Guy blocked me on video chat

[Unhappyunicorn]

I met a guy on a dating app, we chatted and he seemed lovely, he knew what I looked like from my profile pictures, he wanted to video call and I was a bit unsure as I think I look horrible on live video, anyways I bit the bullet and tried to look smart and nice for the vid call. He vid called me and I answered, I was nervous and he looked a bit startled when seeing me, but then asked if I was okay etc, I think he had someone near him as heard whispering, I think they said “what the fuck is that”, then someone blurted out “she looks like a monster,” A burst of laughter then the vid call ended.

I was gutted and felt very humiliated, to hear someone saying that, I then got upset as I tried to message him and was blocked, so I must of looked horrid to him, this isn’t the first time I’ve had this happen, been called ugly looking and odd looking before, I’m not doing online dating any more my self esteem is in the gutter now. Been told in person by a couple of men that I look pretty in the past, even though I didn’t get a second date out of them encounters, but now I’m starting to think I am not pretty at all, and some people are just being nice instead of telling me the actual truth, I’ve had no luck with men, am usually treated like shit to be honest, I’ve lost weight too, but obviously my face is subpar no matter what I do.

@namechangeGOT Im going to stay off the dating apps and get myself fit and mentally strong as I’m a mess at the moment, my confidence is zero and I’m probably going to attract more abusers/predators the way I am at this moment in time, this prankster must thinks its funny to destroy a woman’s self esteem, bravo to him, I hope he shits out a lung, Thankyou ❤️

You're not hideous, he is. He's going to have a lonely life if that's how he treats others.

@Queenofthejabs i guess it was an ego boost, a guy much younger than myself and he started to chat to me first, I just felt good chatting to him, he made me feel wanted for a few days, and seemed to be into me and I was him, but he wasted my time and his own to be honest, I should of realised he was too young but after the stunt he pulled he’s very immature for 36, I’ve had issues with men similar to this, they must sense my self esteem issues, I want to be partnered up with someone my own age group, but find men my own age are not interested in me. Thankyou ❤️

@Crojo Thanks ❤️, my self esteem is dead, I actually haven’t went out in a few days since this happened feel exposed some how, can’t explain it feel like everyone is laughing at me I know that sounds very paranoid, but that’s how I feel even though no one knows, just feel sick.

You are NOT ugly. Not one little bit. That vile excuse for a "man" should be ashamed of himself. Please don't let him knock your confidence.

So he reassured you and encouraged you to have faith and then slammed you hard.

No half decent person would do that.

His opinion is not worth a thing. And I agree it was some kind of cruel game.

Hard to remember he is as nothing when you're reeling from the shock though. And the surprise factor makes it easier to have got under your skin because your guard is down.

Horrid nasty man.

I bet you are lovely. I think you were targeted by incels.

Not surprised. I'd feel the same.

Give yourself time but also you need help to put this behind you because that was an horrific thing to happen.

I completely understand. But for yourself, try and get out, even just for a short time. Don't sit home and dwell on what this no hoper has said. Try and take small steps to build your confidence back up.
It sounds a bit cliche but can you do something for you, treat yourself to some new clothes that make you feel good, a haircut, nails done etc.
Hold your head up high, you have just as much worth and just as much right as everyone else to be out and about and living your life.

@Crojo can’t get them words out of my head what the other person said “what a monster”, I’m thinking so negatively that other people must see me this way also that I must look deformed or weird somehow, I’m in my own head and it’s not good, I’m going to try and get back out tomorrow I’m just festering and getting depressed about it all. The man is evil for warping my self esteem, but really my self esteem hasn’t been great in a long while. Thankyou

@Unhappyunicorn agreeing with the others they were nasty. You’re not horrible.

I did old. I also had a no make uo
pic on. Some guys said I was ‘brave’ putting that on. I thought wtf! Their problem not yours.

Another was keen on messages. We had a phone call and he clearly did not like my scouse accent and I didn’t hear from again.

Don’t engage with sex chat. That’s them trying it on. They’re not interested in a relationship.

You have done nothing wrong OP , this man and his mate are a couple of idiots and/or sadists. Whereas you are a nice woman trying to find love. They should be feeling humiliated not you.

That's going to be hard to forget. I still remember insults said to me decades ago at school. But deep down you know you're not a monster. Have you ever seen anyone that looks like a monster? I never have.
He was a silly childish man using silly childish words to hurt you. It isn't the truth.

Good God. No wonder you feel like utter crap, anyone would!! I've had derogatory comments, I guess most of us have, and weirdly it's all the crap nasty comments that repeat over and over on our heads - never the nice things people say. I did online dating and it's soul destroying and time consuming, you end up feeling like a commodity there to be judged. I eventually gave up and ended up meeting my now husband in a supermarket whilst shopping 😂 all you need is that 1 person....your person will find you beautiful inside and out. Wait for him.

Stop putting yourself down, just stop it! I read a quote once that words are like magic so all your self talk has to be positive. And you don’t need to pout in photos either, just be yourself.

So, what’s this new hobby going to be then? Onwards and upwards.

I am fucking FURIOUS on your behalf!! How dare that horrible prick put you down like that.
May his dick fall off.
PLEASE please please don't let it get you down. The fact that he had his stupid mate in tow shows that they were on a mission to put a woman down. Any woman. Angelina Jolie herself could have answered that video call and they'd have found a way to belittle her.

You’re clearly attractive. I suspect they are a couple of sad little men who do this to women all the time. Feel sorry for them - imagine being that sad!

Also, I had a torrid time with OLD but met my husband 3 weeks before my 37th birthday. Sometimes I still quite believe it happened because some of the dates and experiences were unbelievable!

He's a horrible prick, and so was the twat who was with him too, you are not a monster, not ugly, in fact you're beautiful.
Please stay away from online dating and love yourself so much, treat yourself and talk to yourself the way you would a friend.
These arseholes will get their comeuppance one day