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They lied about their reason for going on a trip

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LillylollyAndy · 31/03/2025 19:32

I hope the person this is about doesn’t see this.
someone I met recently mentioned they wouldn’t be here as usual on monday, because they were going to a wedding over the weekend and needed to sleep it off.
they complained they would have to travel back on Sunday with no sleep because their wife has an important job in a role that works with the vulnerable so they can’t miss work on the Monday.
I have found out through publicly available social media posts that they had actually gone on a romantic weekend get away away for their birthday with their wife.
I also found out that their wife currently works as a regular employee, a laborious job in a factory which she presents online.
but I’m just thinking, why lie?

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OneEdgyScroller · 31/03/2025 20:22

Not sure why everyone is giving you the business on wondering why they lied. I am wondering too, since it doesn't seem like it warranted a lie for any reason. Its not like they said they cant work because their child is in the hospital and instead went to Paris for the weekend.
The whole thing is bizarre.

TooBigForMyBoots · 31/03/2025 20:23

LillylollyAndy · 31/03/2025 19:55

I know it’s not my business. My point is, why lie?

Because he's a liar. Some people are, it's what they do and he's one of them.🤷‍♀️

ManHereSorry · 31/03/2025 20:27

If some weird woman was stalking my movements I’d also lie about what I was up to.

SheilaFentiman · 31/03/2025 20:28

Maybe is his wife is doing voluntary work or has a vulnerable relative, and he disguised it slightly?

Maybe he didn’t want a lot of laddish waheys if he said it was a romantic weekend?

Mayhe he suspects someone of stalking him, so he has seeded half a dozen different stories to see who h one ends up on MN?

I find my life goes better if I do not friend or otherwise follow any current colleagues on social media. If we are ex colleagues and still mates, then yes. Otherwise, it can blur boundaries. As you are doing.

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LillylollyAndy · 31/03/2025 20:29

ManHereSorry · 31/03/2025 20:27

If some weird woman was stalking my movements I’d also lie about what I was up to.

I’m not sure why everyone thinks I am a stalker
i searched for him online this once. I haven’t done it before. i got the feeling that something was off about what he was telling me due to the way he was acting
he clearly had no idea that I would search for his posts online
I don’t enquire about his life he tells me things that I didn’t ask for off his own accord.
I am a reserved and quiet person that doesn’t speak much

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ForTealBee · 31/03/2025 20:32

I don’t understand why you care?

one of my colleagues is off next week because she’s on holiday. She’s not said any more than that and I don’t feel the need to know?

rosehipstalk · 31/03/2025 20:33

Loads of reasons:

  1. maybe the romantic getaway was a surprise for his wife and he didnt want to tell you as it was a secret
  2. maybe he felt he had to justify a more "legit" reason for a weekend away and needing monday off- some people feel guilty for taking time off so might embellish or make excuses
  3. maybe he doesnt know you very well (since you said you met recently) and didnt feel comfortable sharing private romantic getaway details with you
  4. maybe he got his weekends mixed up and the wedding is in a couple of weeks time so they went away instead
  5. maybe he started to say wedding (but meant something else) and then had to run with it because it would look weird changing the story- ive done this before, mixed up dates and then been embarrassed to change the details later on, it wasnt deliberate
  6. maybe he feels its none of your business so just said anything that came to mind
Mbhhhvff · 31/03/2025 20:36

You sound over-invested in someone you haven’t long met who you aren’t romantically involved with.
He probably hasn’t told you because it isn’t your business to know, and if you aren’t a friend on his social media then he’s not to know you would stalk him down. I wouldn’t recommend you telling him you did that otherwise he will think you are mad.

79Beastie · 31/03/2025 20:42

Just call him him. They them and their is just annoying. You said ' I should add he was complaining that his wife was making him go-to the weddybut it was all for him anyway' so just use him and he 🙄

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LillylollyAndy · 31/03/2025 20:45

rosehipstalk · 31/03/2025 20:33

Loads of reasons:

  1. maybe the romantic getaway was a surprise for his wife and he didnt want to tell you as it was a secret
  2. maybe he felt he had to justify a more "legit" reason for a weekend away and needing monday off- some people feel guilty for taking time off so might embellish or make excuses
  3. maybe he doesnt know you very well (since you said you met recently) and didnt feel comfortable sharing private romantic getaway details with you
  4. maybe he got his weekends mixed up and the wedding is in a couple of weeks time so they went away instead
  5. maybe he started to say wedding (but meant something else) and then had to run with it because it would look weird changing the story- ive done this before, mixed up dates and then been embarrassed to change the details later on, it wasnt deliberate
  6. maybe he feels its none of your business so just said anything that came to mind
  1. he was acting like he didn’t want to go to the wedding, and his wife was making him. It wasn’t a wedding it was a trip for him for his birthday. I don’t know his wife personally. he knows I don’t know his wife. (Found out through Facebook)
  2. Why would a wedding be any more legitimate than a weekend away for his birthday. Why would I care either way why he was going away
  3. i didn’t ask for details. And he could have just said he was going away?
  4. no, he told me just before the weekend
  5. I doubt it
  6. Then he didn’t have to say anything could’ve just said he wouldn’t be here on Monday because he needed to be somewhere he didn’t have to make up a story
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SheilaFentiman · 31/03/2025 20:47

I’m not sure why everyone thinks I am a stalker
i searched for him online this once. I haven’t done it before. i got the feeling that something was off about what he was telling me due to the way he was acting

Because most people would go “oh, that wedding thing sounds a bit weird, ah well, none of my business”

He presumably told you this on Friday and it played on your mind enough to check up on it on Sunday or Monday. And to check on his wife as well, who I assume you have never met.

To compound this, instead of going “I was right! I thought it sounded odd” or at most, saying something to a friend, you started a thread on here, as if you can’t get it out of your head.

Those are the things that sound stalky.

BlondiePortz · 31/03/2025 20:48

LillylollyAndy · 31/03/2025 19:51

I had a feeling he wasnt being honest

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And?

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LillylollyAndy · 31/03/2025 20:50

SheilaFentiman · 31/03/2025 20:47

I’m not sure why everyone thinks I am a stalker
i searched for him online this once. I haven’t done it before. i got the feeling that something was off about what he was telling me due to the way he was acting

Because most people would go “oh, that wedding thing sounds a bit weird, ah well, none of my business”

He presumably told you this on Friday and it played on your mind enough to check up on it on Sunday or Monday. And to check on his wife as well, who I assume you have never met.

To compound this, instead of going “I was right! I thought it sounded odd” or at most, saying something to a friend, you started a thread on here, as if you can’t get it out of your head.

Those are the things that sound stalky.

Oh ok.
I just wanted to know why he might have been lying
thought mumsnet could help me figure it out

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SheilaFentiman · 31/03/2025 20:54

You’ve been given a few possibilities.

But why do you care if some random told you something that wasn’t true? Just nod and smile and discount things he says going forwards.

CarefulN0w · 31/03/2025 20:57

Did he have today off? If so im going with he told his boss it was a wedding to get the annual leave and then embellished it for you to hope that would back up his silly lie. Obviously it didn’t work because your spidey senses picked up something was off.

Missj25 · 31/03/2025 20:59

What do you mean by someone you met recently ?
Work , hobby , what ?

NoIroningSheets · 31/03/2025 21:02

Damnloginpopup · 31/03/2025 19:38

My guess is that you're shagging him and he's bullshitting you.

Mine too.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 31/03/2025 21:07

Why do you think he might be lying?

It feels like there's something specific you are hoping people will come up with.

Are you attracted to him?

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LillylollyAndy · 31/03/2025 21:08

I’m surprised you wouldn’t be curious about why someone lied to you if it looked like they didn’t have to

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Sofiewoo · 31/03/2025 21:10

LillylollyAndy · 31/03/2025 21:08

I’m surprised you wouldn’t be curious about why someone lied to you if it looked like they didn’t have to

Someone you “just met” and your “had a feeling” they were lying about their weekend? Did it bother you that he was away with his wife or something?
Did he say for certain that he wasn’t at a wedding?
Plenty of people turn a wedding into a weekend away.

pizzaHeart · 31/03/2025 21:10

Oioisavaloy27 · 31/03/2025 20:15

Some people just lie just be wary of them in future because you may find that he lies about a lot of things.

Agree with this^
some of them even believe in their own lies.

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LillylollyAndy · 31/03/2025 21:12

Sofiewoo · 31/03/2025 21:10

Someone you “just met” and your “had a feeling” they were lying about their weekend? Did it bother you that he was away with his wife or something?
Did he say for certain that he wasn’t at a wedding?
Plenty of people turn a wedding into a weekend away.

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There was never a wedding
why would it bother me he was away with his wife
it bothers me he has lied for seemingly no reason

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Feelingstrange2 · 31/03/2025 21:12

Maybe his wife has a carer role in addition to her boring, laborious, lowly paid, day job

Missj25 · 31/03/2025 21:13

LillylollyAndy · 31/03/2025 21:08

I’m surprised you wouldn’t be curious about why someone lied to you if it looked like they didn’t have to

How come you’re being so shady
with ‘ someone I just met ‘ !
How did you meet this person?, I’m still not getting this !

Barrenfieldoffucks · 31/03/2025 21:16

LillylollyAndy · 31/03/2025 20:50

Oh ok.
I just wanted to know why he might have been lying
thought mumsnet could help me figure it out

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I think you're hoping people will tell you it is cause he fancies you and didn't want you to think he was in a loving relationship.