Was I rude to the waitress?

[ohdingo]

So we booked a table at all bar one
We were going for the tapas and cocktails
Now it's a 2 for 1 cocktail deal so we're getting 4 (2 each )and also 5 of the taps to share.
We walk in and it's probably 1/4 full.
She shows us to our table and it's a tiny 2 person table .
I ask "do you have a bigger table just we plan on having tapas and cocktails and there won't be room on her to move "
She rolled her eyes and took us to a bigger table.
The rest of the night she didn't look at me and you could tell she was annoyed.
Was I rude to ask to move tables?

Of course, whatever you say ….

You mean this post?

I mean no you weren't rude to ask to be moved. A please might have been a decent addition to the sentence though.
Although that said, us hospitality workers surely need to understand our place as second class citizens who don't garner enough respect for simple manners.
And if you book a table for 2 then that's what you are allocated. No great mystery there unless you decide it's got to be a nice little drama where hospitality staff are picking on poor old you.
I'm at a complete loss as to why hospitality is struggling for people to work in the industry. That one's a complete mystery🤔🙄

And if you book a table for 2 then that's what you are allocated. No great mystery there unless you decide it's got to be a nice little drama where hospitality staff are picking on poor old you

It's this bit that offended you but what the poster said was true. Why on earth would you think that a waitress spent the rest of her night avoiding you and not looking at you because you asked to move tables? You have tried making a drama.

Imagine going out for a nice night with someone and you spend the majority of your night looking at the waitress to see if she makes eye contact with you 🤣🤣🤣then coming online assuming she was avoiding you over a table and trying to complain about her 😅

The way you spoke to the poster has been vile, tried putting her down several times, been snarky and then weird snipes because she pointed out you were trying to be a victim about an absolute non issue

@NameChanger91736 clearly your reading something different to me
Have a good day

I'm definetly not and you know I'm not 😅

You are correct to ask for the table you want if available.
I do it all the time, don’t want be by bathrooms, by door, or by kitchen door. Not Next to kids.
With a particular relative, I prefer to be out of the way, quiet area.
Customer choice if possible. If crowded don’t get luxury of choosing.

Waitress doesn’t understand her job.
Rolling eyes unacceptable.
would have removed service charge.

Reasonable request
What you said is fine

Perhaps your tone and attitude was giving snooty and 'superior' vibes... given your responses to other people on this thread...

I run a bar, if I found out one of my staff rolled their eyes over a polite and sensible request I would be giving a formal warning.

Hospitality is fighting to survive and good service is key to that. Now when you think of that bar, you'll think of little miss eye roll with the attitude problem.

I would be inclined to send a message to the boss, just as an FYI not a complaint so they can be aware of her conduct. I also hope you didn't tip.

@HospitalitySux be careful you don't get a splinter from that massive chip on your shoulder

I think wait staff have some logic to where they seat people, it will be in a convenient way to the restaurant even if the restaurant is quiet. Totally understand the small table argument but to be fair, she wasn’t to know your order before taking it. The table is presumably large enough for a standard meal/drink per guest.

Agree rude behaviour and eye rolling is not a good thing but also having a bit of empathy doesn’t go amiss. I have worked in bars and restaurants and people can be rude and arrogant and it can get you down. Maybe the waitress was tired or someone had just been horrible to her, who knows. I personally don’t go round taking offence at every single slight that I encounter. Additionally no one knows how the op actually spoke to the waitress and rolling her eyes might have been a mild reaction.

Think maybe hospitality isn’t for you.

A colleague of mine always used to book a table for three but actually only for two. As quite often the table for two are a bit cramped or not in the best place.

Why would you need to fit four cocktails at once? Or does the 2-for-1 deal mean you have to have them lined up like a Bigg Market stag do?

This. How was the waitress supposed to know that the Op was going to order a mountain of drinks and food

@nationalsausagefund it's 2 for 1
I picked the two I wanted and she picked the two she wanted
So they bring 4 together
They make them at the same time -hence why they come out together
Same with tapas -you can't say I want one then the next
They come out together
So you end up trying to fit 9 things on a tiny table

@NameChanger91736 I think me telling her was the clue she needed that we were going to order tapas /cocktails
Nobody was asking her to be mystic Meg
The issue was her attitude after I asked her"politely " to move to a bigger table

This is a good observation.
Either that or they're just a typical AIBU twunt. Ya know the sort who stick the boot in for the shits and giggles.
Op, like countless others have said, it's impossible to say if you were rude because we weren't there.
I don't agree that your responses to some are an indicator of your attitude on the day.
Who knows.
It's not worth hanging on to though.

Sounds hellish, try the Connaught

At ABO the buy one get one free has to be tge same cocktail and you have to have them at the same time.
It does get a bit cluttered if you want food too or if there are a few of you

Nah, I often ask to move table if I don’t like where we’re sat and can see a better table available. 99% of the time it’s not a problem. If I’m paying for a service il try to get the best experience possible, I don’t want to be sat next to the toilet/in the basement or whatever and would rather leave and go somewhere else than pay to be sat in Siberia.

You wouldn’t be rude to ask, you may have been rude in your tone (no idea as i wasn’t there 😀)

we went to a loval place just before Christmas for food and drinks and the four seater table was tiny, dh had popped in a few hours before we were due to eat and asked to be moved to a booth. When we got there at the booked time the waitress had moved is to a booth. Dh gave her a large cash tip

we wouldn’t go back somewhere if we thought that the staff were rude, one place we’ve been to for breakfast we felt were a bit rude so weve not gone back for food

Local place…fat fingers

Think their told to use smaller tables when possible Incase they get larger groups in, she was rude to roll her eyes though.

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