They lied about their reason for going on a trip

[LillylollyAndy]

I hope the person this is about doesn’t see this.
someone I met recently mentioned they wouldn’t be here as usual on monday, because they were going to a wedding over the weekend and needed to sleep it off.
they complained they would have to travel back on Sunday with no sleep because their wife has an important job in a role that works with the vulnerable so they can’t miss work on the Monday.
I have found out through publicly available social media posts that they had actually gone on a romantic weekend get away away for their birthday with their wife.
I also found out that their wife currently works as a regular employee, a laborious job in a factory which she presents online.
but I’m just thinking, why lie?

I used to have a friend that lied constantly “oh I’m going to see this band this weekend” then on the Monday regale me with their entire night. But I knew that they were lying, the band wasn’t even in the uk at the time.
this is just one example but they lied about mundane things like what they had for dinner etc.
she was a lovely woman but I just couldn’t deal with the lies anymore and had to break the friendship.

some people just lie, their lives are so ‘normal’ that even when they do something exciting or different they STILL lie.

Some people just love lying. I know someone who would lie about that. I think he gets a thrill out of someone believing his lies 🙄 He'd tell you he was going to the shop for milk rather than bread just to keep things interesting. It can be an addiction.

I've know idea why he would have lied, I can see why it would bug you, especially as you didn't ask for details and he volunteered the info, albeit made up info.

I've come to the conclusion that some people are born liars and fantasists.

I had a best friend, we she shared in many conversations over the years. I thought we knew each other inside and out. It turns out that a lot of what she told me was made up.

Someone else, who lived on our street when we were kids, well, nothing much that came out of his mouth was ever the truth. The worst one perhaps was as he got older and started losing his hair, he began telling people he was being treated for testicular cancer. Why? No one knows. He was just a bullshitter.

If you decide to mention it to him, do update us. Curious as to why he made it up...

Why does anyone owe you the truth in this sort of situation?

Ok so I can understand why you’re frustrated with being lied to. But this is someone you’ve met recently (so you don’t really know them) and apparently you’re not involved with. It feels a massive leap to go deep diving into both their social media’s.

my guess is he has told you the truth (cause why would he lie) as he understands it. Maybe the wife used the wedding as an excuse to get him away for a romantic weekend as a birthday surprise. Maybe part of the weekend was a wedding as they were asked not to post on socials until the bride and groom do (lots are doing this now). As for the wife’s job, yes she may work in a factory but she could also work with vulnerable people. It could be getting into work schemes, apprenticeships for care leavers, jobs for homeless etc or she could have 2 jobs. Personally as someone who worked with vulnerable people, a lot of us work multiple jobs and I won’t be posting the service users on social media.

all of that is really irrelevant though. It’s not his actions or behaviours that come across problematic. Attachment to people is an important skill and I have a feeling you are developing an unhealthy attachment to him/them. I think most people would take someone they’ve just met at their word on their weekend plans. Be happy that they had some romantic time with their wife and not delve through her social media. You use negative language to describe her job, putting her down for a job you know nothing about. And seem frustrated he was away with his wife for the weekend. None of this is healthy so if you’ve developed romantic feelings or attachment to this person, take a step back and put boundaries in place. He’s not yours, he owes you no explanation about his private life and his wife’s career choices are not for you to judge.

Why do you hope they won't see your post ? So what it they see it. If you got something to say, say it don't be 2 faced

Just joining in with the confusion re ops level of 'intrigue' into this random man and his life and why it matters so much to her!

I'm confused I thought you was his manager? Has the employee had to many absences? Are you both just colleagues?? Cz if so your not best friends and even if you were my best friend since reception doesn't know what I do on the weekend and I don't ignore what she does when though we speak almost daily on weekdays and prob see each other once a week if we can. Your very obsessive and maybe abit worrying.. Relax he don't owe you nothing. Maybe he shoud see this post.