They lied about their reason for going on a trip

[LillylollyAndy]

I hope the person this is about doesn’t see this.
someone I met recently mentioned they wouldn’t be here as usual on monday, because they were going to a wedding over the weekend and needed to sleep it off.
they complained they would have to travel back on Sunday with no sleep because their wife has an important job in a role that works with the vulnerable so they can’t miss work on the Monday.
I have found out through publicly available social media posts that they had actually gone on a romantic weekend get away away for their birthday with their wife.
I also found out that their wife currently works as a regular employee, a laborious job in a factory which she presents online.
but I’m just thinking, why lie?

No but if that’s what you think

Are you going to say how you’ve met him 😂
if you’re not , I’m not reading this thread anymore 😂

I get why you are curious. I’d ask how the wedding was when you see him next and see what he says. It is a weird thing to lie about. Do you work together?

What's your relationship to this guy? It seems strange that you care he lied

I had a friend who turned out to be a pathological liar. People mentioned things to me but I discounted them until she started telling lies about events I was at with her. I'd challenge her but she'd just argue that I was wrong.

Once, sure I could have a bad memory. Frequently, when major things occurred? No I wasn't misremembering. I ended the friendship when I realized she was a liar.

Some people just enjoy fibbing and trying to see what they can pass over others. Stay friendly, noncommittal and far away from them.

What is your relationship to this person? Work colleagues? Social friends? How long have you known them? What’s the background?

Are they celebrating Eid today?

People lie all the time for different reasons.
If it doesn’t affect me I don’t care.

Does it matter why he lied?
Will anything about the situation be different depending on why he lied?

I'd someone I recently met and barely knew told me a pointless lie I'd think well, he's a twat and I'd forget about it.

Why is this taking up headspace for you? Why does he matter?

I think you need to stop stalking people and focus on your own life.
He probably lied to throw you off the scent.

Maybe his wife told him it was a wedding of one of her friends or something but turned out to be a surprise getaway

That's a good point.

That is a possibility. but he knew it was his birthday and he lied about his wife’s job as well

Well as for reason 2- you clearly do care because you wouldn’t have started a thread about it otherwise. If you don’t care about something you’d just go huh, how odd, and the forget about it 2 mins later. It would go completely out of your mind. You wouldn’t be looking through his social media if you were completely indifferent to him or his wife.

You do care 🤷🏻‍♀️

I care that he lied not that he went away

Why do you care that he lied?

Why would I care either way why he was going away

Well, I don’t know why. But you clearly do care.

It’s easier to say I’m going to a wedding than explaining. I don’t like people knowing my business.

Clearly because they can sense something is off with you. The SM searching is odd.

Ok

Simple answer: He is a pathological liar, full stop! Not every human behaviour needs to be scrutinised and analysed.

Now, shall we all ask you: Why is it that fascinates you soo much about this guy? that got you stalking his social media? his wifes? and write a post about it on here????

something is amiss..

someone I met recently mentioned they wouldn’t be here as usual on monday

Wouldn't be here on MumsNet, or somewhere else?

If you want to know why they've (apparently) lied, all you can do is tell them you've seen the SM stuff and noticed a discrepancy versus what they'd previously told you. But you'll have no way of knowing if any answer they give you to that - if they even offer an answer - is truthful or not.

I’m getting roasted on here
I don’t like confrontation so I didn’t want to ask him

Honestly having just read your posts OP, it sounds like he's been flirting with you and clumsily falling into telling you the stereotypes of "my wife doesn't understand me, we are just friends, I only spend time with her out of obligation" (in this case, a booooring wedding rather than the truth of romantic weekend away).

He's creating a fantasy double life in his head. Don't be swept away. Keep him at arms length.

But why do you care so much? You went and searched his social media for evidence of his movements and that's just not a normal thing to do when some random you barely know has said something to you.

A normal interaction would have been

I'm going to a wedding, won't be in on Monday

Ok.

Instead you stalked his social media and are spending your days analysing his lie.

Why? What for?

What's the point?