An update. A lot has happened since my last post.
As mentioned, I gave notice till the end of the month and that lapsed and he still hadn't made any plans to move. I later changed the wifi password.
A few days later someone from Openreach came and tried to install a new broadband point in my property. I objected and sent him away. Stepson became angry telling me that I must pay for the contract that he had just set up. I reminded him that he hadn't paid for any of the hot water , electricity he was using. He then called his Dad, who proceeded to issue more verbal insults my way. I also reminded stepson that he had been given notice and that I have withdrawn my consent for him to stay. He jeered and said "but then why am I still here? You can't do nothing! Daddy owns half the house and he has given me permission to be here"
Several days went by and I avoided being in the house as much as possible because of the ever present adult stepson. I made sure I was in the office till long hours, saturdays, at the gym, running errands or with friends and then Sundays going to visit my ill relative 30 miles away all just not to be in my own home with this person.
One particular day I came home late from the office, cleaned up and when was in bed by 10pm. At 1.15am, the ring door bell went and I woke up with a jolt. I checked the camera I saw it was an ubereats delivery. Without thinking I poked my head outside my bedroom door and called down asking why my doorbell was being rung at that time. (this has happened before and I had told him that if he must order food at that time, he needed to be at the door waiting for it).
On this occasion, he shouted back aggressively with "don't scream at me, I am getting food!"
I responded, "At 1am in the morning?"
he then started screaming uncontrollably. "DON'T SCREAM AT ME BECAUSE I'll LOSE MY MIND!" he then went into the kitchen and slammed the door.
I actually thought something was wrong so I put on my nightrobe to go and see. He started screaming (like picture a very angry many screaming at the top of his voice) at me to go back upstairs and that he didn't want to talk to me. He then picked up a kitchen stool and made towards me, I could see as the kitchen door has clear class panes. In a panic I called his father. father was angry with me for waking him up and said I had no respect. As it was clear that the father was not going to do anything I called 101 because I was very scared and had no other support. Police attended but they said they couldn't arrest him for the threat as it was made behind a closed door.
I have a camera in the kitchen as well so after the police left, I reviewed it. When he closed the door after screaming stepson clearly said on camera "Stupid woman! If you come near me, I"ll f*king smoke you! I swear! If you come near me, I"ll f** cking smoke you!" I was terrified as this was a clear death threat in my own home!!!
I didn't leave my room the next day out of fear and hardly ate anything.
Stepson did evenutally leave the house voluntarily a couple of days after , and I secured the door so he couldn't get back in. He came back and tried to force it open and then called his Dad who threatened to come down. Dad was screaming that I had no rights to lock the door against his son. I realised I would be alone with two very angry men and so in fear I opened the door again and let the son in.
The next day I filed a non-molestation order with exclusion with the family courts. They refused to take it at first because stepson is not a co-owner etc and said I should apply for a Protection of Harassment Order which would cost more and take time. Eventually the judge said I could apply for a NMO with exclusion order. He granted the NMO but he said we would need a hearing to decide on the exclusion part.
The stepson has been served. Since then he had attempted to have another wifi installation done without my consent.
The father is angry with me for getting the NMO. Father is also lying and saying that I have been bullying his son and that on the night his son made those threats, I had told the ubereats guy to go away and that was the reason why the son was so angry. I have the ring doorbell footage, a camera in the hallway and one in the kitchen to show that this was not true.
So we go to court to decide on the exclusion bit in a week's time. Very scary. If the judge doesn't think there is a case for exclusion then I fear that the abuse and harassment in my own home will get worst and very dangerous for me in my own home.
Husband only pays half the mortgage. He chose not to live here after being on bail for domestic violence. The son has been here for 2.5 years and pays nothing. I pay my half of the mortgage plus all bills and maintenance. I am happy to pay the full thing should anyone come in here talking about how I should be lucky he pays half because he doesn't have too. This is what he has said many times...The whole thing is really exhausting.
I have sought legal advise and the Solicitor said that stepson has no beneficial interest in the property. I also have home rights as it is a marital property.