What would you say to your 20 year old self?

[Prontehpronto]

Hey, with the benefit of hindsight what would you tell or advise your 20 year old self?

Look after your body, treat it well, don’t put on the weight as it will takes years and decades to lose and will impair your future life. Health and well-being is the most important thing and being grossly overweight ruins your health and your life. You just don’t realise until you’re middle aged and it starts to let you down via diabetes, joint problems etc.

You are not fat!

You're beautiful, clever and worthy.

Don't define yourself by relationships and aim much higher in everything. You are worth it.

Prioritise yourself. Self esteem is not a sin.

Push and push until you get a diagnosis for your stomach problems because once it's well managed you'll be fine. Until then, you'll miss out on so many opportunities.

Aim higher. Expect more.

Leave the alcoholic sooner.
You do have ADHD, but you’re bright and you need to put more work in. Your best friend is a slacker but you don’t need to be.
Don’t bother about going home: you’ll never get what you need there. Your dad’s an arse and won’t change.

@beguilingeyes oh I'm so sorry, that must have been awful at the time! Did you get over it? Was your best friend very attractive by any chance? I'm ashamed to admit this now at 38, but when I was younger i was very insecure and would never introduce guys i fancied or who i was dating to attractive women i knew, or women who i thought they may fancy. Kept them totally separate as something like your story was my worst fear. It might have been different for you however xx

Don't marry him, say no.

Take the local job, not the London one.

Not really, and no. She was just incredibly conniving and manipulative. Everyone could see it but him.

Stop trying to save people. That's their own job and they will drain you.
No normal 35 year old is interested in a 20 year old.
Don't be nice to rude people

Don't marry him. It won't end well.
Don't spend money doing post graduate degrees.
Use sunscreen
Get diet sorted now.
Keep in touch with your friends.