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She was supposed to be MY dog!

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Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 10:36

Lighthearted! Ish. My feelings are crushed.

Finally got out of rented and bought a house a couple of years ago so we were in the position to own a dog again.

We got a beautiful golden retriever puppy last year. She’s almost 1 now. I grew up with goldens and had two myself when I was younger and in my first marriage. I love the breed, wouldn’t consider another. Dh has never owned a dog (I met him after my dogs had passed away). He wanted one too, so did the children - my younger two are 10 and 4 so have never had a dog. But, you know, getting a dog was for me, really. I’m the one with the time to spend training, walking.

She loves dh. Dh loves her. It’s like something out of a Disney movie.

I’m at home all day. But does she sit with me? No. She sits in dh office, under his desk, happily pressed up against his legs, “chatting” to his colleagues and their dogs on video calls. When he leaves the house, does she sit with me? No. She stares out the front window, like a fisherman’s wife looking mournfully out to sea until his return. I walk her everyday; take her to lovely places where she can run and sniff to her hearts content. She lives for the moment she can dart back into the front door and literally jump into my husbands arms.

She is very much my husband’s dog and I’m not okay.

Oh and my username - she badly injured me a while ago darting after a squirrel and pulling me over in the process. She has never pulled dh. She trots along side him, looking up at him adoringly. So I stand by calling her a massive twat.

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DramaAlpaca · 09/01/2025 12:13

Our springer is my dog, he loves all the family but he adores me, has to be snuggled up next to me, goes bananas when I come home, all the usual.

It wasn't supposed to be this way, he was meant to be DH's dog. DH and DS chose him from the litter, DH feeds him, DH walks him... but no, doggo loves me the most.

I'm a cat person, fgs.

Tomatocutwithazigzagedge · 09/01/2025 12:14

LandSharksAnonymous · 09/01/2025 11:11

Twat's everywhere, eh OP? FWIW though, she is still very* *young if she's only just a year. Give her time!

I have four and DDog4 ignored me, other than training and food and walks, for about the first 18 months and just lusted after my DH sickening little twat that he was. Although it did turn out that DH was walking around with pockets full of chicken...WELL two can play at THAT game. Now Ddog4 doesn't leave my side and DH is resolutely ignored.

I was going to say - check his pockets for bacon!

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · 09/01/2025 12:17

Umm, this is me but the other way. My son had a whippet, adored him, but sadly he could no longer have her. She came home with us and she is now my shadow. Feel bad that when we visit him, she still is constantly watching to make sure I don’t leave. And we have a fox terrier whose favourite person is other son. But tolerates us. 😏

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MangoBiscuit · 09/01/2025 12:20

God, this is my cat!

I rescued him, bought him everything, do almost all his meals, all his treats, do all his grooming (he LOVES being brushed) spend way more time with him. I am the spare. When DH comes home, cat rushes to greet him, wants to sit in his lap, and stares at him adoringly. I joked to my friend she needed to find a man who looked at her the way my cat looks at DH.

Even if I am brushing him, and he's purring and drooling, if DH walks into the room, cat will launch himself towards him, even if he scratches me up in the process. Twat. 😁

TwinklyOrca · 09/01/2025 12:25

Time to get a second dog I think!

AdoraBell · 09/01/2025 12:26

We had dogs, one was my “baby” I’ll post a picture. Another dog was DH’s, I was the spare human.

Ezzee · 09/01/2025 12:37

My bitch is the same ...
DH works out the country for months at a time so I will be ok, DS better still BUT as soon as DH is home she's gone, all puppy eyed and glued! She was mine!!
But we also have another dog, DS's dog in fact who is glued to my side 24/7, he loves me so much... sorry DS 😂

thenewaveragebear1983 · 09/01/2025 12:44

Mines the same, dh didn't even want a dog. She's my shadow all day until dh comes home then she steps over me to get to him, tail wagging, big goofy Labrador smile. She snuggles him on the sofa and does that sign of pure contentment when she looks at him.

RhubarbAndFlustered · 09/01/2025 12:45

I had an orphaned kitten. Well, not an orphan, just dumped by her farm cat colony mama onto my doorstep and she never looked back. Even when I returned the kitten (who hadn't even opened her eyes yet!) back to the cat she dumped it back on my step. I fed that baby by hand every two hours. I cleaned her back end with cotton wool after every feed. I woke all through the night to care for her. I stayed by her side when she was in danger of dying and nursed her through it. Twice.

And did she give a shit? No. She became my husband's shadow. He didn't like cats. Always said no to getting any. Told me that the kitten wasn't allowed in the main part of the house etc. the second DH sat down she'd be on him in a heartbeat, getting her daddy snuggles (don't blame her tbh). I was just the spare human.

Iloveyoubut · 09/01/2025 12:48

We had a labradoodle many years ago who, as a puppy, instantly fell in love with my aunt (the feeling was mutual) to the extent that we had to step aside and just let them be together 😂 we had her for around six months and they spent the next 17 years with each other.

lcakethereforeIam · 09/01/2025 12:49

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/01/2025 10:56

Omg! When the 3 of them are wearing beards 🤣

Iloveyoubut · 09/01/2025 12:49

RhubarbAndFlustered · 09/01/2025 12:45

I had an orphaned kitten. Well, not an orphan, just dumped by her farm cat colony mama onto my doorstep and she never looked back. Even when I returned the kitten (who hadn't even opened her eyes yet!) back to the cat she dumped it back on my step. I fed that baby by hand every two hours. I cleaned her back end with cotton wool after every feed. I woke all through the night to care for her. I stayed by her side when she was in danger of dying and nursed her through it. Twice.

And did she give a shit? No. She became my husband's shadow. He didn't like cats. Always said no to getting any. Told me that the kitten wasn't allowed in the main part of the house etc. the second DH sat down she'd be on him in a heartbeat, getting her daddy snuggles (don't blame her tbh). I was just the spare human.

Yup, that’s the thanks you get! 😂

Inthebleakmidwinter1 · 09/01/2025 12:50

You are the spare human

Tommarvolo · 09/01/2025 12:51

I have the opposite. DH insisted on a puppy, we got one on the understanding he would do all care for the puppy. 2 weeks in and I was the one doing all the walks, all the worming, fleaing, bathing, brushing, feeding, training. So the dog loves me and I am number one and I can't sit down without being smothered in dog slobber.

Honeybunny7 · 09/01/2025 12:53

We have this exact same situation, BF had never had a dog and we got a female border collie, she is absolutely besotted with him. Cries when he leaves the house. When she was two we got a male daschund who is absolutely besotted with me and is my first ever male dog!

Kbroughton · 09/01/2025 12:54

Ha. Same situation but with a cat. Me and DD wanted a cat, campaigned for months. DP hates cats, didnt want one. Eventually he relented. Guess what? He and cat adore each other. He carries around the cat on his shoulder. The cat sits adoringly looking at him and follows him around. He and the cat have conversations with each other. GRRRRR

Salad666 · 09/01/2025 12:54

I'd say my furry little baby loves both me and DH equally, if either one of us is out she'll be watching out the window or snuggled up to the remaining one but she listens to me more, will not come inside for DH at all and I find it hilarious 😂. However, every night in bed she dives between us and licks his entire top half for what feels like hours and I can't help feeling jealous! Where's my love!

Honestly sometimes I feel like there's 3 of us in this marriage and I don't know how to feel 😂.

And yes the bastard has a beard, I have him shave and it's back within an hour so it's utterly pointless.

Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 12:55

I’ve just spent an hour in the woods, freezing my arse off and risking life and limb on patches of ice while
she had the time of her life, running around like a maniac.

Dh was making tea in the kitchen when we got home. She greated him as if he’d been at war for a year. I won’t see her until this evening now, she’ll be snoozing at his feet.

She was supposed to be MY dog!
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Pancakeflipper · 09/01/2025 12:57

Oh this is my dog.

Bloody Disney Dad drives up the driveway in an evening and the whining, wagging, squeaky yelps of joy....

My dog follows him round with big loving eyes. Will only sit with me if I have a cosy blanket to share.

Dear Doggie,
Your much adored 'daddy' sneered at the thought of you gorgeous doggie because you weren't as big as a New Foundland (his childhood doggies). He didnt really want you.. and now you are inseparable. He even does baby voices when he grooms you and I know he lets you lick his plate, and hes bought yet another doggie bed for his office because he wants to take you work (he misses you too in the day).

And DP doesn't have a beard.

Balloonhearts · 09/01/2025 12:58

You know the answer. Second dog.

CurlewKate · 09/01/2025 13:01

One of our cats is like this with DS and he doesn't even live here!!!

GreyAreas · 09/01/2025 13:03

My neighbours had the nicest most sociable loving cat in the world, everyone from miles around adored it. It was consistently horrible to them 😂 .
Massive twat.

WorldMap24 · 09/01/2025 13:05

Sorry OP, I had to have a little laugh but in solidarity! I have a 7yo German Shepherd, and she absolutely adores my mum over anyone else, which is infuriating because my mum doesn't even live with us! I believe the bond was set when we first brought her home.....I was ill with flu the first few days and my mum had come to stay and pitched in alot for the three days she was with us. It doesn't help that any time my mum comes over she spoils the dog rotten too. On the positive side, I never feel guilty about going on holiday and leaving the dog with my parents as I know she won't miss us a jot!!

Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 13:05

Oh, and that photo was for dh. Most days, when I am out with her, he will text me, “is she okay?” and likes a photo.

He never asks if I’m okay, walking alone in the woods, in the dodgy area where we live, oh no, it’s the dog he’s thinking about.

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Manchesterbythesea · 09/01/2025 13:06

Well she’s a much loved dog and that’s the main thing. Our cockapoo is the opposite, he only has eyes for me, follows me around like I’m a celebrity!

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