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She was supposed to be MY dog!

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Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 10:36

Lighthearted! Ish. My feelings are crushed.

Finally got out of rented and bought a house a couple of years ago so we were in the position to own a dog again.

We got a beautiful golden retriever puppy last year. She’s almost 1 now. I grew up with goldens and had two myself when I was younger and in my first marriage. I love the breed, wouldn’t consider another. Dh has never owned a dog (I met him after my dogs had passed away). He wanted one too, so did the children - my younger two are 10 and 4 so have never had a dog. But, you know, getting a dog was for me, really. I’m the one with the time to spend training, walking.

She loves dh. Dh loves her. It’s like something out of a Disney movie.

I’m at home all day. But does she sit with me? No. She sits in dh office, under his desk, happily pressed up against his legs, “chatting” to his colleagues and their dogs on video calls. When he leaves the house, does she sit with me? No. She stares out the front window, like a fisherman’s wife looking mournfully out to sea until his return. I walk her everyday; take her to lovely places where she can run and sniff to her hearts content. She lives for the moment she can dart back into the front door and literally jump into my husbands arms.

She is very much my husband’s dog and I’m not okay.

Oh and my username - she badly injured me a while ago darting after a squirrel and pulling me over in the process. She has never pulled dh. She trots along side him, looking up at him adoringly. So I stand by calling her a massive twat.

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TheFlis · 09/01/2025 10:38

Ah bless you. We finally got the exact dog I had wanted for years when we bought a house. He loves DH but 100% favours his mumma. I would be gutted if it was any other way!!

Trickedbyadoughnut · 09/01/2025 10:41

You need a little Golden Retriever brother and all your problems will be solved 😁

Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 10:41

TheFlis · 09/01/2025 10:38

Ah bless you. We finally got the exact dog I had wanted for years when we bought a house. He loves DH but 100% favours his mumma. I would be gutted if it was any other way!!

It’s very unfair. There is just no reasoning with her though.

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MoonDruid · 09/01/2025 10:42

Trickedbyadoughnut · 09/01/2025 10:41

You need a little Golden Retriever brother and all your problems will be solved 😁

This!

Firestorms · 09/01/2025 10:42

My dog and DH showed no interest in each other in the beginning- now they are madly in love with each other, like you say it’s like a Disney romance. I actually find it really sweet but that’s probably because side ddog does sit on me at the moment because it’s cold and I’m the warmest person!

Flatandhappy · 09/01/2025 10:42

You have my sympathy. Our dog also prefers DH and likes to spend most of his time with him in his office when he can. He likes me but I am definitely not the favourite. BUT unlike you our dog is 13 and I am so over looking after living things for most of my adult life (including three kids) I actually don’t mind. If I had a cute cuddly puppy I would be far less chill about it.

Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 10:50

It’s her first birthday next week. He’s taken the day off work, booked the private dog field, bought out the pets at home dogs birthday range.

For the record, we went to see the litter and she chose me! She wouldn’t leave me alone, if another puppy came up to me, she would get in front of them, ended up sat in my lap, staring up at me and wouldn’t move. I thought, yes, this is it! MY dog has chosen ME! This is like fucking Lassie or something!

Then we came home. We brought her into the living room, she snuggled on dh and he melted like he was holding a newborn baby and I’ve not had a look in since.

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LaurieFairyCake · 09/01/2025 10:50

This is why you need more dogs. I have 3 and they all take it in turns to be adoring towards both of us Grin

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/01/2025 10:52

Has he got a beard? There’s stuff online about the animal favouring the one with a beard! 🧔‍♂️

Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 10:52

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/01/2025 10:52

Has he got a beard? There’s stuff online about the animal favouring the one with a beard! 🧔‍♂️

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YES HE DOES!

Should I get a stick on one? I’m that desperate for the validation.

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EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/01/2025 10:53

Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 10:52

YES HE DOES!

Should I get a stick on one? I’m that desperate for the validation.

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Well that’s interesting isn’t it!!!

get yourself a fake beard and go from there 😎

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/01/2025 10:56
EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/01/2025 10:56

Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 10:52

YES HE DOES!

Should I get a stick on one? I’m that desperate for the validation.

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Watch the video lol

ForgottenPasswordNewAccount · 09/01/2025 10:57

My greyhound has done this to me.

My husband who is terrified of dogs, it took 10 years to wear him down on the understand that we got a dog who does not jump and bark.

He has now taught her to jump up on him for treats and bark.

She lies on the sofa gazing up at him adoringly and gets annoyed if i stay up late she doesnt get her alone time with him.

I am the one that walks her, picks up her shite, buys her all her lovely clothes to make sure she isnt too cold

tried to find her lovely greyhound friends but no, i am surplus to requirement when husband is around

vodkaredbullgirl · 09/01/2025 10:58

You need another one 😆

Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 11:00

She lies on the sofa gazing up at him adoringly and gets annoyed if i stay up late she doesnt get her alone time with him

This is what happens in our house. Dh stays
up late and they sit together watching TV. The few times it’s been the other way round, my hairy little traitor won’t sit with me, she lays at the bottom of the stairs huffing and puffing that dh isn’t there.

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TheYeaSayer · 09/01/2025 11:01

😅😅

Hated dogs all my life, but 11 years ago ended up getting golden retriever (best dogs ever!) puppy for DD who’d had a bad time. Well. From the outset I was doing most of the care as DD was leaving early for college, and pup became my little duckling. We were soon inseparable, and I became a doggo convert!

He is an old man now, and still loves his mama. I think some dogs have a built in instinct to track down the person with the most antipathy to dogs and make it their mission to convert them!

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 09/01/2025 11:03

Personally I’d go on a campaign of love bombing with the dog. I’d wear my partner’s shirt or coat that smells of him. Stuck a fake beard on. Have sausages in my pockets. Tennis balls and the best walks. Whatever it takes to make the dog associate you with great times.

HappyNewFeckingYear · 09/01/2025 11:03

Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 10:52

YES HE DOES!

Should I get a stick on one? I’m that desperate for the validation.

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Shave him Wink

Mydogisamassivetwat · 09/01/2025 11:04

HappyNewFeckingYear · 09/01/2025 11:03

Shave him Wink

He’d look like a twat. The beard evens out his big, round dog stealing head.

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FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 09/01/2025 11:07

My dad is a bit of a twat, I mean this seriously. And yet, my dog fucking loves him. They're totally in love and absolute best friends. He will come and get her because he misses her, and when I pick her up she will hide from me!

My point - dogs are stupid.

LandSharksAnonymous · 09/01/2025 11:11

Twat's everywhere, eh OP? FWIW though, she is still very* *young if she's only just a year. Give her time!

I have four and DDog4 ignored me, other than training and food and walks, for about the first 18 months and just lusted after my DH sickening little twat that he was. Although it did turn out that DH was walking around with pockets full of chicken...WELL two can play at THAT game. Now Ddog4 doesn't leave my side and DH is resolutely ignored.

HailtotheBop · 09/01/2025 11:14

I hear you. We have a beautiful Galgo (Spanish greyhound). He's 'my' dog, but he's obsessed with DH and they adore one another. On the one hand it's lovely that he now trusts a man (he'd been badly mistreated and was so fearful of men). On the other I'm sorry I don't get the enthusiastic tail wags, leaps in the air and dances that DH gets, even if he's only left the room for 5 minutes!

FeelingSad2024 · 09/01/2025 11:14

I can one up you on this OP- not only does my dog, who is supposed to be mine because DH doesn't really likes dogs and only got one to please me, loves my DH more than me, but even more than that, loves my SISTER even more than DH!

My sister, who only ever visits every couple of months. Who has never walked him, or looked after him, or fed him. He would climb over our dead bodies to get to her if needed. When she turns up its like the long lost love of his life has returned!

Really makes me sad

Andywarholswig · 09/01/2025 11:16

Sorry OP this really made me laugh. Dogs are dicks. I would be gutted too if my DDog loved DH more, luckily despite his very bushy beard and I am his true love. But give it time, DH was not keen on getting DDog but now he can be found baby talking to him and snuggling on the sofa so you are playing the long game…

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