What to do when ds is at nursery?

[nurserysahm]

Ds is going to be starting nursery in late January/early February. He will be doing around 5 hours a day, 2 days a week. The only issue is that it is too far away (I don’t drive and it’s 2 busses plus a short walk) to go home in between dropping him off and picking him up. We have been trying to find him a place for months with no luck (SEN/waiting lists/too expensive ect.) and this one seems like the right fit it’s just annoyingly out of the way.
It is not near anything but I can get a bus to 2 different towns which would take 10-15 minutes each way but with the walk and waiting for the busses it will be about 30-45 minutes each way leaving me with about 3 and a half - 4 hours to fill. There’s a leisure centre, a library and a few shops and cafes in both towns and a park in one of them. I can't afford to be spending loads of money every day though 🙈

I would study at the library.

This would be my suggestion too!

I'd still go home as can get loads done in 3 hours. Nothing worse than trying to pass time waiting all day.

Can you take driving lessons

If she can’t afford to be spending loads of money each day, where will she find the £25 to £45 an hour for driving lessons? And I could be wrong, but I’m pretty sure that they don’t hand out pre insured and taxed cars as prizes for passing your test.

OP, what’s the travelling time and the time you’d have at home if you did come back? An hour or two at home might still be worth it.

How much is a monthly pass to the leisure centre? It might well work out quite cheaply if you could use it to take your DC swimming at the weekends as well? Are there any shops or cafes that would be interested in taking you on to cover lunchtimes etc for those two days a week? Any charity shops you could volunteer at? Any events at the library (baby rhyme time etc) that you could volunteer to help with? Our local library has volunteers and I understand they paid for the necessary background checks. Could you start a couch to 5k thing while he’s there? Any courses you could enrol in that you could use this time in the library to study for?

How about going to a library? They have daily newspapers you can read for free. Or a gym? Yes there’ll be membership but if you use it everyday it’ll be worth it. Or look at an online course/degree with open university? X

I shouldvr read this before I posted - essentially all of this!

Why does he have to go to nursery.

I’d go to the library which will be free and go to the leisure centre for a swim. Which isn’t free, but usually isn’t too expensive. Bring a packed lunch to cut costs and just buy a coffee somewhere.

How long would you have at home if you did go back? I do think hanging around all day would get old really quickly. But then the bus fares might cost more than the entry to the leisure centre.

Why are you putting him into nursery at all?

I would sign up to a weekly class at the leisure centre. And if you have time you could also have a short swim/steam room if they have one.

I think this is a genuinely good question. I did enough with my kids in the week and never had to use my full 15 hours. If the op is after a break then this doesn’t sound like one.

Is it really worth sending him? It sounds like more hassle than it's worth. Can you not do activities at home with him yourself?

I think I'd go home tbh. I'd buy a day ticket for the bus.

What’s the benefit for you of him being in nursery if you can’t go home while he’s there?

I wouldn't bother. This doesn't sound like a break, and it isn't enough time to work 🤷🏼‍♀️

The Op didn't ask for opinions on why she's sending him to nursery. So either answer her OP or stop being an arsehole for the sake of it.

@Itchyclitoris

ODFOD

I asked the same question, it's reasonable enough. It's such an inconvenience for OP.

I imagine the fact she refers to SEN might just be a clue why she’s putting him in nursery. Or maybe she just wants to put him in nursery. Why shouldn’t she?

OP I’d probably still go home at least some of the time. Otherwise I’d maybe go to the library, or a park with a book once the weather is nicer.

It’s an option. There was no reason to assume the poster thinks that children shouldn’t be in a nursery. To jump to calling them a cunt is fucking ott.

I chose not to have mine in nursery much because they didn’t enjoy it. Plus I had the luxury of not having to send them. Funnily enough they all loved school.

I wasn't saying she shouldn't, just asking why as it's a massive inconvenience to OP. Hanging about for 5 hours twice a week plus a long journey before and after doesn't seem like it holds much benefit. To either of them tbh.

Yeah that sounds like too much hassle for me so I wouldn’t bother…but that’s just me. Sorry