Was I rude to the waitress?

[ohdingo]

So we booked a table at all bar one
We were going for the tapas and cocktails
Now it's a 2 for 1 cocktail deal so we're getting 4 (2 each )and also 5 of the taps to share.
We walk in and it's probably 1/4 full.
She shows us to our table and it's a tiny 2 person table .
I ask "do you have a bigger table just we plan on having tapas and cocktails and there won't be room on her to move "
She rolled her eyes and took us to a bigger table.
The rest of the night she didn't look at me and you could tell she was annoyed.
Was I rude to ask to move tables?

@NameChanger91736 🤣

Definitely.

why is this even a thread 🤣

What's the point of this thread?

You want opinions or just agreement?

Because I think you should have booked a table for 4 or ordered cocktails 2 at a time or had less plates on your table or...
"Hiya, we booked a table for two but could we have a slightly bigger table please?" As soon as you entered, not waiting until she lead you to a table for 2 LIKE THE ONE YOU BOOKED..

I don’t think you were rude because you explained why you wanted a bigger r
table. However, as always tone of voice you used and body language make a difference

I’m of the opinion the waitress is unlikely to have spent the rest of her shift even slightly occupied with thoughts of you and on that basis I don’t think you’re an entirely reliable narrator here. It sounds like you had a perfectly normal interaction and have chosen to make it into a drama and scrutinise it into something it wasn’t.

I hope you enjoyed the tapas and cocktails and haven’t let the whole thing be overshadowed by perceived slights.

How was the OP dramatic? She asked to move tables and explained why and was met with an eye roll.

The OP is also of belief that the waitress didn’t come anywhere near them again due to how annoyed she was….. it’s not likely is it?

But perhaps the table for 2 would've been big enough to accommodate them. She wouldn't have known until she was shown to the table.

Going out on a limb here but it sounds like @HospitalitySux has had a particularly crap time in work recently and has decided to throw all their frustration at OP. Except the OP doesn't actually embody all the people who have pissed off HospitalitySux and the ranting is misplaced. HospitalitySux you seem to be putting yourself in a position of educating the OP and putting her in her place. I worked in hospitality too for nearly 20 years. Do you know when I knew it was time for people to leave the industry? (myself included) It was when they took the frustrations home with them and acted exactly as you are doing on here. You claim to not be at work so why are you using your well deserved time off to deal with other people's customers? Walk away and maybe look at a career change- I don't mean that cheekily. Leaving hospitality was the very best decision I made and sound like it'd be good for you too.

@OP no you weren't rude and your request was reasonable. It's impossible for us to say what the issue was for the server as we don't know what else was happening in their day I suppose but no you weren't rude.

I think you should just move on.

Me and someone else on this thread want to know if you tipped?!

Na not rude, it is hard to fit everything on the little tables

What ranting are you on about?

I see it more as, HospitatlitySux has given an opinion and out of ALL the people who have posted, The OP keeps giving weird replies back to HospitatlitySux because for some reason, Hospitatlity has offended her more than other posters

To say OP has written a thread about a waitress rolling her eyes and then apparently avoiding her all night ( very unlikely the waitress was avoiding her over a table ) I think it's the OP with misplaced ranting

I don't think anyone would feel it was rude to enquire whether she could be moved, but no one here can know how she asked. As I said, her responses here make me wonder what her manner was like.

Op : Was I rude?
Mn : maybe
Op : NO I WASNT! END OF DISCUSSION

@HospitalitySux

so out of interest how do YOU think Op should have handled the situation? You obviously think she got it all wrong and was rude. So do tell, what should she have done?

MN: …..gets on with their day….
OP: omg, why does everyone treat me like this!

How is this a thread? It's a total non-event. Obviously it is rude to roll your eyes at someone. You know that.

You were shown to a table for two per your booking but asked for a bigger one and got one. Where is this worthy of dwelling on it hours later and starting a thread over it? Maybe she had a shit week. Maybe you didn't say please. Maybe you had an attitude - given your replies to those who haven't agreed with you you probably do and it seeped out of you. It's the 2nd Jan, are you going to spend the rest of your year like this?

@LuckySantangelo35

does @hospitalitysux think the OP was wrong and/or rude in her interactions or does she think that scrutiny of a fairly bland interaction doesn’t necessarily require a thread and just seems like an opportunity for everyone to have a pop at hospitality staff?

Fwiw I think @myhundredk had some wise advice for her.

I think you'd best come in off that limb before it snaps (and I don't mean that cheekily either btw but because it's not true)

I disagree with the OP, not on the eye rolling, but on the dramatics surrounding apparently not 'understanding' why she was allocated a table for 2, when that's what she booked and the waitress seemingly ignoring her and not interacting from that point onwards. That combined with her reactions to being disagreed with (admittedly in the same dramatic way) lead me to the conclusion that the OP posted this wanting some sympathy for being the victim and it hasn't quite gone that way, as I and other posters have disagreed with her.

It's not quite as deep as you're making out, it really isn't. OP seems to think that I should behave as if I'm working at all times, even posting on an anonymous forum, that I should never disagree with a customer even when not at work, and if I do I should get another job. It's that bit that's unreasonable, if you've worked in hospitality you'll know work you and down time you are two different people.

And to answer your question, I'm sat in my car, waiting for a relative that's having a medical procedure, so not much else doing really 🤣.

The OP asked if she was rude to the waitress, well I think she was, not with the request but with a lack of general manners. She's then gone on to be rude to me as well. I might have to put up with it in my job, it's all part of it, but I don't have to in real life, and that doesn't mean I need a new job, maybe people need to realise that people in service jobs just don't exist for that and have lives, thoughts and opinions outside of that without it impacting on their jobs?

I wonder if you might be overthinking this?
I would imagine that the lady gets asked this quite often so it probably wasn’t that unusual for her. It’s sad that you are still upset by it though? Sad times.

Is it the type of place where it is divided by sections and that by requesting a different table it meant that you were either out of tip zone or that they would make less tips because there was less people at that table? IYSWIM?

I don’t think the waitress was rude. What you thought was eyerolling was likely a quick 360 scan for a non reserved, free table you could be moved to. Just because a place is 1/4 full when you walk in, it doesn’t mean the 3/4s of empty tables are free. The waitress would have to quickly rejuggle the table status on the spot to accommodate you wanting a bigger table than you booked.

On a side note, with 2 for 1 cocktails you don’t have to have both of them brought together all at once and sit with one in each hand. You can drink one, the empty taken away and then be served your second one. The same with Tapas, most people eat it as a series of mini sharing courses. They don’t have all 5 brought at once.

This needs a diagram.

@GetyourheadoutoftheovenIris I think you raise a really good point with the sectioning as does @SummerFeverVenice with the mental calculations of free and booked tables.