Why do men do this

[itsnightmare]

"D"H one.

I've been telling him nicely and then not so nicely but he's always peeing all over the floor of the toilet. It gets soaked up on the mat and becomes filthy.

I wash it every 3 days and it starts to stink again. I have a pile of laundry already and I don't want to wash the mats so often !

I don't have a cleaner and I clean the toilets on my own. But I don't want to be cleaning his pee every other day. I'm feeling so fed up.

His excuse is he can't aim. He's not doing deliberately. And that my hair fall makes the bathroom dirty. Mind you he's never once cleaned it.

You have a dirty lazy bastard. I had one of those before too. "I didn't notice." "It wasn't me." "It's probably just water from washing my hands." It drove me crazy. It would get to the point I would shrilly order him to go in a clean up his mess. Things would be better for a couple of days but then start again. I left in the end. It's so bloody disrespectful and disgraceful to expect someone else to clean up your piss.

If he can't aim he should sit and point percy down at the water.
Without going into detail that's what I ensure happens when I babysit.

No men do not do this. My DH is very much a blokes bloke and he is ultra neat in the toilet even more than me sometimes! I expect this from my two DS and even now I am teaching them toilet cleanliness from a young age.

Omg all three of my Burmese do this, wth!!?

He’s a a homophobe and a misogynist though… expecting his body fluids to be cleaned up by the little woman. Do you have two loos? Make the powder room and it’s maintenance exclusively his and see how long he tolerates the stink.
Btw, I have been married for 25 years and mine has NEVER pissed outside the bowl. (If he has, he’s cleaned it up himself and I have never known about it.)

@itsnightmare I am seeing lots of can't aim comments but want to highlight a condition called hypospadis which affects the development of male genitals.

It develops while the foetus is in the womb and is technically on the intersex spectrum leading unfortunately to a lot of stigma around not having fully developed genitals, i.e. a 'proper' penis

Mild conditions are mostly internal and may not be noticeable except that the urethra is underdeveloped meaning pee sprays.

One man I knew who had it inherited it from his dad and didn't know if wasn't how all men were. Another had it surgery to 'normalise' his penis age 3 but the surgery didn't fully work and he didn't understand this.

As there is so much stigma it is more common than many realise and may be with looking into just in case it is why your partner is not managing to wee accurately.

Have you considered castration? There’s no shame in a eunuch sitting to pee.

P.s. what I have written is no excuse for not cleaning up after himself and / or for refusing to sit - but is worth knowing about as if it is hypospadis the reasons why he need to mitigate his aiming issue becomes clearer.

If you have more than one loo, limit his use to one only.

And don't clean it for him.

This. He’s playing you like a fiddle OP. Getting a kick out of knowing that he can piss on the floor and you’ll wipe it up. What a disgusting pig. You’ll either need to go mental at him or Hannibal Lecter style and make him understand he either removes his piss or lives on his own. Unbelievable.

I agree with this. But then the thought of having to share a bed with a man who has a disgusting bathroom, which he uses and never cleans, would make me heave.

I just couldn't ever have sex with a man like this as it's a health hazard and it's probably not just poor hygiene with urinating - I'd be concerned about bum crumb too.

DS can't aim, so he sits. But he's learning manners. Apparently in Paris most men sit. Standing is considered a country bumpkin habit for exactly this reason.

He's a man

Aww bless him! A real man can ensure his wee goes in the toilet!

Both my French husbands (and all their families) sit to pee unless in a public toilet. I'm pretty sure this is the case in a lot of countries.

But why the fuck does your H think his pee self cleans? Sow him one of those vile ultraviolet videos.

Your thread title should be carved in stone as a general all purpose question

Remove the mat and every time he does it tell him to clean it up.

My DH never does this.

Yes the GP can give him a Digital Rectal Examination.

If he was a man with any shred of decency, he'd have learnt to aim as a small child, and to clean up after himself.

The only man I've been with who had an occasional problem with this is registered blind, which is a valid excuse. If there's no medical reason, he needs to learn some consideration. I suspect it won't be the only area in which he is an inconsiderate git, though.

Men don't do this in my house. If they did I'd make a holy show of them.
You're married to filthy neanderthal pig and you're stupid for putting up with it and presumably his mother is as soft as you, if he grew up with one.

Just clean his pee and shut up.

Some Macho man just infiltrated...

Personally, if he didn't get past his toddler stage, I don't know why you are even around.

I'd be long gone.

I'd fantasise about rubbing his face in the piss dirty mat.

Why are you still married to this homophobic misogynist who expects you mop up his piss? I bet he manages to aim when he's at work because he won't want to hit his shoes!

Honestly, just divorce him, then he can mop up his own urine.

Throw the mat in the bin! If he doesn’t start cleaning up after himself, throw him in there too.

So even if he does have a medical condition, how do you excuse the entitled laziness that means he thinks it's not his job to clear up his own piss and the rampant and disgusting homophobia and misogyny? That's right you can't

Speaking as a male, firstly it’s very easy to sprinkle on the seat/floor, that first couple of seconds you never can be 100% sure on the direction, maybe this isn’t true of men that have been circumcised though?!
the main point here is his lack of effort to clear the mess up or change his habits to avoid the mess. That’s inexcusable!

as for work toilets, I’d not be so sure, our toilets aren’t always left how i want to find them, and as for public toilets let’s not even go there!