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Is anyone else just so fucking tired...

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Totallybannanas · 14/02/2025 22:05

I’m not sure if it’s my job, my age, or both, but this winter feels like it’s dragging on forever. By the time I get home, I’m completely drained—I cook, do the dishes, then spend the rest of the evening in a vegetative state until I finally give in and go to sleep. I have zero motivation to go out or do anything because, first, I’m exhausted, and second, I find a lot of people in society today insufferable. I don’t know if it’s just a seasonal slump or something that comes with age, but I genuinely hate being around strangers in places like pubs or restaurants. People just seem like complete idiots, and honestly, I’d rather just hibernate or escape to an island away from everyone.

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CandyLeBonBon · 14/02/2025 22:06

Yep me too Op. just want to crawl into bed at 8pm and stay there

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Totallybannanas · 14/02/2025 22:17

It feels a very long winter. Friday night, valentine's eve and I've been in bed since 7pm with my thermals 😭

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neverwakeasleepingbaby · 14/02/2025 22:19

I have small children so I can't really remember what feeling energised is, but I do think that the weather last summer was so utterly shit that it's felt like winter has been going on for approximately 18 months. Give. Me. Sun!!

ChangingHistory · 14/02/2025 22:20

It's the worst time off year, ages yet until weather will improve and no celebration to break it up.

I've been really ill twice in quick succession and now my new normal is lying in bed watching TV.

I'm trying to find motivational TV programs and books to make me do something!

SeththeSloth · 14/02/2025 22:20

Same here! Zero motivation and feel like I’m on a constant treadmill of work, cook, clean, sleep, repeat!

ChangingHistory · 14/02/2025 22:21

SeththeSloth · 14/02/2025 22:20

Same here! Zero motivation and feel like I’m on a constant treadmill of work, cook, clean, sleep, repeat!

If you have the energy to do the cleaning you are winning!

Developedanillness · 14/02/2025 22:21

Yes always exhausted

TeenLifeMum · 14/02/2025 22:23

Same here. I day dream of being in bed. I’m not sure if it’s age/life pressures dragging on - shit situation for 2 years that’s emotionally drained dh and I, or my low ferritin. I’m 42 and have no energy compared to 4 years ago.

ZippyBlueViper · 14/02/2025 22:24

I feel like same especially about being out around strangers etc I would much rather be at home. I find I’m too tired to listen to polite small talk and just want to be left alone. I do think short dark days don’t help because everything is so dark cold and dull

Pinkdreams · 14/02/2025 22:25

Me too, DP doesn't get home from work until 9ish and I have a 9 month old so I feel like a single parent half the time. By the time he's come home I put DD to bed, get DPs dinner and then clean all the mess from the day and do the washing up, it's midnight and I haven't even sat down for a drink.

Apileofballyhoo · 14/02/2025 22:26

@TeenLifeMum that sounds like perimenopause

flowrida · 14/02/2025 22:26

Me. It's been grey here for at least a week. I feel depressed and so tired. Every morning I promise myself I'll get up and do some stretches or exercises or something but in reality I just can't get out of bed.

2025willbemytime · 14/02/2025 22:26

I am so exhausted can barely speak at times. I live alone, I don't have to do much but I don't sleep well, usually up at least once a night to let the dog out, walk every day, run several times a week, stay up too late to try and fall asleep quickly but it doesn't happen. However, emotionally I am very stressed and I'm blaming that.

TennisToday · 14/02/2025 22:27

I was just thinking about this today, I’m totally drained.

on a practical note are you taking vitamin D? I keep forgetting but it can make a big difference.

Im with you about not going out but trying to force myself to go to a few things.

BubbleIceTea · 14/02/2025 22:27

I am so desperately exhausted all of the time.
When I open my eyes in the morning, my very first thought is about getting back in to bed later that evening.
I adore my bed.
I'm completely with you about being irritated by idiotic people everywhere in society.
I concur.

Whenim63 · 14/02/2025 22:28

Agree. Feels like it’s been cold and dark for 47 years. Heating bills look like the debt of a small nation, so many people are pissed off and stressed, and my fucks given have expired. Miserable time of year.

TeenLifeMum · 14/02/2025 22:31

Apileofballyhoo · 14/02/2025 22:26

@TeenLifeMum that sounds like perimenopause

I don’t know if it is. I had an organisation merger and had to reapply for the job I’ve done for 10 years, endured awful bullying during that time from people from the other half of the organisation putting me in their place over an 18 month period. Mine was resolved (not loving it like I used to but it’s okay and pays well), a month later dh’s organisation did the same and they’ve dragged on the uncertainty for 2 years. I just think the emotional strain of not knowing if we have a steady income for 3.5 years has left me feeling a bit low. (We’ve both applied for other jobs but location is limited and competitive - feedback always great just someone with exact experience ie. Promoted within).

RedPolar · 14/02/2025 22:31

I found my people. Is this a universal 42 year old working mum's experience? There was a little sunshine here today. My doctor doesn't believe it is perimenopause.

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Totallybannanas · 14/02/2025 22:32

SeththeSloth · 14/02/2025 22:20

Same here! Zero motivation and feel like I’m on a constant treadmill of work, cook, clean, sleep, repeat!

Totally feeling this, work is extra busy too. Staff off sick, people just miserable and always complained about the tiniest thing. I am mentally and physically exhausted.

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Moorfellduck · 14/02/2025 22:35

I'd go and get your bloods and thyroid checked. That doesn't seem right. Extremely tiredness was my DHs primary symptom for an underactive thyroid. Are you waking lots in the night - could you be peri menopausal?

Cerialkiller · 14/02/2025 22:36

Yup same. DH have barely any relationship as once the kids are put to bed we are to knackered to speak and we just watch TV in silence and he usually falls asleep (he had long COVID).

I thought that once we were past the baby stage things would improve, and they did but only to a point and now it's kind of flat lined.

I've had a busy few weeks, Christmas, ny, then three birthdays then visits from abroad. Only just finished with all that stress and it feels like my immune system just collapsed. Eye and throat infection, cold sores, sty in my eye etc.

I do find that cleaning up my diet and exercise can really help with general tiredness but it's so hard to get my arse off the sofa to begin with and chocolate is really delicious...

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Totallybannanas · 14/02/2025 22:37

I'm 44 so could be peri. I feel tired, fat and broke just from the heating and food alone. I just want to be in my bed, alone. The more I read in the paper about complete assholes, the more I want to retreat. Socialising in work is a real effort as it is, and I meet too many assholes there.

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ssd · 14/02/2025 22:51

Completely agree with you op

CatteryCatss · 14/02/2025 22:52

It’s not just you, OP. I’m 28 and I’m tired all of the time. I’ve felt like this for several years. I really don’t know how to overcome it.

I have depression and anxiety, so maybe it’s tied with that…

Thatsthesoundofthepolice · 14/02/2025 22:54

Yep 💯 I posted about very similar…can’t remember feeling quite this bad before