Why do men do this

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"D"H one.

I've been telling him nicely and then not so nicely but he's always peeing all over the floor of the toilet. It gets soaked up on the mat and becomes filthy.

I wash it every 3 days and it starts to stink again. I have a pile of laundry already and I don't want to wash the mats so often !

I don't have a cleaner and I clean the toilets on my own. But I don't want to be cleaning his pee every other day. I'm feeling so fed up.

His excuse is he can't aim. He's not doing deliberately. And that my hair fall makes the bathroom dirty. Mind you he's never once cleaned it.

then he must sit to pee.

You have DC? they must also sit to pee regardless of their sex.

And you need to move out for 3 weeks (can you go to your parents?) so they can either get used to swimming in pee (and you need to stay away permanently) or they learn to aim and clean.

At the very least: whoever uses the loo gives it a quick once-over after use (i learned to do that after spending some time in Japan. Life changer)

OP’s husband doesn’t clean it up or apologise, though. That’s the issue.

haha. She should leave. I would. That is disgusting.

He can make his own appointments for medical issues or check-ups. OP is not his secretary.

Given his comment about why he won't sit - she'd be better off without him. ESPECIALLY if they have DCs.

None of that addresses why your husband doesn’t clean up his own piss, OP.

Bin the mats. They are a bacteria playground.

I don't expect you to really do this but I wonder how he'd react if you smeared period blood on the loo seat.

"Oh sorry. Sometimes my aim isn't that good."

Absolutely this.
My late Dad never pissed all over the floor or mat and I sincerely doubt anyone ever discussed proper toilet use with him growing up.
My DH never does it either, nor do any male friends of ours who visit the house.

It's disgusting and pathetic to say "I can't aim". What he should be saying and doing is apologising profusely, cleaning up after himself, and sitting down to pee.

If you aren't going to leave, OP, how are you going to solve this.

He must clean his piss up. I second the "put one of his shirts down" or leave menstrual blood on the seat. But bloody hell, i couldn't share a house with a disrespectful twat like this. Really.

Yeah because sitting to pee is what makes you female and/or male gay.

So he’s quite dumb as well then.

What a guy eh!

We have had Abyssinians that did the same.

Your filthy pig of a husband needs to take responsibility. He sits down to pee if he can't aim. He stands closer to the loo if his Willy is really that short, he commits to cleaning up his own mess and actually does, or he stops peeing at home!

Definitely not all men!
Don't know whether mine sits / has good aim / cleans up after himself but there's never any left on the floor.
Toilet mats are grim though - much easier to keep clean without one...

The thing with refusing to leave in these situations is pretty simple.

You've now got no fall back position.

So you're not going to leave.
He keeps pissing everywhere and being a homophobic and sexist cunt.

So what you gonna do? Moaning isn't working. Asking isn't working. Taking mats away so YOU have to adapt to HIS filthy behaviour.

Now what?
Year from now you're still scrubbing his piss up and all the chats and asks and requests have been ignored.

Like I said... May as well just not bother complaining, just clean his piss and be happy.

Misogynistic, homophobic and can't clean up his own piss.

What a prince among men 🤣

Bit of an overreaction there @PerkyGreenCat,

It was just a suggestion, he obviously has an issue with his aim, or even more realistic he is not watching what he is doing. Have you never been in a mens toilet in a hotel or restaurant (I have through work), it's not unusual to see a black dot, or a marker in the toilet, this is a more common issue than you think.

And no, I save the reward chart for when my DH eats all his veg FFS.

If you like being single and are happy then, you do you.

I enjoy being in a relationship and sometimes I let the little things slide, I'd rather pick my battles.

For clarification, I do not have a tennis table ball in the toilet or a big black x marks the spot - it was just a suggestion.

Absolutely!!!!

I have a DH and son. They do not do this. They sit down to pee.

Seems he needs to do this if can't aim. Really disrespectful and gross.

My first husband was like this. Pissed (and pooh'd!) all over the seat regularly. I'd often get wet feet/socks if using the loo in the night as I'd be half asleep and not notice the puddles/splashes. He was a pig.

His personal hygiene (and his contempt for me) were bad. He didn't give a fuck. Like you, it was my job to clean it up. Between that and other reasons I left him after 11 years.

Funnily enough his aim and hygiene were perfectly fine when we were dating and first married. Only started when I'd had the DC.

Like your DH, this is a sign of how little he thought of me. Get rid or you'll be cleaning up his piss for the rest of your life,

Oh god, I just read about him refusing to sit down.

I would say have a sharp word about his attitude. I'd also get rid of the toilet mat/rug. It will make spillages obvious. If he ignores that, well....his contempt for you is confirmed. He should take over toilet cleaning, but is it not masculine enough?!

I have lived with 11 different men in my life between family, houseshares and DP and not a single one of them pissed on the toilet floor. That includes the students who were not noticeably house-trained in other ways. I'm agog that it's apparently so commonplace that some people think all men do it?!

Mats around loos are gross, for this very reason.

I've never lived with a man who has habitually got piss on the floor. I think most men have the occasional drip/splash incident - but if they do, they wipe it up (which is why it's better not to have a mat).

A packet of these loo fly stickers might be a good solution

If he can't aim tell him to sit down. Is he sick ? If not there is no way i would be cleaning it