What have you accepted about yourself as you've got older .

[GreenCandleWarmth]

I'm late 30s and in a period of acceptance I suppose. I accept I'm a bit selfish. I accept that I have made major mistakes. I accept that I probably could be a better daughter, wife and employee but life is busy!

I will never be able to parallel park. Just can't do it 😭🤷

I'm in my 40s and I've accepted that I'm just not a very good friend.

I struggle staying in touch with anyone on a regular basis, if someone needs a favour then Im more than happy to do it, but I cant deal with the expectations of friendships, so I've stopped making friends and life is much easier.

I used to be such a people pleaser. I even got married when I didn't want too! I've also accepted I'm probably not the best mum but I try.

I don’t like noisy busy places, just not for me- so I avoid as much as possible

I've accepted that I've done my best and I am allowed to put my needs first sometimes. Be kind to yourself OP!

I also used to be a people pleaser. I have accepted now that if certain people dont like me, thats perfectly fine. I dont like everyone I meet either. It doesnt reflect on my value as a person or theirs. It's very liberating.

I have also accepted that I cannot be responsible for anyone else's feelings and it's not my responsibility to fix their problems for them. I can support them, but ultimately, their problems are theirs to solve and taking that away from them is actually preventing them from developing problem solving skills.

Really recommend Let Them by Mel Robbins for anyone struggling with this

That I'm not much of a people person. I like socialising with friends and family to a point. My social battery drains and I crave alone time

I'm just not very sociable and I also hate talking on the phone. I literally tell people not to bother calling me now because my phone is on silent and even if it's not I openly admit I'll just ignore them. Send a fucking text.

Agree with this. Hate talking on the phone. I find it intrusive for some reason!
I've also learned to accept my body shape. Still don’t like it but don’t beat myself up over it anymore.

That I am ok being on my own. First time ever and I have survived. I have embraced running a house, taking charge of finances and everything else that has to be done. I have a fab group of friends, who I love and adore.

50 and accept I am not like other people
not , sure if I want an achual label but I fuck up constantly and it has to be pathological

also unless I do something really drastic I’m not ever going to be slim

don’t like fruit , I bought it constantly in my 20’s always had fruit bowl like my parents , it rotted , I threw it out , and bought more nuts !

That it is acceptable to put yourself first, to prioritise your needs. That getting older is okay and can be fun.

Also I've accepted 1 child is enough. I have no idea how people cope with 2 plus kids.

That I will always be just a little bit fat

that I'd never ride through Paris in a sports car with the warm wind in my hair.

Same. I'm visiting family next week and one of them said to stay with her mum but I'd rather die. I'm happier escaping in the evenings and staying in/paying for a hotel.

That I hate driving down country lanes because I’m shit at reversing and always will be!

Also that it’s ok to not love going out and to prefer nights in on the sofa with my husband, nice food and the tv!

I’m 46!

I'm 60 and still park run but will never run a personal best again, no matter how fit I am.🙁

The age adjusted value isn't as satisfying.

YES ABSOLUTELY I don't need very much from a friendship, if anything, and I'm actually happier just chit chatting in shops.

I have learnt that it is OK to just be me, even though I will never measure up to other people's expectations because I am not one of the cool kids and never will be! I have always been, and still am, too eccentric/weird for that.

Also, my appearance does not matter, because if I can't see it, then it's not my problem! Thus, I've given up trying to control my hair, which runs wild and free regardless of what anyone does with it. I also work with men, who do not helpfully point out the terrible state of my hair/clothes/skin, or bang on about how I NEED to be in a relationship. I do not!

I’ve learnt that my parents did their best but they have always been emotionally unavailable and that has impacted negatively on myself and my siblings. In accepting that I can accept them for who they are and know that none of us will ever have a deep emotional connection with them but they’re not bad people.

I’ve learnt that I don’t have to take on the role of mediator, it’s not my job to balance and support other people’s relationships to each other if it is detrimental to me.

I’ve learnt to accept my circumstances and take joy in what I have in my life.

I’ll never have thin thighs or look good in any kind of swimsuit or be beautiful.

That I'm not, and never will be, a natural public speaker.

That I'm quite quiet and reserved, and don't have to be the life and soul of the party - it's OK to be more of an observer.

That I can't be responsible for other people's feelings. I am respectful and fair, and I try to approach my dealings with others with kindness, but I can't make others happy if they don't want to be.

That I'm actually a really nice person.

Only took me 56 years to get there!

That I’m not physically adventurous. I get no adrenaline rush from fairground rides, fast cars, I’ve no desire to gallop on a horse or parachute jump.
im slow and gentle and get a great deal of joy from being outside and taking notice of my surroundings. And thats ok. (See also I will never enjoy running)

Don't ever give up this dream