What have you accepted about yourself as you've got older .

[GreenCandleWarmth]

I'm late 30s and in a period of acceptance I suppose. I accept I'm a bit selfish. I accept that I have made major mistakes. I accept that I probably could be a better daughter, wife and employee but life is busy!

@Walkinginthesandagain go to Paris. Hire a sports car and DO IT. life is too short x

I will never be able play the Minute Waltz.
I can’t afford Botox or a face lift so I have to accept I look like Keith Richard.
I will probably never have a Pomeranian.

The reversing - but I'm 56 and live in the country

So many of these resonate with me - in theory I like socialising but overall give me a night on the sofa watching crap tv with DH and a glass of something

I overthink stuff- need to stop procrastinating about going away and leave DS 17 on his own for 2 weeks (he has been offered to cone with us but doesn't want to )

I will never be anything other than overweight.

Don't give up that dream!

I thought I'd never achieve my dream of driving a Mustang convertible with the top down along Highway 1 in California with the Pacific Ocean to my side. I did it eventually for a milestone birthday. It was fabulous!

Been to Paris. Can't drive. Hair now so fine I'd be scared it would blow awtay.

I can though potter in my garden and relish the fact that this is something I prefer to do than playing the imaginery lead in a 60s movie.

I don't like socialising in groups and I don't like socialising where there is loud music and/or an expectation of dancing. For years I thought I was an introvert but now I realise I'm a massive extrovert who just loves being with people one on one and able to chat.

That I will never enjoy camping or hiking, and it's fine to say it's not for me.

That I don’t like going out at night and that’s ok. I don’t want to go to pubs or bars or have nights out.
I felt guilty and ‘boring’ all my adult life for it, but now I realise it’s absolutely fine. I’m very active during the day and work full time, so if I want to chill at home in the evenings I am allowed to.

Thought of another one - I don't enjoy group holidays as I find there's so much compromise and faffing about waiting for the whole group to be ready for anything. It's fine to never do these.

You could go back to Paris with someone who can drive and wear a headscarf with sunglasses - you'll look and feel wonderful!

I’m 50, and I’ll never look like I’m 25 again. I’m fine with it. I don’t feel pressured to spend a fortune on extortionate skin care (which only works in people’s imaginations) or have shit pumped into my face. I shouldn’t be expected to look two decades younger than I actually am.

I've accepted that I'm never going to be a Member of Parliament because I'm too old now and I don't think I have a thick enough skin for all the social media abuse.

You never know, unexpected things can happen at any age. I rode through Paris in a VW Beetle sports car with a coolish wind in my hair when I was 43.

That my career took a massive nosedive in my 30s for many reasons and at 50 I have male peers who have zoomed ahead of me. I’m still a very senior member of staff, but I’ll never make it to be the big boss. But I’ve realised that I love my life as it is and I’d have struggled to manage home and work if I had.

I don’t have to keep quiet and accept bad treatment by toxic family members. I can stand up for myself and make a fuss and it’s ok if others blame me for making trouble. I’d rather they were pissed off at me than me being pissed off at my toxic relatives.

I’m also beginning to realise I don’t actually like my parents. Not sure if I even love them. That’s probably the first time I’ve said that out loud.

There are very few people I know I really like, less whom I love.

I am inherently lazy and if something hasn’t got a deadline (or will affect my kids) it probably won’t happen.

I will probably never have sex again. 😬 which irks me somewhat as I starred late, had very few boyfriends and my DP has zero interest in me.

I’m with you. I need the space of two cars to manage to parallel park my own small hatchback.

That i'm just going to fuck up like a normally do, no matter what i do

I’ll never be a size 8 again. My filter is broken. I don’t like alcohol or socialising with drunk people and that’s ok.

That people pleasing was just a front I put on when I was younger because I feared rejection, and that actually my true nature isn’t that self-sacrificing, and that’s ok.

That I believed I was a “people person”, and now I know I’m not.

That I’m a bit lazy.

That I’ve screwed up my chances of a career.

That I will never have good health again.

I love this thread! So many of you are saying things that I feel about myself but I give myself such a hard time for feeling that way and overthink so much that I’m so unhappy. I would love to get to a place of acceptance like this!

What do you mean by fuck up constantly?

I am 53. I don't need to look like I am 33 and I don't need to have Botox or filler pumped into my face. I can have wrinkles and jowls just like DH. I am more than my appearance.

Oh yes.
I also now continue to sometimes go places with colleagues, but I will make my own way there even if we're leaving from the same place. I just cannot be doing with coordinating a group going somewhere, waiting for person a, losing person b because they went to look for person a...

Being over 70 it’s absolutely fine to do whatever you like, whenever you want and, providing it doesn’t cause harm or is illegal, probably no one will give a toss!
Life’s too short to be worrying about what others think.