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Would you go to a wedding on your wedding anniversary?

125 replies

springhurryup1 · 15/01/2025 19:06

If you were invited to a wedding on your own wedding anniversary would you go?

In this scenario it's not a 'big' anniversary
Your spouse isn't invited to the wedding
The wedding is not that of a close family member of friend

Would it be weird if you DID go?

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ExtraDisorganised · 16/01/2025 22:34

Yes, I'd go, love a wedding and DH wouldn't mind

Roryno · 16/01/2025 22:35

Yes. We’ve been to two weddings on our anniversary. One of then left us a happy anniversary card on our table. But I haven’t been to a wedding without him since we were married. We don’t make a fuss about our anniversary though. As long as they keep coming round we’re happy!

irregularegular · 16/01/2025 22:44

The fact it's our wedding anniversary wouldn't make any difference, unless we already had something specific planned/booked for that day.

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AngelinaFibres · 16/01/2025 22:47

If I wanted to go I'd go and we'd celebrate our anniversary with a nice meal another day.
DIL gave birth to her second baby on her and my sons 4th wedding anniversary. They have accepted that the day isn't going to be about them for many years

midnights92 · 16/01/2025 22:51

It wouldn't factor into my decision to go at all. I would just see it as a nice coincidence.

ChiliFiend · 16/01/2025 22:56

Of course. I find making a big deal of wedding anniversaries kind of weird.

toomuchcheesetoomuchchocolate · 16/01/2025 22:56

It wouldn't occur to me as a reason to say no, unless I didn't want to go when I might use it as an excuse

DorothyStorm · 16/01/2025 22:59

Ponderingwindow · 16/01/2025 22:25

I wouldn’t attend a wedding where my spouse wasn’t invited. It doesn’t matter if it is on our anniversary or a random day.

This.

allfurcoatnoknickers · 16/01/2025 23:03

I'd go, but then DH and I have two wedding anniversaries (legal wedding and big wedding) and manage to fuck up which one we're celebrating every year.

WonderingAboutThus · 16/01/2025 23:04

It would not occur to me to not go.

seven201 · 16/01/2025 23:09

Definitely I'd go.

Copperoliverbear · 16/01/2025 23:12

Why not

Ginkypig · 16/01/2025 23:30

Ye I’d go if I wanted to and my partner would do the same

neither of us would even have the slightest issue with it!

obviously there would be a question about going if it was a big anniversary or we had made an arrangement for it p I don’t mean booked a meal I mean like had already booked tickets away or something.

user1492757084 · 15/09/2025 07:36

Yes, and DH would take advantage of the accommodation and we'd make a weekend of it. Together we would sight see, ramble or visit a gallery etc. Weddings are fun but they are not late nights.

HerewardtheSleepy · 15/09/2025 07:40

Yes. Why wouldn't I?

NeedWineNow · 15/09/2025 09:29

I find it strange that you’ve been invited to a wedding but your spouse hasn’t, but that’s another issue.

Me and DH have been to a wedding on our anniversary and the groom mentioned it in his speech. Didn’t bother us in the slightest and in fact took us back with happy memories of our own day.

Antimimisti · 15/09/2025 09:34

If it's one I'd go to on any other day, I'd go. I'm not hugely keen on weddings and only go if I genuinely think I'd be missed.

As far as my anniversary goes, DH & my usual treat is to go for a meal out, but we often push it to a convenient night, nearest weekend sort of thing, so I don't think it would be an issue to do it on another night.

amicisimma · 15/09/2025 11:32

Yes

CeeceeBloomingdale · 15/09/2025 11:33

Yes of course, I barely remember our anniversary anyway.

mondaytosunday · 15/09/2025 12:01

Yes though why are you even invited if it’s not a close relative or friend? Why didn’t they invite your spouse?

noidea69 · 15/09/2025 12:05

Strikes me as the type of thing that if a husband went to a wedding his wife wasn't invited to on their wedding anniversary its a big no no.

But for a wife to go and leave her husband behind its fine.

Printedword · 15/09/2025 12:13

I'm not sure I'd go to a wedding my spouse wasn't invited to. However, we have been married over 30 years and it's difficult to imagine a wedding invite that would involve just one of us.

BBQPete · 15/09/2025 14:09

Printedword · 15/09/2025 12:13

I'm not sure I'd go to a wedding my spouse wasn't invited to. However, we have been married over 30 years and it's difficult to imagine a wedding invite that would involve just one of us.

Really?

I've been to an old school friend's second wedding without dh.
He's been to a colleague's wedding without me.
I've been to two colleagues' wedding without him.
He's been to an old University friend's without me.

CurlyhairedAssassin · 16/09/2025 19:40

BBQPete · 15/09/2025 14:09

Really?

I've been to an old school friend's second wedding without dh.
He's been to a colleague's wedding without me.
I've been to two colleagues' wedding without him.
He's been to an old University friend's without me.

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Depends on the dynamic, isn't it? I mean if you drag your other half along to a colleague's wedding where no-one else has brought their spouse, and the group talks shop all day/evening then it's not very fun for your other half, and you feel inclined to try to include them in things. There's lots of "oh this is X, remember i mentioned that he did Y project with me?" etc. Same with reminiscing about old uni days. Quite boring for both you and your spouse after a while., to be constantly explaining things to them all the time. Almost like babysitting them ha ha!

But if it's the wedding of someone in the family who have known your spouse from family parties through the years too then I would be reluctant to go without him being there, because he's part of the family too!

HaughtyAndCold · 16/09/2025 19:42

I’d go, and have indeed gone on my wedding anniversary

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