IF he was married then.

you’ll also find that through her series of posts that she hasn’t spoken to him since getting pregnant, so it is more likely that he doesn’t know about it than that he does. If he did know about her he would have either wanted contact, or rejected the OP in which case she would of course go for CSA at the time. Instead the OP has chosen, as she is fully entitled to do, to keep the baby and raise it herself, but if you do that and don’t allow the sperm donor (because this is all he was) a chance to have a relationship with his child, then you have absolutely zero right to claim money for the child. That’s like stealing someone’s car and expecting them to continue to pay the lease on it for you.

It wasn’t just you.

but that’s still a stretch.
not everyone goes straight to CSA because the waste ‘dad’ had rejected the kid. I didn’t

It’s not that much of an assumption, it is quite a logical conclusion given the OPs post and replies to others.

She didn’t speak to him since getting pregnant, so don’t think that he knew about the child?

Let’s wait for @101hiccups to come back and confirm whether he knew he had a child or not…I’ll give you a big hint, he didn’t

Why don’t you read the post carefully and use critical thinking skills before making such a nasty judgement?

Did you wait 15 years though?

it’s ok not to go for CSA, I actually on one thread recommended that someone say they did terminate (ex bastard had told her she should) and raise the baby alone rather than have a custody battle with an abusive ex, as the lady was concerned that in her 40s she may otherwise never conceive. But in that case I advocated for no CSA as no parental involvement.

Why haven’t you claimed it before?

Yes, it’s 15 years too late but better late than never. Every father should pay to support their children whatever the circumstances.

It’s money you and your child are owed and entitled to. Contact cms and start a claim.

Bit why on earth did t you claim earlier? So what if it causes "upset"

But it’s not about the OP It’s about the child.

Will it be backdated? I would, I would have done from the start.

You should've done it 15 years ago. Your daughter is entitled to that money and she's missed out on the majority of it.

Sadly you can’t backdate it, the claim starts from the day you put it in the system.

A) that’s some massive assumption
B) IT’S NOT FOR HER. ITS FOR THE CHILD.

Good god how many times are people going to bang on about the mother deserving or not deserving money. It’s the child that deserves financial support.

Claim it. Don’t worry about causing upset, he doesn’t care about the upset he’s causing your child by not replying.

He might ask for a dna though as I’m guessing he’s not in the birth certificate.

Oh these wicked wicked women who overpower innocent men, drag them kicking and screaming into their beds and force them to have unprotected sex with them just because they want to get pregnant and then, to add insult to injury, completely ignore them socially, emotionally and financially for 15 years.

Bad women, bad, bad women 😐

And also to be pedantic there is no proof that "You done a good job so far". I mean, the OP is probably a great mum but none of us know whether she is or not.

I waited 10 years to claim. I didn’t want anything to do with the man and was just relieved he wasn’t in our lives any more so didn’t want to think about it. But then figured at least it’s a little money in my son’s savings so why not now

It wasn’t me that said that so…..

Agreed. It's happening more and more or maybe I'm reading the wrong threads 😁.
At least do @101hiccups the courtesy of reading her post properly.
OP should try and get some recognition for her daughter.

That logic ain’t gonna get you anywhere. OP go for it, and put it in a high interest savings account / ISA for your DD. She will be grateful especially if she’s thinking about uni in a few years. Leave ego and emotion out of it xx

Who on earth besides take a break style magazines, uses the word "bedded"?

I would. Put it all away for her future higher education needs if you can live without it.