Old money yummy mummy

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'you look like an old money yummy mummy'...Is this an insult or compliment? Said by my bestie so it was light-hearted but I wasn't sure whether to say thank you or laugh along 🤣 what does this expression mean?

Posh totty. Sloane ranger.

I'm not sure it was a compliment.

Were you wearing a Barbour jacket, a Joules Breton top and Hunter wellies?

I don't own any of these labels...😅 I think she was referring to a 'vibe' rather than my outfit. I'm guessing she was teasing me but I still don't get the joke.. perhaps too much prosecco??

Do you drive an old and muddy Volvo/Saab/Land Rover?

If she's your bestie why didn't you just ask her, in the same light hearted manner that she said it?

Don't have a car at the moment. So nope 😊

Well I could and probably will but I was interested to hear Mumsnet's take on it. I've never heard that expression before. 😊

It’s not usually a compliment, no.
If you are not wealthy then perhaps a joke about your traditional style? Either way it is in no way a compliment, and I would have asked her for clarification.

I'm not wealthy at all but I am fairly traditional I guess. It definitely wasn't about my outfit or money in general. My friend does have a funny way with words. She said it genuinely, as if she was giving a compliment, which is why I was confused. At the time I said thank you and laughed which seemed to be the correct response. If it was a joke it went right over my head

I would think that it was a compliment. She is saying you look classy - old money social media style is not Barbour jackets etc, it’s classic monochrome looks

I should add she is about 20 years older than me. If that makes a difference

I agree. There's worse folk to look like.

I would take it as a compliment. To me, it suggests that you look chic, elegant, and well groomed, but not a try hard.

Old money is a compliment - no one wants to look gauche rocking a new money / nouveau riche look.

yummy mummy - also a compliment. Attractive looking mother of young child.

Old money is NOT groomed just to be clear. Old money does need to appease..

Yummy Mummy is considered to be an attractive mother, but I have never heard it used as a compliment. It’s always said tongue in cheek. Old money suggests traditional English style, it can mean moth balled clothes with holes or pure sophistication. It’s a loose term in every sense of the word.

I don’t know why she didn’t give you a straight forward compliment. It sounds barbed to me. She must have picked up on your confusion, and should have explained at that point. Like anything the meaning for her is everything here, but if you felt uncomfortable that is enough to mention it to her, you will know then what she meant.

That's just her nature, I think. She often accidentally insults people when trying to compliment them 🤷 I am just trying to understand what the expression means to see where she was coming from. I've heard the two phrases used before, but never coined together.

I have a few friends that would probably fit this description, they’re hunting / shooting fishing types. Hair is always styled, face always made up, always dressed properly (as in, not necessarily looking posh but would be groomed, wouldn’t just rock up wearing shorts or jogging bottoms),

I wouldn’t say it was an insult.

I think it is a compliment, I would be happy to be totty, posh or otherwise!😁

I'd take it as a compliment.

Old money meaning chic, classy style and yummy mummy self explanatory.

Why would you think your best friend might be insulting you? Surely if she's your bestie it's a compliment.

I'd take that as a compliment. The opposite of the all grey velour house, lips over pumped mummy influencer , obsessed with hoover lines type.

It isn't really an expression per se
Yummy mummy was used to describe for example, the blonde woman in Motherland type; sahm with nanny/childminder, cleaner, house in a desirable area, drives a 4x4 (badly). All shiny hair, makes sure the children all the right hobbies/after school activities, play dates.
They beverxhavexa trail of sick over their shoulder, they never look frumpy, and they are fancied by every child's father. Other women hate them

It's a long standing joke that she mixes up insults and compliments. I was curious to hear MN opinions 🤷

If you weren't groomed you wouldn't be a yummy mummy. I would definitely take that as a compliment. Looking like old money is much better than looking like new money. BTW I look like neither due to having no money.

Compliment definitely. I know some women I would describe this way. Well turned out but not showy (think Zara Tindall).