Could you be with someone really dumb if they were super hot?

[HermioneWeasley]

I don’t think I could for any length of time.

sometimes you see a celebrity who is gorgeous and then you hear them being interviewed and they’re boring or stupid or vapid and all attraction just goes.

has anyone traded off brains for looks?

No, I had a bit of a fling with a hot but not very bright guy at uni and it wore thin very quickly

Absolutely spot on - kindness is the most important factor for me. They could be super smart but still a massive dick! I was a kind partner

The really intelligent ones can run rings around you, you have to be careful what you wish for.

No, but I will put up with almost anything in the looks/body department for someone who is super-intelligent.

Nah. Found out early. Had the hottest boy in school in my class. The whole school swooned over him from day one. Within 3 weeks no one had was interested he had not one ounce of common sense. Never looked at him again. Recently saw he'd died young, not even 40.
Still sexy as hell but naaaaaah he literally had no brain cells sadly.

Oh yes! I'd need to be able to watch Only Connect and University Challenge with a man, and know he could get a few questions right, but if he couldn't even answer questions on the Chase it would put me right off.

I think what most people are saying is that what they want is an intellectual equal and presume many of the people answering would consider themselves to be above average intelligence, so there must also be lots of women who don't consider themselves particularly bright/intelligent/academic, who would match up well with these men.
I actually hate it when people use the word dumb to describe someone they consider less intelligent than them.

Firstly, I know a couple where the woman is much smarter than the man (looks wise they are pretty equal). But he comes from a lovely family and is sweet and kind whereas her previous boyfriend was her intellectual equal but a horrible person who treated her badly. They have been happily married for decades because she has made a choice that works for her.

Secondly, there's a difference between intelligence and educational achievement. This is a great video showing how people make assumptions about intelligence. FWIW I thought it was very obvious who the least intelligent one was but I'm much older and have more life experience than the people on the video.

Thirdly, people here are saying they like intelligence but we don't know how intelligent they themselves are. People find their level and generally end up with people who are reasonably equal to themselves by multiple characteristics. So an average looks and intelligence person may say they find good looks less important than intelligence but they are likely to end up with someone who is also of average looks and intelligence.

Completely agree with those saying there’s a difference between being clever and being academic or an intellectual. I’m not an intellectual, I love a hallmark movie and a bonkbuster. one of the cleverest people I know left school with no Alevels.

I did! When I was younger. Absolutely gorgeous man , amazing body. He was ….shallow. But I still think of him. Ended when he asked me
to move in. I said no. Things just tailed off. I think he wanted me to do his laundry and make his pack-ups. But man…he was so very very beautiful on the outside.

They would not be super hot to me whatever they looked like....It's personality / conversation / drive / intelligence / ambition etc that drives my flutters !! Then the rest becomes hot

No. Intelligence is a big factor for me.

Besides which, my definition of 'hot' doesn't seem to align with most people's!

The video doesn't indicate who is the most or least intelligent. It indicates who is best and worst at sitting IQ tests which is a measure of a certain type of intelligence only. It doesn't measure EQ or social intelligence. It also fails miserably when dealing with people with neurodivergence as the woman with dyslexia pointed out. And we are all I'm sure aware that dyslexia does not indicate any lack of intelligence.

Nope. Looks fade or can change quickly. Stupid will always be there unfortunately.

My partner has no academic qualifications, in fact no qualifications at all and I think has read 1 book.
However, he's worked hard and has a well paid job.
He's also practically really clever...I don't want an intellect who has no practical sense. Give me the hunk in that scenario.
My partner fits kitchens, hangs doors, really anything practical he just puts his hand to and with perfection not a shit job. He can just visualise what needs doing and does it. He's incredibly self motivated. None of this is his day job.
He's also got great emotional intelligence plus he's good looking...the fucker is getting better with age and at 50 something has the physique of a man 20 years younger.

Definitely definitely not. Part of being hot to me is being intelligent. In my much younger years I went on a date with a good looking but extremely unintelligent (to put it nicely) man...I could barely get through the date. It was excruciating.

No, I'm fussy. I want someone who is extremely knowledgeable in the areas in which I'm knowledgeable and some others, highly-educated, intellectually curious, very articulate in speech and writing, and who is also emotionally intelligent. Otherwise he could look like a Greek god and fuck like a stallion with a good line in foreplay, and I still would not fancy someone who abused semi-colons or said he'd read a book once, not sure what it was called but it had a red house on the cover.

Nope, I find intelligence to be a huge part of attraction. I just cannot be physically attracted to someone if they're not very clever; it's bloody boring. Twice in my life I've tried to give people the benefit of the doubt, and each time it was a disaster.

One was a date with a bloke who, whilst technically very good looking, had never read a book in his adult life. Twenty minutes into the date I felt like I wanted to sob with boredom. Left after an hour.

Second time was with an incredibly beautiful woman, but she truly was an airhead. I made an anti-Thatcher joke, and she asked "who?". Couldn't name the current PM either.

Both times their physical appearence and beauty immediately became meaningless to me - diminished, even. I just couldn't even think of them as good looking anymore. Thankfully DH is both handsome and intelligent! 😁

ETA - I do agree that intelligence comes in many different forms. For me, though, I need someone well read and academic. Common sense too, absolutely, but I need someone who can keep up with my interests.