How to manage snoring on holiday?

[DaysofHoney]

Genuine question (as I lie here wide awake with DH snoring like a trooper) - how do you manage on holiday if your DH snores? At home I cope by retreating to the spare room if he’s snoring, or if he’s been drinking and I know he’ll be bad, I go straight to the spare room regardless.

We are on holiday, he wants to drink every evening, but that results in heavy snoring - confined to one room because we can’t pay for a second (though ask me in the morning and I might have changed my mind).

I’ve absolutely realised I can’t keep doing this - it’s not the first time I’ve lied awake thinking wtf am I doing here on my holidays not being able to sleep. I brought earplugs with me but they barely take the edge off.

Anyone else with a snorer that can relate? Do you book a villa with multiple bedrooms?? Help!

I don’t know how old your kids are but the days when they will sleep through it are also numbered.
My two teenagers can’t deal with it either.

Two bedrooms/suite if we go to a hotel or s/c with a bedroom each.

We sleep separately at home for the last 8 years. We both snore but I keep him up more than he me.

We hire appartments with a sofa and separate bedroom at a push if staying in a hotel twin beds can be ok for just the one night. We have separate rooms at home and I still wear earplugs

We get separate rooms.

Could he sleep in the empty bath? duvet underneath him to soften it a bit?

I usually sleep in our spare room at home on a Friday night, dh only really snores when he’s been drinking but I absolutely love the spare room and wish it was actually my bedroom sometimes 😂 even if he’s not drinking on a Friday night I sometimes still go and sleep up there!
On holiday we both drink every evening but I struggle with falling asleep at the best of times and the last time we were away I resorted to my over ear Bose headphones. A bit clunky as I’m a side sleeper but they’re soft and don’t dig in. Not an ideal solution but it did work on a couple of nights, I put something on my phone to watch and eventually nodded off. Dh could probably do with losing a stone or two but he’s always snored when drinking since I met him and he was definitely not a stone or two overweight then.

I feel your pain too. I have at times slept on the bathroom floor on towels and state pillows to get away from my snoring dp.

Has anyone recommendations for earplugs? An going to look into the headband

The only advice I can give...

Get to sleep before he comes to bed,
Wear loop earplugs and a cosy music band if necessary
Get him to wear most strips

I feel your pains x

Try noise cancelling earbuds with some white noise playing quietly 👍🏻

Separate bedrooms. It's the only way.

I refused to going holiday with dh again, after he kept me and the dc awake, they cried when he woke them in the middle of the night with the noise.
He now has a c pap, it took a while and a few different masks, but he persevered.

In the short term, after you’ve shown him the video ask him if he will just have one night when he does NOT drink, so you can get some fucking sleep because you are at the end of your tether.

Long term you’re going to have to get tougher. I was in the same situation as you with dh, lost my rag after years of sleep deprivation, told him he was a selfish arse and I couldn’t take it any more. He actually did lose weight and has kept it off. It makes a huge difference to our marriage because I’m not sleep deprived and I actually enjoy going to bed rather than dreading it.

Same issue here OP -
Have been having this conversation for years with DH.

We now mostly air bnb so we can have a few rooms (have 2 DC), and on holidays abroad I specifically look for hotels that have "apartment" rooms with 2 bedrooms. Half the time I end up sleeping with the kids, or DH gets kicked out to the sofa.

I feel your pain! I dread holidays or weekends away unless there's somewhere to escape. As a previous poster, we tend to book apartments or suites with a sofa bed in a separate room. Snoring is THE WORST!

I sympathise totally. Love my husband to bits but the snoring is very difficult. I am such a light sleeper since having kids that doesn't help either - I'm awake at every sound and vibration through the bed.
At home we have separate rooms but dread some holidays - sleep deprivation is no joke, even if it's tropical outside. Usually book two twin rooms with the kids where possible and take one each.

Or I usually have to tire myself out with a super busy day and go to bed earlier.
I feel your pain.

If you are stuck in the same room, ask that he use Otrivine nasal spray (or something similar). In my experience, it really helps to reduce snoring.

One of the best results from getting rid of Ex was never having to share a bed or room with him again. I refused to go on holiday except with two rooms and was made to feel like I was causing problems. But it is the absolute worst noise . And then I was grumpy exhausted and no energy or interest in going anywhere.

Can your DH sleep on the couch ? Or could you?

He really needs to persevere with the CPAP. Dh uses one, it has made both our lives better! He is no longer tired all the time and I can actually sleep.

There are lots of different masks and headgear now so he’s bound to find one that he can tolerate. Dh uses a full face silicone pillow mask and his headgear tubing is at the top of his head so he has free movement when turning over in bed.

My DH cured his snoring by giving up alcohol.

Short term, you need to keep making it his problem, because currently he is behaving selfishly and not considering the impact on you. He has no incentive to change anything because you're the only one being inconvenienced. So that means no more holidays together unless he sorts himself out (no drinking, or using the CPAP machine, or paying for an extra room for himself).

And in the long term I would be questioning if I could stay with someone so selfish who cares so little about my basic needs such as sleep.

Ugh, wish that were the case here! DH sober 3 years and his snoring has got worse! I've just been woken up by him snoring in another room!

OP, DH and I don't go away together the 2 of us anymore, because I just don't get any sleep. Family holidays we can only stay somewhere that DH and I can sleep separately.

Snoring is shit and it's ruining our marriage.

I use earplugs and take an allergy pill if I must sleep in the same room as my husband on vacation. The allergy pill makes me sleep a little deeper than normal so the combination of the two helps most of the time I wouldn’t want to do it more than one or two nights though. I need my sleep or I am cranky the next day.

Jesus Christ why do we put up with it??!! My DH has woken me and the toddler with his stupid snoring-it’s such a hideous sound. It riles me up and then I can’t sleep-no matter where I go! Am sat in the living room and I can hear him in the bedroom above me! He’s recently lost a stone and given up booze for a month but it’s still enough to wake me.

I have been on both sides of the CPAP so as to speak. I am a light sleeper and wondered if my own snoring was part of the problem. However, I found the CPAP really was very uncomfortable and I tried very hard but I just could not sleep with it. My husband is also a snorer. He slept in the spare room until his sleep doctor prescibed a CPAP for him. He has no problems with it, uses it 100%, its not counted as luggage when we fly as its a medical device. He sleeps better now but more importantly I do too...

Sorry I know that doesn't help you in the here and now but I feel your pain.