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Guy blocked me on video chat

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Unhappyunicorn · 30/01/2025 17:51

I met a guy on a dating app, we chatted and he seemed lovely, he knew what I looked like from my profile pictures, he wanted to video call and I was a bit unsure as I think I look horrible on live video, anyways I bit the bullet and tried to look smart and nice for the vid call. He vid called me and I answered, I was nervous and he looked a bit startled when seeing me, but then asked if I was okay etc, I think he had someone near him as heard whispering, I think they said “what the fuck is that”, then someone blurted out “she looks like a monster,” A burst of laughter then the vid call ended.

I was gutted and felt very humiliated, to hear someone saying that, I then got upset as I tried to message him and was blocked, so I must of looked horrid to him, this isn’t the first time I’ve had this happen, been called ugly looking and odd looking before, I’m not doing online dating any more my self esteem is in the gutter now. Been told in person by a couple of men that I look pretty in the past, even though I didn’t get a second date out of them encounters, but now I’m starting to think I am not pretty at all, and some people are just being nice instead of telling me the actual truth, I’ve had no luck with men, am usually treated like shit to be honest, I’ve lost weight too, but obviously my face is subpar no matter what I do.

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ChangingHistory · 30/01/2025 17:59

What a rude arse hole. Saved you wasting more time on him though.

Online dating is very much about looks. My friends have met some lovely people through joining clubs or activities and meeting people the old fashions way.

Good luck and try not to let the arseholes get to you.

Kittykat2014 · 30/01/2025 17:59

This is a him problem not a you problem. Sounds like you've dodged a bullet there. Don't let numptys like him get you down. Your person is out there and they will love you for you

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Unhappyunicorn · 30/01/2025 18:04

@ChangingHistory I was shocked because we chatted for a few days and I was building up to the vid chat, can’t believe he had someone there while I was chatting with him, he was 36 for gods sakes, I’d expect this off a teenager not a fully grown man, I guess he needed someone to confirm to him if I was ugly or not, fed up with men to be honest.

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ShaunaSadeki · 30/01/2025 18:07

That is so horrible, I would be in bits. But you must remember you have dodged a bullet as he is clearly an enormous arsehole.

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Unhappyunicorn · 30/01/2025 18:08

@Kittykat2014 I really doubt there is someone out there for me, I’m in my 40s now, not had great experiences since the age of 18, most men run the other way, the men I’ve been with have been abusive even saying I’m not attractive looking, then had guys say I’m pretty but end up not being interested in me, looks wise I feel I’m average but most men think I’m ugly.

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Unhappyunicorn · 30/01/2025 18:10

@ShaunaSadeki Ive had this kind of treatment most my life, I must be ugly to the majority of men online/offline, nothing I can do about my appearance, everything is about good looks these days and I’m getting older so I’m not getting any better.

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SpiritOfEcstasy · 30/01/2025 18:12

This is so horrible OP. I’m sorry this happened to you. He’s obviously a nastily shallow, juvenile arsehole. You truly are better of without the likes of him in your life. Beauty truly does come from within. Keep working on who you are. Get in touch with your inner beauty and other peoples views or disgusting behaviours will never bother you again.

Queenofthejabs · 30/01/2025 18:14

Jesus that’s brutal. What an arsehole and his mates. Please just put it behind you, you met a cruel piece of shit, it wasn’t about you, or your appearance, it was about him and his mates.

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Unhappyunicorn · 30/01/2025 18:17

@SpiritOfEcstasy yes I am gutted as I clicked with him while chatting, first guy I’ve clicked with for a while, I don’t understand him as he said my profile pics were lovely, up until the video chat he reassured me that it would be okay, as I was nervous and told him I’m not good at it, as feel vulnerable, he told me that there was no worries and then this happened, so it was about looks after all he said to me, I feel like i must be hideous or something.

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SpringBunnyHopHop · 30/01/2025 18:17

He sounds fucking repulsive.

chargeitup · 30/01/2025 18:20

OP very few people are so repugnant looking that men would recoil in horror.

You aren't one of them because if you were you would know

And he's seen pictures of you anyway and unless you filter to the point of turning yourself in to a cartoon you won't look significantly different in video.

So please reassure yourself it's not a you problem.

MsReacher2025 · 30/01/2025 18:21

I'm so sorry to hear this OP. OLD is not the way to find someone - the man was an arse... and really would have been no sort of partner.
You may not find someone for you - not everyone does. On the other hand you might. In the meantime you need to focus on your life, your job, what makes you happy, people who are nice to be around.

Don't put yourself through the meat market again - humiliating.

You sound so nice, kind, thoughtful....you can have a good time and a nice life without wasting time looking for a man.

chargeitup · 30/01/2025 18:21

And if someone was ugly, no decent man would diverse he did anyway. So it really is not anything ti do with you

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Unhappyunicorn · 30/01/2025 18:21

@SpringBunnyHopHop I feel now it probably was a set up to humiliate me, why would he have someone there, I asked who was with him, as heard whispering and he said there was no one until they blurted out that insult, I’m feeling absolutely horrible and humiliated, I took myself off the dating app.

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SpiritOfEcstasy · 30/01/2025 18:24

Unhappyunicorn · 30/01/2025 18:17

@SpiritOfEcstasy yes I am gutted as I clicked with him while chatting, first guy I’ve clicked with for a while, I don’t understand him as he said my profile pics were lovely, up until the video chat he reassured me that it would be okay, as I was nervous and told him I’m not good at it, as feel vulnerable, he told me that there was no worries and then this happened, so it was about looks after all he said to me, I feel like i must be hideous or something.

He’s hideous! Anyone who behaves the way that he has is hideous. He’s ugly inside … and most probably outside too! Anybody who places so much value on physical appearance is not good partner material. Honestly, the better we feel about ourselves the much more likely we are to attract prospective partners that we deserve. I was married to a man who continually had digs at me … I was so lucky to have gone into the marriage knowing who I was, my worth and with strong self esteem. It didn’t really matter what he said to me … it was his way to try to control how I felt about myself. Nobody should have that power especially someone who was nasty to you and brought a ‘friend’…

MoonWoman69 · 30/01/2025 18:24

What an absolute bell end. Well, his loss. But bear in mind that this is probably his sick hobby. I've heard nothing but crap about OLD anyway. And there is absolutely no way he should have had someone there when you had a video call planned. You dodged a proper bullet there anyway by the sound of it!

I can understand how you're fed up of men love, stuff like this knocks you back even more.
But I do reckon you need to stay away from OLD, get out there and meet someone naturally. I can't comment on your looks obviously, but in reality, not everyone is a perfect beauty and that shouldn't matter at all when you find the right person. I know from experience, the more you're told you're "ugly" the more you start to believe it. Rise above that, throw your shoulders back and thrust your chin up. Let your confidence rise up.
Love will appear when you least expect it and there is someone for everyone out there.
Don't search for it, it'll come 💐🧡

AccordionedWhileMallBurned · 30/01/2025 18:26

He's a twat - he's probably done the same thing to other women. Delusional about his own level of physical attractiveness, I expect.

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Unhappyunicorn · 30/01/2025 18:28

@chargeitup I have been called unattractive/ugly and pretty in the past, I don’t know what I look like anymore, obviously not good looking to most men, since turning 40 I’ve had no luck at all, I’m not even average looking anymore, wish someone could tell me what it is that is wrong with my looks.

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SlapTheMelon · 30/01/2025 18:33

I wish you could share his nickname and picture here to warn other women of this asshole. It's definitely him. Childish little man.

Lefthanddownnumberone · 30/01/2025 18:34

Unhappyunicorn · 30/01/2025 18:04

@ChangingHistory I was shocked because we chatted for a few days and I was building up to the vid chat, can’t believe he had someone there while I was chatting with him, he was 36 for gods sakes, I’d expect this off a teenager not a fully grown man, I guess he needed someone to confirm to him if I was ugly or not, fed up with men to be honest.

Well done you. You have dodged a bullet. Do not lower your standards - just don’t. Beauty is skin deep. You are beautiful, he’s the ugly one.

larklane17 · 30/01/2025 18:35

That's really horrible, what a pair of shits they were. This isn't your fault, it was a total set up by the sounds of it and I'm so sorry that you were the person they chose. I hope that you meet someone who deserves such a lovely person as yourself Flowers

bellsend · 30/01/2025 18:37

That’s bloody awful, I really feel for you.

try to think of it as the rubbish taking itself out. Atleast now you know he was a prick, and his arsehole pals too.

nobody is ‘ugly’.

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Unhappyunicorn · 30/01/2025 18:39

@larklane17 Yeah it was a shock, I’m feeling he was some sort of sociopath, not normal behaviour from a fully grown man, he really had me hooked on him for a few days, I guess he gets a sick kick at hurting woman he deems unattractive/ugly, I feel sorry for whoever does end up with him.

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Unhappyunicorn · 30/01/2025 18:49

@Queenofthejabs he’s very cruel I haven’t stopped crying these past couple of days, I feel I’m extremely ugly looking for him to do that to me, to lead me on thinking I had met a lovely man, was all an act to get me on vid chat to mock me then block me for shits and giggles with his mate.

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Middlemarch123 · 30/01/2025 18:49

You have dodged a bullet OP.

Please don’t be upset that he’s done this, he’s a shallow, immature waste of space. Best you find this out sooner rather than later.

I’m sure you’re lovely on the inside and out.

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