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Would you go to a wedding on your wedding anniversary?

125 replies

springhurryup1 · 15/01/2025 19:06

If you were invited to a wedding on your own wedding anniversary would you go?

In this scenario it's not a 'big' anniversary
Your spouse isn't invited to the wedding
The wedding is not that of a close family member of friend

Would it be weird if you DID go?

OP posts:
Printedword · 15/01/2025 20:00

I might go, but why would anyone issue an invite without a plus one. Years ago, I had to go in my own to a school friend's wedding because she didn't invite plus ones unless married. She was 22, so this seemed really odd because so few of us were married.

JimHalpertsWife · 15/01/2025 20:01

Yes, I would. Because dh and I rarely even remember that it is our anniversary.

paulyispoorly · 15/01/2025 20:02

My mum refused to watch my Ds while I went to the hairdresser for the first time in years because it was her wedding anniversary. My dad was at work....

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RunVelma · 15/01/2025 20:03

paulyispoorly · 15/01/2025 20:02

My mum refused to watch my Ds while I went to the hairdresser for the first time in years because it was her wedding anniversary. My dad was at work....

That’s batshit, but also hilarious! Grin

Perfectlystill · 15/01/2025 20:05

What a strange question!

I go to weddings I want to go to and make excuses for those I don't.

Whether it's our wedding anniversary or our dog's birthday.

user2848502016 · 15/01/2025 20:05

If I wanted to go of course I would, why wouldn't you?!

user1471526265 · 15/01/2025 20:07

I would, and have done. Twice! First time was a work colleague and a group of us went together without partners/plus 1s. Had a great time.

Second time DH and I did go together as it was actually his cousin getting married. If he'd been invited without me I'd have sent him on his merry way.

We don't tend to make a big deal of our anniversary unless it's a big one (1st & 10th so far). Our 20th is this year, and I will turn 50 shortly after, so we may do something combined for that - would probably want to be organising something by now if we are 😂

ThePoshUns · 15/01/2025 20:15

Yes I would go

bananaboats · 15/01/2025 20:24

Yes I don't see why you wouldn't tbh!

martha4clark · 15/01/2025 20:25

Yes!

biscuitsandbooks · 15/01/2025 20:25

Of course.

IAmNeverThePerson · 15/01/2025 20:25

Of course I’d go. Why would you not?

jhar · 15/01/2025 20:51

Yes

ByQuaintAzureWasp · 15/01/2025 21:00

Absolutely yes

InspectorGidget · 16/01/2025 19:32

I don't disagree @crumblingschools

I was just saying I think it's weirder to not go just because it's your wedding anniversary than it would be to go.

That was the question the OP asked whether it would be weird to go on your own anniversary.

Seems there's more to it here than that though.

Moveoverdarlin · 16/01/2025 19:34

I have done a few times. Our anniversary is mid-August so peak wedding season. Wouldn’t occur to me to not go, possibly if it was our 25th.

Twinklybeam · 16/01/2025 19:35

Yes I’d go. Celebrate your wedding anniversary the week before or something.

HeddaGarbled · 16/01/2025 19:36

I wouldn’t have any problem with the date but I wouldn’t go to a wedding my H wasn’t invited to.

Snowmanscarf · 16/01/2025 19:38

If DH is not invited, I’d consider circumstances, but the date wouldn’t stop me. Let’s face it, you’ve got 1/365 chance of this happening, and higher than that if your anniversary falls in spring or summer.

MajorCarolDanvers · 16/01/2025 19:43

I’d go

MeMyseIfAndI · 16/01/2025 19:44

A friend/colleague used her wedding anniversary (third, I think) to not come to my wedding - I don't know if she just didn't fancy it (not a destination wedding but was a few hours' from where she lived) and I thought it a bit weird if that was the genuine reason - had a few people say they couldn't due to the distance, and that felt a better reason to me!

museumum · 16/01/2025 19:57

I can’t think of any9ne who would invite me to a wedding without dh. We have been together 20 years and are quite enmeshed. So in my case it would be nobody I was close to and so I may not accept. However if I still worked in an office and it was an office friend or if it was someone from my run club and we were going as a group then maybe - but I’d have to really want to go.

Twaddlepip · 16/01/2025 20:31

I don’t think it would occur to me not to go.

Boredlass · 16/01/2025 20:35

Yes I’d go. I don’t even remember when my anniversary is. It’s June or July, I know that much. DH has to remind me every year but I never remember

gettingolderbutcooler · 16/01/2025 20:36

Yes. I'd think- thank god I don't have to worry about remembering my own anniversary.