What’s the oldest person you know to have their first baby conceived naturally?

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Dh’s friend was 49 when she had her child.

Just wondered what age you know of for people to have their first, conceived without help.

Wow, you really don’t know anyone who has conceived their first baby after the grand old age of 31?! 😮

@Beth8307 - Congratulations! X

Had tried conceiving for years and eventually accepted it wasn't to be. Happiest day of our lives when I got pregnant at 50! Very straight forward pregnancy and birth (being fit and healthy helped). DS is now 14 and (mostly!) an absolute joy♥️. I'm retired with lots of hobbies and DH works part-time through choice (money no issue). Lots of time, patience and life experiences to bring to parenthood. Love every minute and still have to pinch myself sometimes that I'm actually a mum!

That's an irresponsible and cruel thing to say. Menopause babies happen and if they are loved and cared for how is it a bad thing? Older parents usually have more money, a more stable relationship and are generally more confident in themselves and so have several advantages over younger parents.

Average life expectancy is in the early 80s so a child born to a woman in her 40s can have every expectation that they will be an adult when their parents die. In fact, since there is a correlation between having a late pregnancy and becoming a centenarian a child born to someone in their 40s may well be older when their parent dies than a child born to someone in their 20s (since both young motherhood and early death are linked to lower socio-economic groups).

There is no right time to have a child and none of us know when we shall die.

My granny was 45 when she had the oops baby. My grandpa was 48. She was still energetic - he was just too old for it all (according to her - he does long before I was born).

my friend was 44. Her partner was 39.

My great aunt got PG for the first time at 46 and had her DD at 47 in 1947.

It is a big deal really. Pregnancy after 45 is "unlikely" for most women, chances of miscarriage are high and risk to mother and baby are statistically significant.

I don't think "tonnes" of women are having babies in their late 40s and it is quite a big deal.

A friend had hers at 46. She thought they couldn’t have kids as they’d not used contraception for the 20 years they’d been together so the baby was a bit of a surprise!

My mum was 45 when she got pregnant with me - 46 when I born.

First babies, no.

But those with large families often do. Especially pre-contraception. My family history has women giving birth to their 12th child at 48/49. Many times over. And this was in the 1930s and 40s. Not saying it was good, but more common than you’d think.

49, after a decade + of trying.

52 she was horrified and gave up the dog she’d just bought because she didn’t think she could cope with both! Baby and mum doing just fine (and the dog is living his best life elsewhere).

40 for a first baby. 45 for a last baby born in 1940.

Relative had her one and only at 44

49 is terrifying 🤣

Yes, it wasn’t unusual to continue having babies right until menopause. It’s only having a first baby later that is a comparatively new development.

Also some people do fib - my relative did. Said she had a miracle baby when in fact she had donor eggs.

Dont get me started on celebrities who claim they had no help with their very late pregnancies. Probably the same ones who say that they are wrinkle free because they drink lots of water.

44 for a first baby

Quite a few of my friends and relatives are currently pregnant in their early 40s, but they all already have children

Exactly! These celebrities, even with no fertility problems, have IVF in order to screen the embryos. That's why you have these older celebrities with boy/girl twins, or a boy followed closely by a girl.
Many also have assisted conception.
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I really feel for your relative. How her baby was conceived is a very private thing. How did you find out? Did she confide in you or did you hear it through the family jingle drums.

It is still her miracle baby no matter how it was conceived - I hope you are her champion not her detractor.

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I definitely 100% know of two people who conceived naturally in their 40s.

One was my ex-husband's (now ex) girlfriend who conceived her first baby at 42. It was an accidental pregnancy and my ex-husband would never in a million years go through IVF (as he has too many kids already 😂 he would definitely not make more on purpose). He does however sleep around unprotected.

My colleague and friend conceived her first baby at 44. She was very open about wanting to start IVF and just as she was about to go in for a consultation to have fertility treatment, she fell pregnant naturally.

Both had healthy babies.