My husband has done the weekly food shop...

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But he's gone to Iceland and spent well over £100 which would be fine except he's just bought lots of frozen beige shit. There no fresh fruit, salad or nice cut of meat. Don't get me wrong I'm not trying to be mean but he's spent our entire budget and I feel there's nothing for me to eat. I'm trying to lose weight so I've been going to Tesco and getting lots of fresh fruit, fresh meat healthy Greek yoghurt and nice bits for the kids lunches. I feel a bit irritated because it feels such a waste of money.

Don't get me wrong I love a good Iceland haul but I'm a bit miffed that's he's put no thought into it.

Anyway... I'm digging my way out off my chicken nugget quary if you're looking for me lol

I hear you.

I have learnt to only give DH a list that he cannot go far wrong on.

eg bananas, eggs, sugar. That sort of thing.

God, I do this.

“I found our usual brand of yoghurt and it was in the BOGOF range this week!”

“Aldi middle aisle came up trumps again, I found that lump wood charcoal we used in the barbecue all last year and then couldn’t find anywhere else!”

“5kg of oxtail, they were just about to close when I was arriving at the butcher so I got it all for ONLY TWENTY POUNDS!”

“Just LOOK AT THE SIZE of these pomegranates!”

@FrenchandSaunders TBH I can't see the problem with that.

Ah, grocery shopping differences. My DH isn't bad but spends so much on meat that the chest freezer is bursting and sweet treats when he complains about not losing weight. If he asks what I want I just tell him "healthy food"!

This isn't hilarious it's pathetic.

Have a pad in the kitchen. Anyone who uses the last of anything adds it to the list (or opens the last of it if it's something like milk).
Meal plan together - a weeks worth in advance - check cupboards for ingredients as you go and write on anything missing.
Add any 'luxuries'.

So regardless of who does the shopping they will get the right stuff. And take turns cooking - it will focus his mind wonderfully if half the stuff he needs isn't there.

Mine would come back with a load of meat pies, pork pies, crisps and anything else fattening he could chuck in the trolley.

Same! He constantly moans about the food bill and gets all smug when he does the (online) shop and comes in £10 under budget - except we have no loo roll, toothpaste or any snacks to send into school.
Plus he will plan a meal that takes 45mins to make on a day that I literally have 20min turnaround before DC go to a club.

Why does a grown man think it's acceptable to feed his children no fresh food all week?

The only way I'd let my husband do the food shop is with a shopping list.
He sticks to it too.
I usually pick up any nice things I fancy on my way round the supermarket but when he goes, if it's not on the list it doesn't go in the trolley.

Is this another thread where we are supposed to do a tinkly laugh and shake our head and say “oh what are these boys like eh? Where would they be without us? What a silly billy he is!”

Because personally I don’t think there’s anything “hilarious” or “amazing” or endearing about this. At all.

As for having to train them, instruct them in minute detail etc…what the hell are these incompetent men actually for?

We keep a shopping list as a shared note on our phones that both of us can access / edit. Really helpful to avoid these situations! Otherwise one or both of us can (and historically has!) come home with extremely chaotic selections

Waiting until you've run out of something before buying more sounds like a recipe for disaster.

All this sounds like so much work, I have a weekly list set up online + a repeat Amazon order every 2 months and everything gets delivered on repeat without me thinking about it. I might add or remove an item here or there or pick up a couple of items from the shop on my way home once a week, but all this planning and list making sounds exhausting.

I'm shocked so many family men have not got this basic life skill.

#weaponised incompetence

Meal plan together - a weeks worth in advance

Having to do that together sounds more work than necessary, I get it done on my lunch break. DH doesn't ask me to help him with the ironing and sorting of laundry piles, you can split things fairly without literally having to do everything together. Stop taking everything so seriously, I doubt you are perfect either.

Smug alert but my DH is a great shopper. He's a good cook so shops appropriately, remembers the important stuff and also is more generous at buying treats than me.

None of this is hilarious, it's ridiculous. All of these grown men "unable" to perform a basic duty like shopping. I'm assuming they're able to perform well in work? It's just the boring family jobs that they "can't" do?

What a laugh.

My DH hung a chalk board on our kitchen wall. We both add to it when we run out of things or decide we might need something. He's also perfectly capable of going shopping and picking up extras not on the board because he uses his eyes, engages his brain, cares about his family's diet, and knows that he, too, benefits from purchasing proper ingredients. He also actually cooks with said ingredients.

Up your fucking bars, Jesus wept.

My DH is completely useless at doing a food shop but excels at an Iceland shop. I just order hello fresh or Gousto so problem solved.

If he's that bad at it don't let him do it 🤷‍♀️ and before anyone starts my dh has no interest in cooking from scratch so can't put recipes together but he can be sent with a list and get everything on it. I absolutely loathe meal planning so it works for us.

I'm shocked so many family men have not got this basic life skill.

Oh give over. My husband does all the laundry, ironing, cleaning ( that isn't done by the cleaner, so clearing up after dinner, mopping kitchen floor etc) packed lunch lunches, he does more for our house than I do frankly, physically. But he's not diet conscious, doesn't like cooking, doesn't follow Chris Van Tuleken like I do, he would fill the freezer without thinking about it. He isn't useless, I am just very diet conscious so I do it.

If it was down to me our cars would never be washed, our grass not mown, our sheets would probably be changed only every fortnight as opposed to weekly, not because I'm incapable, but I'm just not that fussed about cleanliness, DH is, so he does it, same goes for food.

Surprisingly my DH has a very highly respected job- so he's honestly not rubbish at everything but boy oh boy does he fall short on the food shopping front lol

I do the cooking so DP wouldn’t really know what to get unless I gave him a list, but he’s very health conscious so left to his free will he’d come back with porridge, bananas, and lots of grains. We get a (very reasonably priced) seasonal veg box delivered weekly from our local greengrocer so we’re never without the basis of a meal, as I mostly cook veggie. I can’t see him ever bringing home the beige.

Funny I was having a conversation with my daughter the other day which was about her eldest daughter who it seems does not seem to have got the concept of shopping for meals either. she said once a month her daughter does the shopping in lieu of rent but when my daughter goes to freezer its a total disaster!
she does have a bit of an odd diet so the freezer is rammed with fish fingers nuggets and pizzas but no chips or similar plus nothing in the tinned cupboard either

I’d be so horrified by this. Do people really buy all that shit and live off it?? Nothing fresh or which needs making from scratch? Maybe I’m skewed because of a heart condition, but I’m gobsmacked that someone would buy £100 of frozen brown things and think that actually genuinely constitutes a week’s worth of meals for a family. It’s utter junk.

He'll not get the chance to do it again. I love my weekly walk around Tesco but yesterday he was taking dc to football and decided to surprise me on way home. Surprised indeeed!

Apparently 60% of uk adults and 80% of kids get 80% of their daily calories from ultra processed food like this. So yes, to answer your question, they do.