What have you accepted about yourself as you've got older .

[GreenCandleWarmth]

I'm late 30s and in a period of acceptance I suppose. I accept I'm a bit selfish. I accept that I have made major mistakes. I accept that I probably could be a better daughter, wife and employee but life is busy!

I've accepted that my hair is not straight.

I've accepted that I will never really recover from childhood abuse.
That the aforementioned abuse has made me scared stiff of the world and the people that bound about in it, that fear has made my life small and I underachieve.

I will never lose that ten pounds.

I have Complex PTSD and so will never really be "normal".

It's perfectly fucking acceptable for a 45 year old woman to pretend her sweeping brush is a guitar and to rock out in her own kitchen.

I prefer dogs and cats to most humans.

I feel at my absolute most peaceful in a small coat off the west coast of Ireland whale watching.

I am a shit friend and find it difficult to maintain relationships of any kind.

I have noise sensitivity and those earplugs I ordered will help, and not make me look like a twat.

Gosh, so much. Ones that spring to mind:

1. I put weight on on my face and simply have no choice but to be skinny if I want to look normal and not like a blowfish. Absolutely no getting around this / no amount of contouring helps.
2. I am a commitmentphobe and push decent men away
3. I am self-focused
4. I like young men and am a cougar in the making
5. I like money - earning it, saving it, spending it
6. I love beer, champagne and tequila, and doing ‘dry’ anything is a miserable waste of time
7. I claim not to give a shit about ageing but I spend a fortune on skin care and treatments so I obviously do

Tick, tick, tick, tick, tick!

Also tick! I think we’d get on 😂

I'm an awkward beggar

I'm very quick at doing things

Ooh yeah I'm another one who looks awful with a fat face -

I'm really quite vain but try not to show it

I’m not well liked.

I’d do anything for anyone, and would give my last penny if you needed it, but I’m not a hugger and people think I’m standoffish. Used to bother me but now I realise I’ll always just be invited to make up the numbers or as an afterthought.

That people are sometimes 'put off' me because I have a resting bitch face but I now understand it's their problem and not mine.
That I'll never take a tan no matter how much I sit out in the sun so I just shouldn't bother my arse any more and sit in the shade where I'm more comfortable.

That I am not 'too much' I am a fire that burns, and if you feel the need to put that out, you are not my person!

I am the same. I attend a regular hobby group with two ladies on my road. I always meet them there even though we could walk together because I don't have the energy for running ten mins late, or can we meet on the corner instead of my house, or can you bring a spare pencil etc etc.

Just me and you now singing the song, then ... ?

I do not like sunbathing. Sitting in the shade doesn't make me a party pooper.

Wait til your in your late 40’s when you don’t give a fuck about anything!

So many of these things sound like me as well. I've accepted that my sense of direction is totally shit so I will get lost just about anywhere (except Milton Keynes, weirdly).

That I'm not going to change the world, and most things don't really matter.

That health is a priority.
That I people please and never will again.
Puttjhb myself first now ' at 54.

I'm that age and it hasn't happened to me yet!

Of course there are certain things that I never cared about, looking/being cool/popular, etc.

With people who don't like me, there's something - I do not know what it is - that makes a certain kind of person assume that I am thinking and feeling the very worst things. It's happened quite a few times (most obviously with my father) that they will let slip that they think I am trying to do things I'd never do, like be manipulative or judge them in a particular way. These days I just move on, but when I was younger I didn't understand that they thought so badly of me, and of course blamed myself for how they were feeling. I am just not a conniving person at all (sometimes I wish I was) but I give off those vibes to some. Hey ho.

I'm 40 and am just accepting that I can't drink in moderation and so just shouldn't drink.

I'm trying to accept / come to terms with not having a child as my partner and I have fertility issues. That is much, much harder to accept.

I’ve accepted that I am marmite for people. People really like me or really dislike me. And I know in seconds which it is. And I no longer focus on those who dislike me because there is nothing I can do to change their opinion.

It's taken over sixty years to admit to myself that I'm not good at anything. I'm happier now that I can stop trying.

I think you're still blaming yourself a bit. I don't know about your DF, but for other people it could just be random things like you remind them of someone that used to not be nice to them or whatever.

So many things.

That I'm hard work and people don't really like me.
That I don't like to travel.
That I am not a great lover.
That I am never going to make a mark.

And a positive one:

That I am kinder and more forgiving than most.

Oh no! I was hoping I'd find something eventually!