How to manage snoring on holiday?

[DaysofHoney]

Genuine question (as I lie here wide awake with DH snoring like a trooper) - how do you manage on holiday if your DH snores? At home I cope by retreating to the spare room if he’s snoring, or if he’s been drinking and I know he’ll be bad, I go straight to the spare room regardless.

We are on holiday, he wants to drink every evening, but that results in heavy snoring - confined to one room because we can’t pay for a second (though ask me in the morning and I might have changed my mind).

I’ve absolutely realised I can’t keep doing this - it’s not the first time I’ve lied awake thinking wtf am I doing here on my holidays not being able to sleep. I brought earplugs with me but they barely take the edge off.

Anyone else with a snorer that can relate? Do you book a villa with multiple bedrooms?? Help!

We book one bed apartments where possible so I can retreat to the bed settee!

Short breaks are managed with eye plugs and half a sleeping tablet 😬

We book apartment type rooms, so seperate living and bedroom areas.

We had this in the summer. After 3 nights I was losing the will to live and it was ruining the holiday.
We spent £500 on an extra room for him. Expensive, but saved our holiday! (We had to adapt our other plans to afford it)

I once slept in the bath it was so bad. It’s not a holiday, its torturous!

DH went to the GP. He has since lost three stone (we both stopped drinking) and he started exercising. No snoring since unless with a cold. It made life so much better for us both.

He can’t expect you to just live with it. For now, I’d be saying I’m booking a separate room which he is paying for because he has to share the pain of his lack of action.

A fellow sufferer. All was good while our DC were young and one of them would sleep with DH but once they were kept awake we had to book holidays that involved a room just for DH. Now it's just the two of us, separate bedrooms at home and one bedroom apartments for holidays. A couple of years ago we had to share a room and I ended up bringing a blowup bed for the en-suite, it was too big so I lay it in the doorway half way in and out, awful! His snoring brings out a rage that I can't explain. The number of single mattresses I've dragged around on different holidays.....

It’s seriously rage inducing isn’t it.

He didn’t drink last night (though this was forced as it’s a national holiday and alcohol not for sale - hahaha). He still snored, waking me up twice in the night. Two more nights and then some serious discussions about practicalities for the next holidays we have booked. And conversations about drinking, weight, lifestyle etc. It’s not cool and in a way the holiday puts a massive spotlight on it.

I’ve lived with a terrible snorer for 30 years and I feel your pain. It stops briefly and you’re just dropping off when it sounds like a pneumatic drill going off inches from just head.

A year or so ago I bought a white noise machine from Amazon. It was about £20. It’s a little plug in box with about 40 different settings and I use heavy rain, and have the volume up quite high. It kind of levels off the noise, so you don’t have the horrible stop starting thing, and it means that I can sleep undisturbed.

Going forward OP, I think it would be easier just to focus on picking holiday accommodation where you have a separate sleeping area or tell him you don't want to go on holiday with him again until he sorts it - how he does it is up to,him. The DCs are going to start hearing it soon, so you'll need to do look at separate rooms at some stage anyway.

At home we have separate bedrooms. On holiday I wear Bose noise cancelling headphones all night in bed. They are quite comfortable to sleep in but I wouldn't want to do it for more than a week.

Oof. Bigger problem than lack of sleep this week, I think.

I’m ready to suffocate him.

He’s been drinking again today/tonight. Fell asleep when the kids did and has been snoring since. So effing predictable, boring, and infuriating.

Could kids top and tail and you use the other bed?

It’s one room and no bed swapping is going to make a blind bit of difference. I’m already in with one of the DC. He is on a mezzanine floor above us. Tonight possibly the worst so far. I want to cry.

My friend gets her DH to sleep on a single mattress on the balcony on holiday.

Solidarity, the rage is real isn’t it? I’ve now got to the point where I won’t consider going anywhere unless I can have a room to myself. I have booked a spare hotel room for our next holiday and I’ve not even mentioned it to him. It is awkward if we are ever invited to stay with people who don’t have spare rooms, in those situations I load up on sleeping pills/drowsy antihistamines. Could you get to a pharmacy and see what they’ve got? I know it’s not ideal and my bugbear is that I’m having to medicate myself for his problem…but needs must.

Sorry to hear this @DaysofHoney what a miserable time for you on holiday :(

You poor thing. 😞 He really is a selfish arse.

Have you been able to catch up on much sleep during the day?

I lived with this for years. It's infuriating isn't it when the snorer acts like you are making a big deal over it. I even recorded him and he said it was a mean thing to do ! I ended up in a huge row as I was crying with lack of sleep which then gave me horrible migraines. I used to leave the bed but put my foot down and woke him up every time and made him leave . I said he was the one with the problem so he needed to sort it . Finally went to GP and was sent to sleep clinic where he was diagnosed with sleep apnea. CPAP mask now which is a nice pleasant sound 👌.
Ironically now I snore after having a chest infection and he has the nerve to complain.

This sounds exactly like DH. I have recorded lots over the last few nights but no doubt if I play it to him I’ll be accused of trying to humiliate him. There is absolutely zero interest, remorse, or responsibility for it.

He clearly has no motivation to stop the drinking or make your life bearable by allowing you to sleep.

What do you think might motivate him?

I'd be giving him an ultimatum that I intended to follow through if I were you, OP.

He'd better have life insurance.

Seriously, OP, sleep deprivation is going to take years off your life and you will suffer cognitive decline too.

You need to get very tough. He doesn't get to just choose not to use the Cpap while you struggle.

When you get home, see a solicitor.

He has a drinking problem and he's a selfish arse.

I know someone who has been hypnotised to sleep through their DH snoring. Their neighbours can hear the snoring through the walls, but she can now sleep in the same bed as her DH

We sleep in separate rooms at home. I’m afraid, I can’t stand that snoring. I can’t fall asleep
if he snoring and if I sleep and he starts snoring then, I wake up and can’t fall asleep again. It’s a torture.
Ear plugs do not help and i don’t like the feeling in my ears when it’s completely blocked. I can’t sleep either.
On holiday, we need either an apartment with 2 rooms or a hotel with 2 rooms or very often I just go on holidays with our daughter.