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Does anyone else absolutely hate a head massage at the hair dressers?

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PersonalBest · 11/04/2025 16:45

I get so cross repressing the urge to tell them to just fucking wash my hair that my blood pressure goes through the roof. God I hate it.

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RampantIvy · 11/04/2025 22:32

Cosyvibes · 11/04/2025 22:28

Hate getting my hair washed and the massage. Then when it's done and they half arse put the hair towel on and drips are plopping down my face... for the love of God!!! Can we get a better system it's all an awkward faff!

You need a better hairdresser. Go elsewhere.

PonyPatter44 · 11/04/2025 22:47

Is there a reason why you can't just say, "don't worry about the head massage"?

borntobequiet · 11/04/2025 22:52

I have a dry cut because I hate having my hair washed or worse a head massage. Luckily my hairdresser trained years ago in a salon that did a lot of dry cutting and is really good at it. Plus my hair is easy.

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Walkingwithdinosaurs · 11/04/2025 22:55

RampantIvy · 11/04/2025 21:57

Er, no it isn't an assault. It is perhaps an imposition, but it isn't an assault.

That is being rather melodramatic.

@Walkingwithdinosaurs why don't you go to a different salon? They aren't all like that.

Honestly, the fuss some people make about goint to the hairdresser is ridiculous.

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I have am almost 45 so been round quite a few… still the same and still hate it. It’s a necessity unfortunately because I need my roots done.

Viviennemary · 11/04/2025 22:56

Me. I always refuse when it's been offered. I don't want my head messed about with thanks.

NomNomNominativeDeterminism · 11/04/2025 23:39

I would say no thanks if asked - but when someone just starts without asking I feel too awkward and indeed churlish to say ‘please could you stop doing that’ / ‘I don’t want a head massage thanks.’ It feels rude to reject something that someone young has been told they have to do on the assumption that all the clients love it. In their shoes I’d feel bad about doing something someone didn’t like. I don’t want to make someone feel bad. So I grit my teeth and wait it out. But it makes me cringe.

it is much easier for them to ask first than for you to stop them once they’ve started. You can say no thanks, they can just not do it, it’s no issue. And if someone answers ‘why yes it is my favourite part of the haircut experience, pray continue,’ then win win it’s all positive.

If asking first has become the trend, I applaud it.

Cosyvibes · 12/04/2025 03:27

nearly 50 been through a lot of hairdressers in different countries and areas since the age of 8. All the same unfortunately.... always the same drip drip....

if you are a hairdresser reading this. For the love of God... please revolutionary hairdressing experience for clients.

Wouldn't let me tag RampantIvy

SmoothEncounter · 12/04/2025 12:04

@blueshoesyoure offending anyone who has actually been assaulted. Ridiculous use of the word. Get over yourself.

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