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Could you be with someone really dumb if they were super hot?

117 replies

HermioneWeasley · 07/03/2025 15:48

I don’t think I could for any length of time.

sometimes you see a celebrity who is gorgeous and then you hear them being interviewed and they’re boring or stupid or vapid and all attraction just goes.

has anyone traded off brains for looks?

OP posts:
festivemouse · 07/03/2025 16:22

Depends - dumb and a billionaire? Probably. Dumb and on minimum wage - definitely not. They need at least another redeeming feature!

NameChangedOfc · 07/03/2025 16:23

Never

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 07/03/2025 16:26

No way. Not even for a short-term relationship.

foghead · 07/03/2025 16:27

Not if they were really dumb. Maybe a bit dumb would be ok for a while.
I'm more attracted to intelligence and wit

HappyToSmile · 07/03/2025 16:29

Define "be with someone"? Because if you mean could I have a proper relationship with someone hot but dim, then no.
On the other hand, could I have a bit of harmless fun with someone like that? Absolutely :)

TeeBee · 07/03/2025 16:31

Oh god no. Would drive me insane. It would be a massive turn-off.

notacooldad · 07/03/2025 16:33

No because they would bore the arse off me.
I dated a fit bloke once. He ticked the boxes for me, a sensi kick boxer, nice motorbike, good looking, great sex, fit body and funny.... but as thick as a kit kat chunky.
It felt like My Fair lady in reverse. He had never been to the theatre, only watched mainstream films and went to mainstream gigs etc. He always went to Benidorm with ' the lads'.

He had to go, which was such a shame because I was quite fond of him

Meadowfinch · 07/03/2025 16:36

No. Definitely not.

Common sense and reasonable intelligence are essential.

ApocalypseNowt · 07/03/2025 16:40

I'll take one for the team and give it a go.

Don't say I never do anything for you...

CraneBeak · 07/03/2025 16:41

No, I only like intelligent men and hotness depends massively on how much I like their character.

strangecarinroad · 07/03/2025 16:44

Nope I am attracted to Intelligents. It even has a name apparently -
Sapiosexuality
DH is a super bright Oxbridge grad so I obviously didn't compromise on what I found attractive! He is also quite good looking and a great person.

keyboardtypo · 07/03/2025 16:47

Thing is there are very few men that are actually super hot so I am really not going to be picky!

ChaToilLeam · 07/03/2025 16:48

He doesn’t need to be book smart or have a list of degrees as long as his arm but a certain level of intelligence, as well as interest in and curiosity about the world has to be there.

Intelligence and humour can make a guy hot to me even if he didn’t win the good looks lottery.

KeebabSpider · 07/03/2025 17:01

If I had to choose between super hot and super intelligent I'd choose looks if the intelligent option was fully. But in reality a balance needs to be struck, so above average in both respects gets my vote. DH is prettier more than he is clever, but he isn't stupid.

KeebabSpider · 07/03/2025 17:02

fugly not fully.

AcrossTheOceanMissingHome · 07/03/2025 17:02

For a short term fling, yes, as the relationship would be mainly about physical attraction.

For a long term relationship, intelligence matters, but he has to be attractive too.

ALovelyShadeofMauve · 07/03/2025 17:05

Not long term. Once you’ve humped them, what’s left? You can look at a picture if you want something pretty.

NormasArse · 07/03/2025 17:06

When I was in my 20s, I dated a guy who was absolutely gorgeous to look at, for about a month. My friends would get silly around him because he was so hot.

But my gosh, he was boring to talk to!

So no.

LittleGreenDuck · 07/03/2025 17:09

Tried it in my early 20s, lasted about six months. It was impossible to have any sort of conversation with him, he'd just look at me blankly.

IAmNeverThePerson · 07/03/2025 17:09

No I find intelligence more attractive than looks

Crunchymum · 07/03/2025 17:13

In my 20's I had a brief relationship with the most gorgeous man I've ever met.

He was boring as fuck, thick as shit and selfish in bed. I only stuck with it as he was just so bloody gorgeous.

I gave up after a few months though!!

CeeJay81 · 07/03/2025 17:19

No. He doesn't have to be super intelligent but needs to be at least interesting to chat too. I'd be bored if to tears if he wasn't able to have decent conversations about life, the big old world out there etc. Having someone I enjoy being with day in, day out means more to me than sex.

ParsnipPuree · 07/03/2025 17:22

When i was 17 yes.. now I'm in my 50's I'd choose intelligence any day.

MagentaRavioli · 07/03/2025 17:26

I think that poor grammar would just ruin the mood, so ‘should have’, ‘mitigate against’, misuse of reflexive pronouns would possibly be the deal breaker. But I could probably compromise for a very hot but dim mime artist.

MyGardenHasGreatTits · 07/03/2025 17:28

Nope. Not a chance.

But I’m attracted to craggy faced men. Expressive faces plus intelligence and I’m hooked!

Alan Rickman, Kiefer Sutherland, Ray Winstone (in his beautiful prime), Stephen Graham: all way more attractive than a ‘hot’ muscle man.