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Would you go to a wedding on your wedding anniversary?

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springhurryup1 · 15/01/2025 19:06

If you were invited to a wedding on your own wedding anniversary would you go?

In this scenario it's not a 'big' anniversary
Your spouse isn't invited to the wedding
The wedding is not that of a close family member of friend

Would it be weird if you DID go?

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DuskyPink1984 · 16/01/2025 20:37

Of course!

stayathomer · 16/01/2025 20:40

It’s not really what other people would do though- if you and your other half generally do a big day out or something or you’re not sure of the wedding either way, then it’s fair enough to consider not going

CallieRose · 16/01/2025 20:51

I wouldn't but only because my husband is now dead. We didn't get to celebrate many anniversaries together despite having been together for many years, so I find our anniversary a difficult day and would struggle to appropriately celebrate someone else's union on that day. Before his death I don't think I would have given it a second thought though.

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mindutopia · 16/01/2025 20:52

Yes, of course, certainly sounds more extravagant than anything we’d do for our actual anniversary. 😂 Normally just have a nice steak at home. We don’t own the day and it’s lovely to celebrate other people too. But I wouldn’t go alone.

FfsNotNow · 16/01/2025 20:55

I've been to a wedding on my anniversary (although with DH so slightly different). It was a lot of fun - basically a free celebration 😂

CurlyhairedAssassin · 16/01/2025 21:00

Are "plus one"s not a thing nowadays then?

PatchworkElmer · 16/01/2025 21:02

I don’t think I’d want to go without DH, if I’m honest.

PigInAHouse · 16/01/2025 21:03

CurlyhairedAssassin · 16/01/2025 21:00

Are "plus one"s not a thing nowadays then?

Why would one person choosing to do something in a particular way mean that all people do things in that same way ‘nowadays’? Some people invite plus ones, some don’t.

RosesAndHellebores · 16/01/2025 21:03

Probably not. Not because it was our anniversary but because, if DH wasn't invited, I doubt the couple getting married would be that close.

FunDeer · 16/01/2025 21:07

Yes. Unless it was a major anniversary and I knew that plans had been made for us to celebrate it.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 16/01/2025 21:29

Dh and I did a few years ago, non-immediate family wedding. It was about our 47th 😱, so being so ‘vintage’ we did tell the the B&G well in advance that we and 2 couples of equally vintage family siblings/ILs would be sloping off before the dinner/noisy disco, for a nice quietly civilised dinner elsewhere.

RickiRaccoon · 16/01/2025 21:40

I'd go to a wedding on an anniversary since they're pretty low key for us. We just swap cards and have a small present.

I probably wouldn't bother with a wedding DH wasn't invited to. I'd assume they weren't close and had a tight budget so could do with the extra decline!

AyrnotAir · 16/01/2025 21:43

Absolutely, I'd even have gone if it was a big one and we weren't away.

Dueanamechange2025 · 16/01/2025 21:50

Assuming id go if it was any other day, then yes id go.

BBQPete · 16/01/2025 22:14

Like virtually everyone else, of course I would.

I mean, if you don't want to go to the wedding, then don't go. It is an invitation which you can accept or turn down.

But there's no reason not to go because it happens to fall on your wedding anniversary.

I know two separate couples, who got married on their parents' anniversaries.

If you want to celebrate your anniversary, then do it the night before, or the next weekend, that way you get to enjoy both occasions.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 16/01/2025 22:16

If I wanted to go then yes. If not then there's no better excuse than sorry, it's my own wedding anniversary that day and we've got special plans.

BoTimic · 16/01/2025 22:17

It wouldn't cross my mind not to go.

DancingHippos · 16/01/2025 22:20

I've been to too many funerals as of late so would definitely be up for the fun of a wedding. Personally a wedding would trump my own wedding anniversary as I don't get to as many weddings as I'd like!

sleetysnowflakes · 16/01/2025 22:22

We must have married on a popular weekend, for the first few years there always seemed to be a wedding that weekend (or a colleague on honeymoon who we had to cover at work). Then we had a child who was born on it, so I don’t think we’ve been able to have the evening out or go away together in the 15 years we have been married

skippy67 · 16/01/2025 22:23

Yes I'd go. I love a wedding!

Ponderingwindow · 16/01/2025 22:25

I wouldn’t attend a wedding where my spouse wasn’t invited. It doesn’t matter if it is on our anniversary or a random day.

Nubbled · 16/01/2025 22:25

Yes of course. Why not ?

RawBloomers · 16/01/2025 22:28

We don’t really celebrate our wedding anniversary, so that wouldn’t make much difference to my attending unless my DH felt put out by it.

Solo invites to wedding tend not to sound that attractive to me, but it would depend on who was getting married and who else was going. I’d be unlikely to go to one where I wouldn’t know and like many people, but probably would go to a work colleague’s if lots of others I liked were going, or a distant family member where lots of family I liked were going.

Pipsquiggle · 16/01/2025 22:29

Yes I would go assuming you liked the people getting married

CanelliniBeans · 16/01/2025 22:32

Yes if I wanted to and I'd celebrate my anniversary the next day

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