Could you be with someone really dumb if they were super hot?

[HermioneWeasley]

I don’t think I could for any length of time.

sometimes you see a celebrity who is gorgeous and then you hear them being interviewed and they’re boring or stupid or vapid and all attraction just goes.

has anyone traded off brains for looks?

Nope. Tried it once. Was fun at first, but the attraction faded very quickly once I realised that there really was nothing much going on inside that beautiful head. Lovely guy in every other way.

I think I'd need to define dumb though

Intellectually dumb but socially wise - absolutely. A footballer or boxer who wasn't academic but could deal well with people would not be a problem for me at all

Socially unaware - no 🥺. Because I'm socially unaware 😭 so want a strong man who can protect and care for me

Strength, leadership, wisdom are super attractive for me, more than looks

A long term relationship would be impossible. To really connect with someone you need to establish some kind of intimacy, and you can't establish intimacy without conversation.

Still, cleverness isn't the same as intelligence. You can be clever without being intelligent. There are people with 150 point IQs but the emotional intelligence of a child. My partner is utterly hopeless at things like maths, physics and technology. He leaves everything even vaguely technological to me. But he's deep and sensitive and incredibly empathetic/intuitive. He sees through people almost before they speak. He's also very self-aware and very funny. He's well read and can spend hours discussing Shakespeare or Wilde or Aldous Huxley. It's just that his intellect is 'lopsided,' as he puts it – all verbal and emotional, nothing logical or mathematical. I'd describe him as extremely intelligent but not very clever.

The absolute worst is a man who is thick and shallow. I pity any woman trapped with a man like that. It would be far lonelier than living alone. I find shallow people kind of disturbing, tbh. It's like there's no one 'there', just a body. Actually, I'd rather be with a thick man who is deep and sensitive than a clever man who is shallow and cruel.

I love that sparring conversation you do when you're flirting with someone. You can't do that with someone dumb.

Absolutely not

Yes, also - shallow, I know - I'm put off by horrible looking handwriting. I'm very turned off by that over developed gym look - the v shaped body. Really unattractive to me.

A relationship? Fuck no

No. I would want someone with a similar level of intelligence.

No. I modelled a bit in my late teens and went out with a fellow model who I had absolutely lusted over. He was unspeakably beautiful.

We went out twice. The first time I gave him the benefit of the doubt. The second time, I had to accept he was as thick as mince and give up.

I think men don't have a problem with being with pretty vacant women - or men if they're gay - but women do.

No . They won't be hot forever .

Yes, I did for 2 years. I was once watching something about Christian missionaries and he asked me what I was watching. I told him and he thought it was a sex position. Wonderful person, extremely good looking, but could never have been the father of my children and I knew that after that incident.

I could, but I would get bored quickly. I did date a very attractive, seriously wealthy (inherited wealth) man when I was in my 20's.

Unfortunately he was dull as dishwater, no sense of humour, only thing he liked to do was talk about his business (he was a "property developer"). It was a five week fling, four and a half of which were deadly boring.

No, I would find it a massive turn off. What would we talk about?

Yes, for a month or two. And when I was young, free & single I had several enjoyable flings with hotties who were never going to be LTR material. Educationally & culturally we were on different planets, but it was fun while it lasted.

Not if they were really dumb, maybe if they were just a tiny bit dumb 😆

No, but I was with someone extremely hot but exceedingly mean for a long time. He was pretty smart and interesting though, which kept me in the relationship for longer than I should have.

Nope - tried it thinking I could make it work but had to move on!

actually I think it was mostly ok with it until he said ‘you’re way more intelligent than me.’ I preferred it being the elephant in the room. 😂

This is so heartbreaking to read, I was cast aside at school as unteachable.
Nobody chooses to be at an intellectual disadvantage, its genes and decided before you're even born.
People can still be lovable and have a good heart despite intellectual impairment.

Looks don't really bother me, but I have my share of dumb men.
Example Me"Do you like lycees?"
Dumbo "Yes I like any cheese."
🙄

There was a guy who always caught the same bus from our town centre in the evenings when I was going home as a teenager. I lusted after him for YEARS. He was probably about 5/6 years older than me, so probably about mid 20s...

A few years later, I've got a home of my own. Agree to go to a 'single's night' at a local nightclub with my best friend, as moral support (I was going through a divorce). Gorgeous guy was there...embolden by booze, I get talking to him...and he turns out to be the very epitome of blonde bimbo! He also had a very weird higher pitched voice, and God bless him, he wasn't over burdened with brain...I did have a ONS with him but knew I wouldn't want to see him again. Worst part was, he was still living up the road from my parent's home...but didn't think to warn me it was HIS parent's home and his father nearly walked in on us having sex!

Jason Momoa + fling? Definitely

(I'm not saying he's dumb, I'd climb that man like a tree though, regardless of his IQ)

I was for a while, as a youngster, but I didn't want to have him converse with friends for any length of time. Sweet guy but definitely a himbo.

He spent a few months in Australia and had a full on Ozzie accent.

No. One of my first boyfriends was so handsome I remember when I first saw him it was like WOW. It was like looking at the sun. Went out with him for 10months. He rarely made me laugh. A bit thick. Not for me at all and was an early lesson as to why you should not just go out with someone just because they’re hot

I definitely couldn't. When I was OLD, I'd be put off by badly written messages, too many emojis or signs of right-wing tendencies. (I would try to overlook the last two if they otherwise looked promising.)