I think the real privilege is if you have an excellent local state school where your DC can thrive, make lots of local friends, attend local clubs.
I think the connections thing is a fallacy, Perhaps for kids in boarding schools because they have to, forcibly, make each other quasi family so it becomes a brotherhood or sisterhood bond. However, surely peer on peer “connections” at university will always be far more significant, so for connections it really has to be the top universities. In reality, it’s the parental demographic that has the connections, not the 15 year olds.
And finally, I reckon people pay for different reasons like family or cultural expectations, genuine need like SEND or local underperforming option or not getting into the sought after local school.
So no, I don’t think feeling you have to pay all that money plus some now and work extra hard to fund it, is a privilege. But I appreciate the very differing views on the subject.
In reality, I am far more interested in the human rights act aspect in all of this and recent policies by the executive that have been challenged and the whole parliament is sovereign question.