Old money yummy mummy

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'you look like an old money yummy mummy'...Is this an insult or compliment? Said by my bestie so it was light-hearted but I wasn't sure whether to say thank you or laugh along 🤣 what does this expression mean?

When in doubt, take things as a compliment.

Eewwww Hunter! How ghastly.

That you had a relaxed/effortless air about you?

Are you a confident woman, well mannered, happy to not wear the latest fashion? Do you have a dog? Do you wear pearls?

You'd have liked it less if said you looked like a cheap slapper. Do you have a chocolate Labrador or wear an Alice band in your hair?

Even if it meant as a sly dig, completely take it as a complement.

I have a OM-YM friend, who is successful in her own right, she is an icon.

Alice band?
Big jacket that's a suitable for walking a pair of labradors?

I think you are right in thinking that she intended it as a compliment, but it came out completely wrong.

I know a few people who do that.
It's always hard to know how to take it, so I just smile and change the subject.

Chances are she has no idea what it means either.

What do you think it means (if all the guesses are wrong)

& Are you offended ?

Yeah I thought this as well - it's a compliment. 'Quiet luxury' and all that.

I’d take it as complimentary if it was said by a friend. You appear to be so wealthy you don’t care what others think, and are attractive despite being of a mothering vintage.

You’re well behind the times. Only those who aspire to be “old money yummy mummy” would wear any of that.
Its Le Chameau wellies (Hunters have been rubbish for decades now), Me+Em or equivalent and any Barbour would be 40+ years old wax one and basically all outdoor people knows gortex is better. 🤣🤣

I'd take "old money "to mean effortlessly stylish, to have something about you that even if you were wearing wellies and an old coat, you'd look classic but understated.
Yummy mummy = an attractive mother.
I'd think it was a compliment.

Amanda from Motherland type look? But a bit more twee? Posh whatever it is she means.

Yes, if the friend is on social media and not a hundred years old, it's a compliment. "Old money" is a good thing.

I would also take it as a compliment.

I’d also throw in Dubarry alongside Le Chameau. A bit more horsey perhaps but definitely up there. Hunter is just Chinese trash now.

Not offended at all.

For me the two are polar opposites. I would say that old money is effortlessly stylish, so no need for labels to showcase wealth - classy. Yummy mummy, sickly sweet, kinda try hard, over the top mum, who looks put together on the school run but probably cries at night because secretly they are overwhelmed... Horrible stereotypes I know but that's my association with the phrases.

What do I think she meant.. youve made zero effort to do your hair, put make up on. It looks like you've just chucked on the first thing you found in your wardrobe but it kinda works because it adds to the mum look in a nice way.

OP, just from these responses it is easy to see that the meaning depends on the recipient or the giver. Some think it is offensive, tongue-in-cheek, rude. Others think it is a compliment, very nice thing to say etc.

Why not just take it with the intention it was given? You know her, we don't. Was she being nice and complimentary? Or was she being a bitch? Why take offence if you know she didn't mean any offence?

On a side note, for me, i am beyond surprised that anyone would think calling someone a yummy mummy is tongue-in-cheek or offensive in any way. I only know it as a complimentary, positive thing.

It's been a learning day today. And it's only 8:42am.

I've already said I'm not offended. I am taking it as a compliment for exactly the reason you say, it was said lovingly. But I did put it to mumsnet be ause I found it quite amusing and also had no idea what she meant! What have I learned? That it means different things to everyone and prosecco makes people say strange things 😅

I'd be confused as the two terms
Mean the opposite to me

Old
Money is self
Explanatory

Yummy mummy is rather more novelist Roche

On a side note, for me, i am beyond surprised that anyone would think calling someone a yummy mummy is tongue-in-cheek or offensive in any way.

It's been a learning day today. And it's only 8:42am.

Same here. People really do find offence in anything. That would be the last thing I'd think if someone said that. Even if they clearly meant it offensively, it's an odd expression to use to offend so it wouldn't land the way they expect. What's so offensive or rude about being old money or yummy mummy? There are worse things to be.

OP, just take the joke for what she meant it to be (only you can tell or you ask her). Asking on Mumsnet will lead you down the "I'm so offended" route if you let them.

I've already said I'm not offended. And I am taking it as a compliment.... several times 😊

I’d take that as a compliment and not give it a second thought. I think your associations with “yummy mummy” are a you thing rather than the standard use of the phrase.

Old money = confident in your own skin (comes from in part the cushion of money, privilege and connections that protect you from life's worst when you have generational wealth)
Yummy mummy - well i think you know that - you are fancieable even though you are a mum!