How to manage snoring on holiday?

[DaysofHoney]

Genuine question (as I lie here wide awake with DH snoring like a trooper) - how do you manage on holiday if your DH snores? At home I cope by retreating to the spare room if he’s snoring, or if he’s been drinking and I know he’ll be bad, I go straight to the spare room regardless.

We are on holiday, he wants to drink every evening, but that results in heavy snoring - confined to one room because we can’t pay for a second (though ask me in the morning and I might have changed my mind).

I’ve absolutely realised I can’t keep doing this - it’s not the first time I’ve lied awake thinking wtf am I doing here on my holidays not being able to sleep. I brought earplugs with me but they barely take the edge off.

Anyone else with a snorer that can relate? Do you book a villa with multiple bedrooms?? Help!

I’m about to have my first nights sleep in a family room with a snoring DH

Think we are fucked this week tbh 🤣

I find my loop quiet 2 earplugs take most of the edge off as long as they are inserted well - which took a few weeks to click for me tbh.

I used to go away with someone who snored and the only way I could save my sanity was to book an air b&b so we each had our own room. Even then I could sometimes hear her through the wall!

Can you got to be before him to fall asleep before he starts or will you wake up even if in a deep sleep.

Has he ever looked into the cause of his snoring? DH used to be a snorer, and kept telling me ‘he couldn’t help it’ until I woke him up every time his snoring woke me up and then he went to see the gp. Got some nasal spray on prescription, but it was losing weight that sorted it.

Exactly same scenario here. I sleep with Apple AirPods in and some white noise playing. Allows me about 4/5 hrs sleep till they need charging. I think there are more expensive noise cancelling ear buds that last longer.
I'm thinking villa next time with spare room!

So much solidarity here! I can’t do family rooms anymore, I’m done. We need two rooms and we’ll take a kid each. Kids sleep through his snoring as they go to sleep long before us, but I cannot get to sleep while he is grunting and snorting away. Sends me into a mad pain the longer I have to listen to it too!

Good luck to you. I’ve tried all sorts of ear plugs, from cheap silicon to expensive Bose and others, silicon most effective for me but still hardly dampens his noise. He had a sleep study done and is classified as “extreme” (and that wasn’t after numerous beers)!

It’s weight, and exacerbated by drink. He drinks too much. We’ve had talks about it many times. He was given a CPAP machine but gave up after about two uses, “couldn’t get used to it” - Hopeless.

I feel your pain op. I tend to book air b and b's now with spare bedroom (which I make DH go to!)

When my husband got his cpap I told him he either uses it or moves out. I was done listening to the snoring all night and having to puck him awake when he'd stop breathing.

Yep I think this is going to have to be the way ahead. In the old days I’d have a good few drinks with him and I don’t think it bothered me so much. I don’t drink very much now though and just find the snoring is unbearable to listen to!

I think I need to have another chat with him when we get home. He didn’t like the mask, but I know it takes time to get used to. His apnoea is mild but the snoring is extreme. He’s always tired ALL THE TIME, so snoring happens within moments of putting a movie on etc.

Sharing your pain with another snorer who can be heard from every room in the house (including different floors). We are waiting for the sleep study and I am praying for a cpap.

In the meantime, because we don't have any spare rooms unfortunately I bought one of those headband earphone things from Amazon about 2 months ago. It's not noise cancelling, but you can lie on your side which I can never do with earbuds in as they start to hurt. I am working my way through slow paced tv series which help me to doze - silent witness from the initial seasons, columbo etc. they don't completely drown the noise out but they help me to shift my focus and drop off. They were really inexpensive - £15 ish, might be worth a try

Would it help if he waited for you to go to sleep first?

I’m not especially proud of it, but after many conversations with my DH about snoring, I properly lost my rag in a particularly sleep deprived moment. I told him he was being selfish and clearly didn’t care enough about the impact he was having on me. It did the trick. He now makes a good effort to keep his weight down. Which is good for him and his health, and good for my sleep and mental well being!

Thank you, yes, I’m a side sleeper and get such awful pain from wearing plugs. White noise/audiobook might help, I will give this a go. Shame I won’t be able to get my hands on one this week!

What does he suggest? He is the source of the issue after all.

Possibly but I’m a light sleeper, but worth a try definitely. I’ll suggest tomorrow. He cannot, cannot stay awake once in bed though, so I’d need to go a good 45 min before him I reckon. I’ll just go with the kids! It’s now 1:30am here and he is still going strong. I am approaching madness!

He grudgingly agreed to the sleep study. But no further progress. At home we have the spare room so less of a problem but I’m going to need to have words tomorrow- can’t do this for another 5 nights, no fucking way.

Doesn't work in my experience. I find being woken when I'm deep into sleep even worse. My heart pounds and I take hours to get off again.

We’ve got the same problem. At home we sleep separately. We only go on holidays to places where there is an alternative sleeping space for me if I need it. I struggle with sleep at the best of times. It does make holidays expensive some times but I’m not prepared to go anywhere for longer than a couple of nights and not have somewhere to sleep. My DH still doesn’t really understand how utterly awful it is.
I have to say that my DH is much more proactive and caring than yours though. He has tried many different things to try and improve it with varying success. The cpap machine has been a recent success. But still not 100%.
Kindly, but your DH is being a bit of a selfish twat. He’s not even making any attempt to make this better for you. Have you recorded him so he know what he sounds like?

I’m literally taking videos of it as I type because it’s completely intolerable and is working me into a complete state. Im going to play them to him in the morning. If I say no more drinking I’ll be the holiday killjoy. I’ve found rooms in the hotel next door and seriously tempted to book and he can go there. It’s just a disaster.

DH always banging on at me about camping, getting a camper van etc and I always joke that there’s no way because of the snoring - of course a hotel room is no different but I seem to forget this every time!

Yes, it’s THE WORST when I actually manage to drift off and then it starts again or ramps up even louder. I am lying here now and can’t even get to him because he’s sleeping on the mezzanine level of this family room and I don’t want to traipse up the ladder to get to him in the dark. What a fucking idiot I am. This hotel was my suggestion. Beautiful, but not working for us in the slightest.

take my sister on holiday with us as well and we have a twin room - husband has room to himself! He has lost weight so the snoring is not deafening like a pneumatic drill - but can still wake me up with his grunting albeit not so loud!

DH snores like a pneumatic drill when he hits a certain weight. When we are home if he goes above this weight he goes into the spare room. I refuse to book a holiday until he’s got down to his snore free weight. The one time we went away and he was fat I made him take a mattress in the bathroom and sleep on the floor. It’s his problem to fix.

I love this. It’s totally weight related. Doing my head in. He needs to get a grip on his weight and his boozing.

if the bathroom were big enough he’d be in it.

Probably a bit late as you're already there but I took my Snoozeband with me and drowned him out with music! Unless you're staying somewhere you can Amazon Prime one to yourself in the lobby?