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She was supposed to be MY dog!

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Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 10:36

Lighthearted! Ish. My feelings are crushed.

Finally got out of rented and bought a house a couple of years ago so we were in the position to own a dog again.

We got a beautiful golden retriever puppy last year. She’s almost 1 now. I grew up with goldens and had two myself when I was younger and in my first marriage. I love the breed, wouldn’t consider another. Dh has never owned a dog (I met him after my dogs had passed away). He wanted one too, so did the children - my younger two are 10 and 4 so have never had a dog. But, you know, getting a dog was for me, really. I’m the one with the time to spend training, walking.

She loves dh. Dh loves her. It’s like something out of a Disney movie.

I’m at home all day. But does she sit with me? No. She sits in dh office, under his desk, happily pressed up against his legs, “chatting” to his colleagues and their dogs on video calls. When he leaves the house, does she sit with me? No. She stares out the front window, like a fisherman’s wife looking mournfully out to sea until his return. I walk her everyday; take her to lovely places where she can run and sniff to her hearts content. She lives for the moment she can dart back into the front door and literally jump into my husbands arms.

She is very much my husband’s dog and I’m not okay.

Oh and my username - she badly injured me a while ago darting after a squirrel and pulling me over in the process. She has never pulled dh. She trots along side him, looking up at him adoringly. So I stand by calling her a massive twat.

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GoneTooFarAgain · 09/01/2025 11:17

Ahaha I'm crying laughing at that beard video @EvangelicalAboutButteredToast

I'll never forget coming home to see my beloved 14-year-old dog who I've had since I myself was 10, visiting with my new boyfriend and he welcomed the boyfriend like a long lost relative, despite never meeting him before.

...said boyfriend had a beard.

Oh god I'm going to have to get my partner to shave before we get a dog aren't I. But I don't fancy him when he shaves!! What a life dilemma.

MadameCholetsDirtySecret · 09/01/2025 11:19

Have you watched 'The Hand that Rocks the Cradle'? 🤪

Perhaps a new version 'The Paw that Rocks the DogBed'.

RanchRat · 09/01/2025 11:33

I have had four consecutive dogs who lived out thier lives in my family.
The first loved no one.
The second loved DH.
The third loved DD.
The fourth loved me.
Our fifth and possibly last dog loves us all.

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Weyohweyoh · 09/01/2025 11:37

I feel your pain. I have spent hours and hours training our dog to be the well behaved, sociable little angel she is. Then DH gets all the credit when they’re out on walks, with her gazing lovingly at him like he’s the centre of the universe. I even feed the little sod and she still likes him better 🤷‍♀️

SweetLathyrus · 09/01/2025 11:39

DDog1 - my dog, DH wasn't bothered about getting one but slowly became besotted with the beastie who is ten tomorrow.
So, three years ago, we got him one of his own, DDog2. DDog2 chose me - obsessively, he is my furry little stalker. Or at least he was until this Autumn when he seems to finally notice DH existed and decided he might love him too!

So there is still hope, OP.

WinWhenTheyreSinging · 09/01/2025 11:41

If it's not possible to take the very sensible advice of getting her a brother (in my experience, there is some anecdotal 'evidence' of bitches & men/males & women pairings seeming to be the way it goes LOL), then she is young - you have time to steal her back. Always have a pocketful of treats. Teach her stuff to strengthen your bond.

Minesril · 09/01/2025 11:43

This is my cat. We got him because DH sometimes works away and cat was supposed to keep me company. He sleeps on DH's lap, never mine. They told us he was 'nervous' around men!!

I think it's because DH stays up late and when cat first got here he used to come out at night when the rest of us were in bed. And thus a bond was made.

I do get head bumps against my hand in the morning when he wants breakfast at 5.45. I'll take what I can get.

lovelydayIhave · 09/01/2025 11:43

Oh I get you- we have this with our rescue cat.
She bares with me if no one around, but she's very much daddy's cat girl.
And he is spoiling her rotten.😀❤️🐾

Tracystubbs · 09/01/2025 11:43

I don't own a dog,but we often dog-sit for friends dogs

I'm dog soppy-dogs are life

Dog 1-belongs to my mate
We have him for a week once a year while she goes to visit family
I walk him,feed him,own the treats etc
He's madly in love with dp-if dp gets up,so does the dog but if dp goes out of sight,dog cries until dp is back in his eyeline
He couldn't give less of a fuck if I'm there or not

Dogs 2&3-one has known dp since he was a pup and the other has known me all his life
Both ignore me if dp is around but I'll do if I have food or a ball

Dog 4-hes ds's dog
Loves us both but will do his best to be as close to dp as is possible
He will sit with me if dp isn't around
Prefers to be with his 'real' family-hes ds's dog but will be happy with ds's girlfriend but its all crying and tail wagging when ds comes back

Dogs 5&6-one loves everyone,the other is a nervous dog but is madly in love with dp
She's his shadow-she's met him twice but sees me about once a fortnight

Dp has a beard-I've never heard of it but does make sense

harriethoyle · 09/01/2025 11:45

A) shave your husbands face. Whilst he sleeps. Eyebrows, beard, the lot. Bonus points if you sharpie a penis on his forehead
B) make him go away with work so ddog feels abandoned. Perhaps he could retrain as a submariner? They’re away for months at a time with no contact
C) get another ddog. Two is no more work than one. Original ddog will up her game when she has competition. Even if she doesn’t second ddog will be so traumatised by bare penis faced husband she will reject him. Win win!!

Starlight1984 · 09/01/2025 11:50

FWIW @Mydogisamassivetwat , I got my dog before I even got together with DH and he has STILL ended up being DHs dog. He spent the first 3 years of his life with me, completely glued to my side, then just abandoned me when DH appeared on the scene 😭

I went out with a friend the other week for the evening and when I came home, DH needed to nip out to the car to get something. The dogs (we have two now - more fool me 😂) were more excited to see DH when he returned from being at the car for less than a minute than they were to see me after 5 hours of being out. Gutted!

Ah well I least I know I picked a husband well as dogs are very good judges of character.

Also, my DH has a beard too!!!!!!

Arran2024 · 09/01/2025 11:51

Aw, that's hard. We have two bernese mountain dogs. The older one adores my husband - cries if he goes upstairs even -but the younger one prefers me. Both are boys. I think girls are supposed to be more particular. Anyway, add a male GR to the family and I bet he will be yours.

Starlight1984 · 09/01/2025 11:52

harriethoyle · 09/01/2025 11:45

A) shave your husbands face. Whilst he sleeps. Eyebrows, beard, the lot. Bonus points if you sharpie a penis on his forehead
B) make him go away with work so ddog feels abandoned. Perhaps he could retrain as a submariner? They’re away for months at a time with no contact
C) get another ddog. Two is no more work than one. Original ddog will up her game when she has competition. Even if she doesn’t second ddog will be so traumatised by bare penis faced husband she will reject him. Win win!!

This was very funny.

But re point C, we got another dog who I thought would be "my" dog but he also sided with DH and dog #1.

I don't think I can chance getting a third one just in case 😂

harriethoyle · 09/01/2025 11:57

Starlight1984 · 09/01/2025 11:52

This was very funny.

But re point C, we got another dog who I thought would be "my" dog but he also sided with DH and dog #1.

I don't think I can chance getting a third one just in case 😂

Three is definitely noticeably more work than two as we found when my late DMs dog came to us a fortnight after we adopted twin springers. Canine chaos! You need as many hands as you have dogs ime…

YonderTweek · 09/01/2025 11:59

Oh this would make me so sad. We got a cat awhile ago and he was supposed to be my cat, and it seemed for a minute that he preferred DH. I was devastated. Some time has passed and he's my little shadow and he finds me every night and snuggles up on my pillow. I bloody love it. In the OP's case I would probably get another dog and live happily in a two-dog household. 😁

Starlight1984 · 09/01/2025 11:59

harriethoyle · 09/01/2025 11:57

Three is definitely noticeably more work than two as we found when my late DMs dog came to us a fortnight after we adopted twin springers. Canine chaos! You need as many hands as you have dogs ime…

This is true and why I can't risk it. We also have two big dogs and are in the process of extending the house due to needing more room. If we got another dog we would most likely have to move 😂

ScouserInExile · 09/01/2025 12:05

I'm having the same issue. He didn't even want a dog, it took me ages to convince him we should get a pup, but now he loves her to bits. Our previous dog was male and was my baby but this one is a Daddy's Girl. No joke, you need a boy dog and so do I.

Starlight1984 · 09/01/2025 12:05

LandSharksAnonymous · 09/01/2025 11:11

Twat's everywhere, eh OP? FWIW though, she is still very* *young if she's only just a year. Give her time!

I have four and DDog4 ignored me, other than training and food and walks, for about the first 18 months and just lusted after my DH sickening little twat that he was. Although it did turn out that DH was walking around with pockets full of chicken...WELL two can play at THAT game. Now Ddog4 doesn't leave my side and DH is resolutely ignored.

Oh my god I have just realised why the dogs might prefer DH (clutching at straws).

Aside from the beard (which is getting shaved off in his sleep), he also feeds them from the kitchen counter when he's cooking. So if he's grating cheese he will leave two little cubes at the end or some chicken / beef when he is carving our Sunday Roast. I never do this. Maybe this is where I'm going wrong???

Starlight1984 · 09/01/2025 12:05

ScouserInExile · 09/01/2025 12:05

I'm having the same issue. He didn't even want a dog, it took me ages to convince him we should get a pup, but now he loves her to bits. Our previous dog was male and was my baby but this one is a Daddy's Girl. No joke, you need a boy dog and so do I.

I have two male dogs and they BOTH prefer DH!

HereForTheAnimals · 09/01/2025 12:06

Yeah, all our dogs have seemed to prefer DH, apart from an older lab that we rescued. Our current dog will come and sit with me, but if we've been out and we arrive home together, I might as well be invisible to the dog.

I think they have an hierarchy, and as far as the dog is concerned it is DH, dog and then me 🤣.

Mirabai · 09/01/2025 12:08

You need a cat. Cats despise everyone equally.

JackieGoodman · 09/01/2025 12:09

Our 2nd dog (lovely female Border Collie) adored DH, even though I spent most time with her, walks etc, its just how she was. I used to send him a valentines card from her 💘Grin

Motnight · 09/01/2025 12:09

Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 11:04

He’d look like a twat. The beard evens out his big, round dog stealing head.

🤣🤣🤣🤣

RB68 · 09/01/2025 12:09

You could try a knitted viking style beard to out do DH lol.

We have two labs and I have invested the time etc in training and yes they prefer DH, they are 8 months old and being twats on the lead at the moment - DH complained he felt like a barge in full sail with the two of them yesterday - I think we are going to have to retrain and walk sep for a while again

MyGhastIsFlabbered · 09/01/2025 12:13

I think we need photos of the traitorous dog before we can make any final decisions....please?